WOMEN want it ALL: study reveals what women want

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Today I'm going to be talking about one of my all-time favorite pieces of psychological research, an article entitled "Attractive women want it all" (see link below). When presented with an extensive list of potential partner attributes, women ranked as most attractive by a panel of men expressed an interest in every attribute on the list. They literally wanted every single thing. However, they apparently didn't want every single thing equally. I'll discuss the upshot of this research with respect to male dating strategy.

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[antoniotorcoli]

When I finally left my wife after almost 5 years of absolute nightmare, she started chasing me and said: " so you were not weak, you were just kind since you had the balls to leave me". I always had balls but she did 'nt notice them. Because I was kind . I am still kind, but only with people who deserve it.

[dificulttocure]

The problem is not what they want, the problem is how little they offer in return.

[twofargne]

I've been married 3 times, so I can tell you what they want. 1. The ability to lead the relationship when THEY want. 2. A good provider, must be able to support their lifestyle. 3. Someone who has a good sense of humor, but not toward them because they take everything personally.

[tbdog]

As my 96 year old mother told me...women today want too much, and they are not willing to do the work or make any sacrifices to deserve what they want.

[rgmrtn]

Re: Kindness. Possible attractive people undervalue kindness because they are regularly treated well?

[joshuacadavez]

Dang, women cared the least about intelligent, loyal, and kind / understanding.

That's a mind-warp.

[MinimalWave]

I was a popular Dj in Berlin, I enjoyed great reputation within our scene, there were always many offers from women. Those were my best times as a man. Then I met this woman who wanted me to give up my life in Berlin and move out to New Zealand with her to start a family. Later we had a child. When I then only became a average man who only works for his family and came home in the evening shatterd from work and had gained an additional 10 kilos, she no longer found me attractive and left me for another man.

[ctfireinsky]

You should always ask yourself these questions regarding any woman you're involved with.
Does she want me or does she just want a relationship with someone?
Does she want to have sex with me or just want a sexual relationship?

Does she want a wedding or does she want to be MY WIFE?

[naseeraashraf]

It's really crazy that nobody talks about forbidden books on Revandles

[vdl]

The things that I value the most in myself are the things they value the least in me. Quite depressing.

[allenlin]

What shocks me the most is how honest these women responded. I always knew this being the truth but never heard a woman openly admitting to it.

[andrewcliffe]

This generation of women have been told from birth that they can have it all. They have never been told that everything comes at a price. This works while they are young and attractive.

[robertfindley]

Kindness, loyalty and intelligence are the cornerstones of the blue pill. Hypocrisy, thy name is woman. The most important thing is that she receives the envy of her female friends and adversaries. For that you must be tall, have a handsome masculine face, and be of high status. High status can be in the business world, sports world, social world, etc. The more other men look up to you (or fear you) and the more women want you, the more you will score high on her hypergamy scale. Her goal is to win the competition for the "best" guy as judged by her peers.

[dr.borisbalinkoff]

I spent 20 years married and got divorced. I really don't give a shit what any woman wants anymore. My house, car, money, investments, time and freedom are mine.

[Graymenn]

Intelligence and loyalty are two of the most important qualities in a person, in pretty much any capacity.

[integrer]

I have been married 3 times, so I think I can speak about what women (at least these) wanted. Each one wanted me to put everything I had in jeopardy for them, and thus allow them access that I could not control. Now I'm not saying I wanted to control them, I just wouldn't give them the access to control me, in other words, I didn't ignore our joint bank acct that the first wife ran the books on, I had a prenuptial with the second that I wouldn't tear up, the third, I wouldn't sell a house I had lived in for 25 years and owned outright to follow her to a job in a different state and live in an apartment, they all wanted to make me vulnerable to them, and I refused. They still tried to change that, some for a couple years one 10 years, but in the end when they knew I wouldn't give it up, they left. Lucky me actually.

[solice]

I want everything in life too. The difference between myself and women is that I’m willing to work for it and earn it without entitlement.

[kevinwall]

I think I can speak on behalf of most men when I say..."Quelle suprise!"
I remember joining the police as as a young cop and being partnered with a wisened, battered old cop who was near retirement.
I will ALWAYS remember what he said about women: "Snakes with tits." I laughed about it at the time, but 30+ years later I realise this man had simply lived and observed...

[CarrinaCarrillo]

A man loves a woman. A woman loves what a man can do for her.

[reedschrichte]

This was superbly described in the book "Out of Africa" (written by a woman) about the male-female dynamics in Somalia. The men wanted one thing: a woman. And the women wanted one thing: everything.