Why Compatibility in a Relationship is Not About Sameness

Why Compatibility in a Relationship is Not About Sameness. Most people think "sameness" in a relationship is good because that means you're automatically compatible with your partner. But that is not always the case! Watch this video to find out more.

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[jelenaristic]

Many times in my life I was asking myself: Oh why can't I find a person that is like me - empathetic, people pleaser, "nice person" who does everything for others and would put me before him, someone who will care about my feelings and tell me pretty things, maybe lie a bit so I can feel better about myself. And you know what I got? A man that is brutally honest, often says: I love myself so much, I look so good, who knows he's good looking, prioritising himself, social butterfly, loved by everyone. And I got it. I got that the incompatibility I thought existed is actually exactly what I needed. I'm learning so much from him and he's my greatest teacher, after Teal Swan. He helped me to define my boundaries, express myself better, be honest, exit the victim mode and love myself more. 😄🥰

[cameronmcfarrin]

I'm an outspoken, explicit, opinionated and talkative person. I went out with a woman who was also very talkative and she talked for 3 hours straight on the date! Even though we were similar, I knew we were not compatible. That was the worst date I ever went on.

[LEVIAHAN]

For me, compatible emotional intelligence is VERY important.

[jesse_campbell]

Same values, same goals, different personalities, different emotional needs (but good at meeting each other's needs) is a recipe for compatibility I encountered a few years ago.

[cchangandco]

1000%! My girlfriends and I are type-A entrepreneurial visionary types. We all have husbands that are grounded and patient - opposite of us, because it is compatible! I’ve dated people who are too much like me and it was not compatible for day to day life. It may sound unromantic, but when choosing a life partner, there are functional compatibility things that must be considered. Just as you may love some of your friends but would NEVER travel with them, when choosing for long term, you must consider who you want to spend everyday life with. The traits may be different from someone you would have a fling with. 🙂

[Mr.CreamCheese]

imo the most fascinating relationships come from 2 people being entirely different, but are both totally open, and both find each others view points deeply fascinating.

[BlackPearlMona]

"it is the transactional element in the relationship that provides the gravitational force in the relationship and it gives a reason why two people needs to be in each other's life"
Teal Swan

[BlackPearlMona]

If you don't recognize how sameness can lead to incompatibility, then you might end up in a relationship where you have nothing to give to the other person and he have nothing to give to you... Well said Teal Swan❤️💕...

[itskelvinkkc]

Awesome! Completely agree! Sometimes being the SAME is the worst!

[corporaterobotslave]

Going through exactly this while trying to find the right musicians to fit my new band. So far I found a bassist who is committed to play my songs, and a drum machine I can order around (lol). I was working with a friend guitarist but his musical influences and mine were galaxies apart; we tried to make it work, but failed miserably. With some musicians you feel the "click" immediately, while others never even come close to "getting it". Peace.

[FrancisTrach]

Often times I've found life will bring us people that usually do NOT have the same preferences as us on the external level, to challenge our capacity to unconditionally love the other even though we both have different preferences. Of course this isn't always the case, but a lot of the times it is, and I find that there are a lot lessons to be learned to increase our capacity to hold the frequency of unconditional love when someone like this comes into our life. Great video Teal ! Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to post videos every single day . Much Love 🙏

[metavinci]

It’s sort of the opposite of sameness. I see my wife and I as puzzle pieces. What is similar is our general treatment of humanity and nature is rooted in respect that manifests as Kindness and generosity (time not money), Those two things are the cornerstone of any relationships growth.

[beautyonabarnbudget]

You also have to remember that you don't stay the same throughout your lifetime. Someone who loves to clean but hates to cook, can start cooking and luv it! This is just an example. Obviously if your partner grew to love ❤ cooking it's probably not going to break up the relationship. But, someone who was content to stay home with the kiddos and then became career driven again-that might cause issues. Or someone who was nice and then became an asshole-yeah that's gonna be a problem lol

[beccabean]

I found that in trying to have a conversation on how we are compatible vs incompatible solidified how we are not compatible. It only lead to anger and his misinterpretation on what I was trying to say. This conversation really needs to happen before you move in together, before you have a child and before you run a business together, cuz now its a hella harder ...

[JSMI]

Funny, I read an article today on how opposites don't attract anymore but this video confirms to me that it aint all black or white. Compatibility is not the same nor is opposites, I believe it's the combination of both similarities and differences.

[Helen-jwyb]

You've beautifully put into words a concept I was trying to explain ti myself about my ex...he offered to cook, make gifts look pretty etc but I am capable of doing those things myself, what i needed was a Handyman type who coyld do the DIY I wasn't good at! Ironically my new partner couldn't cook etc...so I taught him, which did make me feel a little vulnerable in a way...oh & he cant do DIY either....msybe We're doomed!!😂 Thanks Teal as ever & love from England 😊

[cm-yugu]

Ooh what a great topic
I feel like I could listen to 3 more hours about incompatibility and compatibility and sameness

[MarigoldSundays]

There can be unhealthy compatibility, too.
If you like to intimidate, you’re compatible with those easily intimidated.
If you like to shame, you’re compatible with people who have an overactive conscience, etc…

[adeviyat]

Thank you again Teal for this strong and important issue..totally agree on the symbiotic aspect..I took your advice on simplyfying life in 2022, it really slowed me down....feeling so much better in lowering my demands..and now this too..accepting not being the same as my husband and yet having this stability our differences give on all levels...you are one of the greatest teachers in all of your topics...many thanks from Belgium 🙏🙏❤❤❤

[LBI-oedj]

This sameness relationships are really good for growth tho. Excelent for teacher - student relationships, for learning. Its like working together shoulder to shoulder rather than face to face(like in a compatible one). Just like 2 magnets.
Meeting someone like you, who makes arguments like you make will cause conflict and growth but 2 people like this cant live together. Also compatibilty is really good but it can cause so much validation that it can even lead to stagnation ... i think both kinds of relationships are important