6 Reason Why Narcissists Choose their Family Over You

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CHAPTERS
00:00 introduction

01:00 Online workshop Announcement !

01:41 1.Members of the Narcissists family blindly enable their ego

03:39 2.They are loyal to these narcissistic family members

05:26 3.They are deeply enmeshed with each other

07:22 4.They fear exclusion as it is a cult

09:16 5.The narcissists loyalty lies not with the family itself

11:00 6. They're not loyal to anybody in reality

[narcabusecoach]

Book Your Seat: Workshop on Heal After Surviving a Narcissistic Parent

[WorthyIsTheLamb-rmpd]

His mother was the Queen Bee of the Narc Cult. I felt like I was in the middle of a pack of wolves. I regret the day that I ever met, and married him. It was a nightmare. They are pure evil. Thank God for revealing the truth to me, and delivering me from their evil.

[tamasitarod]

The mother of the narcissist I knew would lie for him. Even when he would get caught cheating. The whole family kept secrets for each other.

[rajeevkaul]

My wife created a lots of chaos in my family and Relatives but remained loyal to her family. It's TRUE

[YourBusinessWomanCoaching]

I’ve experienced all of this from my narcissistic soon to be X husband and his family. The main matriarch narcissist is the mother. I’m going through this right now. She came out and told me she is only concerned about her son and not me. As an empath that hurt but I didn’t let her know that. After 9 years of marriage I’m done with that family. 👍🏾

[JAZZLlFE]

Narcissists can despise their enabling family of origin while simultaneously being loyal to the enmeshment based on their learned need for supply at any cost.

[dyoung]

My ex & his entire narcissistic family are definitely a cult that enables each other no matter what. But at the same time, they seem to dislike each other🤷🏽‍♀️.

[laquandajones]

OMG 😲 This describes my narcissist mother in law and husband. I too have always felt like an outsider. Grateful to be getting a divorce soon...

[sallysanders]

This is my mom. She would never admit it, but she cares so much more about her parents, siblings, neices/nephews than her own kids. Staying in her family cult & maintaining her "reputation" amongst them will always be her top priority. She goes to them to complain about her kids & plays victim about being mistreated by us, when really she causes most of the problems.

[writer]

I didn't know what I was marrying into. My husband was already married to his mother (enmeshment) as she called the shots to our wedding. Year after year he chose her say over mine. And if I called him out on his behavior, he'd go running to his parents, where they all painted me as the bad guy. I left with our kids after 5 years, and his family danced on his misery, telling him to divorce me so they could look and feel better than him. After seeing his family's true colors, my husband repented, begged for us back, and now he just silently mopes at home because he has no one to go running as a "victim" to anymore. And he refuses therapy because he doesn't want to believe that he and his family aren't prefect. They're all still narcissistic, and I'm indifferent now.

[mariano]

This belonging to the "inner circle" is what has allways bothered me. Why am I allways excluded? As I haven't allways been aware how the world works I have been in a very dark place and have thaught that there is something wrong with me. But no. Now I've come to realize there is actually something wrong with the people in the "inner circle" of a group.

[herbvoigt]

This is an real explanation of family works together to destroy or manipulate other for their goal. Learn all about this and paying for, it

[Mike_Cosentino]

Actually, most of the narcissists I’m thinking of didn’t respect their family or parents at all and/or they had a rough upbringing and that’s what made them narcissistic. They acquire this mentality like “if they do me wrong, I’ll just give them a dose of their own medicine”, like they fight fire with fire instead of water. Silence speaks much louder than words sometimes. Nothing feels more liberating than blocking, deleting, remove any/all flying monkeys, and moving on- without them.

[simnikiwempongo]

Oh all of them are real and so true, I kept on wondering why would these people slander and critisize each other but they had their backs still sticking together, what a twisted world😢

[DrRagu-is]

As a narcissist myself, i would like to add a seventh (and a very important) reason: the narcissist wants his family's wealth, or atleast a share of it.

[CristinaChis-ff]

My ex malignant narcissist would always spend time with his family, more than with me and our children. I got used with being alone from early morning till late evening. I told him he was busier than a doctor even tho he did not have a job.
He would always come to me and gossip about his family and friends and I would not care, after being so tired from the kids.
He chose his family and I chose my girls ❤
I'm very happy with my choice!
Thank you, Danish 😊❤❤❤

[tejasangre]

Totally relate to this. Their family are their flying money's and they will support them no matter what. Even when the narcissist is doing wrong they will not correct them but they will support their delusions

[warriormom]

THESE ARE MY IN-LAWS!!! 19 INSANE, TORMENTOUS YEARS!! ON MY WAY OUT!! 😫😩

[snn]

My idiot ex created tons of chaos for me with my own family and my own family has ostracized me.
Major hell, anxiety, isolation, rumination.

[tinyvr]

They will say things to you that astonish you and boggle the mind but it reveals exactly what they are about.
After years of abuse and getting out successfully...
Mother in law bitterly says to me, " He supported you!!!! "
😮
In other words, how dare you be happy and independent.
.
Problem is
I worked, he left, was abusive and was still being supported by HER
😢
They only see what they want to see.
Guilt tripping is a constant even to the point of using blatant lies to rationalize their own abuse to you.

You are right, you will always be the outsider to people like this.
They do not like competition.

🙏