ADHD and Attachment Trauma | 5 Tips to Address Rejection Sensitivity

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DocSnipes
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Thanks for this video. I'm an adult with adhd and I was raised by adhd deniers. This made me sob with grief because although I am successful in my career I have spent my life in isolation because of ADHD and rejection sensitivity. The anger I have at society measures on the Richter scale. I wish more people understood ADHD and could explain it like this. I couldn't find help or understanding with treatment providers in my conservative state where ADHD is not even diagnosed. I was continually dismissed and over medicated. It's so rare to see anyone who actually understands this condition. And most people don't even care. If you care about your child, listen to voices like this.

Hollyfilly
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I see how caregivers stomp on children's boundaries by sharing their own negative emotions when the child feels bad, wanting someone to commiserate and suffer with them, or even have the empathic child fix their emotions for THEM. This is the reverse parenting that children DO NOT want to do but are forced to do. This is why and how my own needs were never met. No one would validate what I had going on inside and would steal that validation to shine on their own feelings of victimization. My mother did this all the time!

CynthiaSchoenbauer
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This changed my life.
You described me to a T. I'm 62 and I'm speechless.

tinydanceryoutube
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Every single time you post a video I feel like you put whats in my head into the right words. Thank you so so much for everything you do 🤍

dreambabyxoxo
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This explains a lot about social anxiety to those who are not diagnosed with ADHD. All the information here. Doc Snipes is amazing help, this explains a lot of mysterious and unknown issues which are really frustrating and appear catastrophic - now it all suddenly makes sense.
I feel a lot calmer now when I hear all this information regarding experiences with my own social anxiety issues - especially of the effect of "corrective measures". I do not feel any more defensive or shameful or antagonistic anymore.

"ADHD may experience a lot of rejection where people are telling them to be quiet, to mind their manners, to sit still. So they constantly getting corrective feedback and rejection and feeling what they say is not important, people won't spend time with them"
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"When caretaker is validating how child is feeling and what's going on with the child ('you feel oy tired) this teaches the child about other awareness. Acknowledge feelings of others without correcting them"

ranc
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This stuff is fantastic! I was diagnosed with ADD when I was 22. No one ever told me anything like this. As adults we can do these things for others and yet still don't know how to do these things for ourselves. NOTHING is more depressing than having everyone else around you thrive and not one person cares for you or even thanks you, not even yourself. This is the plight of the unaware empath!

CynthiaSchoenbauer
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Thank you Dr. Snipes, so many of your videos apply to my inner child. I wish you were my counselor but this is sort of like counseling and knowledge I need to hear. Also you remind me about DBT I would like to apply more. I had undiagnosed inattentive ADHD since a young child. I'm now 35, was only diagnosed a couple years ago. Thanks again I need to take notes because I listen but don't retain. Every word you're saying resonates in my heart ❤️ it's how I am or was.

sparklingloveandlight
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An isolated incident happened at work yesterday where I asked a co-worker of mine if he'd ever consider hanging out with me outside of work. I was never given a response, and because of that, my mind went to the assumption that he had just rejected me all together, or doesn't even care about me on that level. I've been trying my best to separate facts from feelings in regards to what actually happened, but despite my best attempts, I ended up going to work today feeling distraught and angry. It wasn't until I talked the situation out with a different co-worker that I started to feel somewhat better, but in knowing what I know now thanks to this video, I can finally rest easy in realizing that I am not the problem. 💝

amyli
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Secure attachment would have been nice! It sounds so dreamy.

launacasey
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Never seen my dad get down on floor to play with me. I would climb all over him and he wouldn't hug me or even squeeze my hand when I held his. Never received a hug from either parent. Never said I love you too me either. Didn't hold or touch me unless they were cutting my toenails. It hurt to have that done.

jdrichardson
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Thanks again! I‘ll rewatch right now as I missed some parts. Hope everyone watching/reading has a lovely weekend 🌸

juliettemathier
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Living with the fear that you missed some crucial bit of information and are about to be exposed and embarrassed for it. Was a constant fear of mine as a child.

JM-bgts
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Its still wild to me how all of you give this information and explain it in ways in which one would believe that you all are nuerodivergent as well. I appreciate it deeply from the heart. Ive learned and seen myself through these in multiple ways.

Prince_Yonte
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So I'm a little late to the party on comment but I just found this video. Doc Snipes you HAVE to do this same thing for Autistic people. It's disgusting how ABA (conversion therapy for autistic kids) is still used when we could be doing education like this. Practically the entire autistic community is traumatized by parents (knowingly or unknowlingly) trying to force us to be neurotypical. Videos like this are a huge help for trauma and preventing future abuse.

Sarah-cqdl
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Just wanting to say thank you Doc Snipes, these videos really speak to me in that I'm pretty sure I'm afflicted with just about everything you talk about. My confidence in achieving my goals is growing despite brutal setbacks I'm still encountering. It's uplifting to see you posting more videos, and they are all really good, it makes it harder for me to give up. God bless, appreciate you 🙏

josephtorres
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I enjoy your videos. I have 23 saved on my watchlist I’ve been watching. I appreciate them❤

MicLilly
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I found out at 44 I had this condition. I was never safe, never attached, always rejected, and had a lot of embarrassment and criticism. I couldn't do simple arithmetic, but later in high school, loved Algebra. So, for the parents out there who is freaking out about the lights being on some days and not others, I just want to say, that athematic is the issue not Math. I am also, time blind, but now I have Alexa, and I changed the voice and write in messages as reminders like "it's time to get off of that computer, go get dressed, and ready for the appointment" at least an hour and half before the appointment, and then I have another reminder tell me, I got 45 mintues to go, and another, tell me to leave the house a half hour before the appointment if it is near by me. That's how hard it was, yet, I worked in offices, and never advanced much due to me not knowing I had it. I was not low in IQ, but high in ideas, and low in executive function.

CiaoFooTanksAllTheFish
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My mom said when I was left alone I would cry until picked up, when she would leave my room I would 😭 . My father was highly critical and still is, I'm no contact now. My parents are both narcissistic. My mom said "you had a good childhood. I took u to the store and helped u with homework" I don't remember this but I meant the attunement wasn't there. I don't remember my parents doing anything with me and with positive praise or direction.

sparklingloveandlight
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I love and value all of the information you share with us. Your time and effort are greatly appreciated.

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