Why narcissists put their FAMILY and FRIENDS before you

There are a lot of narcissistic people that put their family and friends before you. They want you to feel inadequate and beneath them. They want you to feel like you continuously have work to do and want you to be constantly changing yourself.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[nicolebeard]

My ex-husband certainly put his friends and family before me. He would go and hang out with his friends a lot. One time, he invited 3 friends over and didn’t tell me we had guests. This was Christmas Day 2019. I came home from being with family to my ex-husband and his friends in our apartment. When I would express that I want to spend time with him, he would say “We will have time”. So, he took me for granted. But, if I wanted to hang with my friends or family, it was a problem 🙄He didn’t think I would leave him.

[joeoreo]

The narc will put enablers over you. Ppl that agree or dont call them out on their BS are their favorite ppl. People like us that call them out n expect them to take accountability are the enemy.

[WorkingProgress]

I didn't want to be around his friends and family because in the past, they like to humiliate you in front of them. He's been smearing me for years.

[tewheke]

O man, this is exactly my situation! He never prioritised me and told me his family will always come first. He never made time for me, i was always last before everyone. It hurt me to my core, i had just had enough of being made to feel insignificant. He kept me away from them, making me feel i was not good enough. Thank you for covering this, it was so strange to me.

[sharongomes]

Been through that crap once and N.E.V.E.R. again. I say NO FORGET ABOUT IT now.

[pamela]

My narcissistic ex-husband put his three princess daughters on a pedestal and constantly rubbed my nose in the fact that i would NEVER be first in his life. He ignored me when they were around and turned our marriage into a competition for his attention and affection. When i addressed this, he ALWAYS played"dumb". I will NEVER allow a man to treat me this way again. It still makes me angry.
BTW, I love the pit of alligators analogy! Hilarious! I'm so grateful for you, Lee, because i couldn't have gotten through my crumbling marriage and divorce without the issues you address, your sincerity, encouragement and support.
Thank you much for sharing your knowledge, because I understand his thinking now and am healing more everyday. My life is a million times better without this toxic man. You are AWESOME, Lee!

[edvails]

I went to my grandfather's funeral on Christmas day alone because my ex wife didn't want to miss Christmas with her family. It hurt but I rationalized it even though it always seemed odd. Now I see it a bit differently.

[heidij]

And they will make it seem as if you are this insecure jealous person because they put them first. Twist it all around.

[OneWhoKnowz]

They sure do! It’s okay, and that’s why when you leave, you leave them with the same friends and family! They want you to feel like you aren’t good enough, and I was never a priority, and now neither is she! Make them so insignificant by healing that renders them useless And helpless!!

[thetrentmeister]

It’s like you had a hidden camera and mic in my marriage. 🎯 you were right on target, Lee. Thank very much. 🙌🏻

[patriciadooley]

Yep!!! Gets on the cell phone outside talking to a close friend foe AN HOUR!!! I'm checking out the door on him wishing he would talk to me like that. It's doesn't matter now.

[winnieamar]

Yes, this happened with me for more than a decade. It was hell. Never again with anyone. And the irony of it all is that the narc doesn't deserve you to begin with and yet you're the one chasing them and pining for their attention.

[laceytomlinson]

Oh how many times I heard him tell me his "best friend" a girl that was "like his sister" who he said never had any kind of relations with which turned out to be a lie. Was there before me and he will never stop talking to her for me. I have heard those phrases entirely too many times and it does hurt when all I asked was for boundaries to be set when he would sneak off and tell me he's going to his moms and really be going to her house.

[AnnPeterson-btdl]

I am so thankful for this information and language that you provide us. I been through years of he** dealings with my ex abusive behavior. My ex took advantage of the trust I had for him. I stayed to give my children what I lost as a child. Me staying in the relationship hurt my children more than help them. None of my children have a relationship with their father because I stayed too long & they saw the abuse. He allowed everything come before our family His pass trauma ruin our family as well. Make a Plan, Move on & don't look back.

[jackiecolbert]

Omg Lee that's exactly what happened to me and my ex husband. Everyone was before me. I was last place for 25yrs. I definitely don't miss that crap. I know now I was definitely married to a Narcissist. Alot of your videos describes my life. Divorced 2yrs ago because he asked for the divorce to be with his girlfriend. It was a blessing in disguise. Really painful and I'm still struggling but a blessing. Thank you Lee for teaching us 🙏🏾 ❤

[sandraleehurst]

I’m going to try that, Lee. I’m going to tell myself I’m worthy of compassion and love and empathy. I’ve been divorced almost a month after 31 yrs to a covert narcissist. I already feel myself healing but i know i have a long journey ahead of me. I’m also just regaining my health back after a decade so navigating life again seems difficult 😊

[JustLex]

Yes. I needed this video to confirm my suspicions about my soon to be ex husband.

Thanks for giving me the reason too.

[dianemallon]

Well done Lee. Respect for telling it how it is, you are helping so many people as a result of acceptance, hard work and nurturing your soul. Rare indeed

[alinageangu]

Knew a guy for about a year. We dated for a little while. He would specifically not talk to me or text me, the whole day, if he was with his family. He always made s point of how I had to earn that spot. I also don't text if I'm with loved ones, but a checkin throughout the day takes 5 seconds. He refused to do that. He always tried to get me to understand where "my place " is.

[tamiyahallen]

He did and said this to me. But he brought the new supply around the entire family. Thank you Lee for this validation 🙂