The part that WOMEN always LEAVE OUT: why this messes with men's heads

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The part that women always leave out refers to the responses of women to the question: "what are you looking for in a man?" These responses are typically a litany of positive character attributes: someone kind, someone loyal, someone family-oriented. However, women always leave out a very important part to their responses, and it's this omission that can really mess with men's heads. I'll explain what I mean in this episode.

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[barneyboy]

If she is attracted to you, you won't have to do anything. If she isn't attracted to you, there is nothing you can do.

[joebidet]

Don't listen to what women say
Watch what they do

[sanekabc]

That is a great point. "Women want these qualities but from men they are already attracted to."

[lewis]

So true Doc, an ex of mine had a baby with a guy about 10yrs ago, her business. I was living on the other side of the country. Last year I was visiting and she mentioned we should get married. I told her I am not going to marry you bc the guy your really want is the baby daddy(the guy left her pregnant to raise the child and was in jail, during an 8yr stretch, they were back and forth), he just wasn't doing the things she wanted him to do.
I told her, I am just the guy you feel safe with and can provide financial support. She didn't like that, but I didn't say it to put her down, I said it to be honest and stop her from thinking I am ever going to reconsider.

[MbogaTatu]

In other words, attraction is like a pre-employment drug test. Once you fail it, it doesn’t matter how good your resume is; you’re out.

[mikesecor]

been married 48 years. About 10 years ago, she said, well, I guess we're stuck with each other. lol.
This was out of the blue. Never assume your woman, or wife, is not thinking about other men, even if you're older.
Never assume if you are a good father, have a stable life, home etc., that she is not thinking something that
may shock you. It never ends.😯
However, I told her, if she wants to leave, there's the door. Even after 48 years.

[andrewcutler]

A few years back I was on one of those dating apps where they asked me a whole raft of questions about myself & what I was looking for. Then, over the course of a year, they sent my profile to those ladies who's answers to the same question seemed to suggest that we have the potential to be a "match". The front page to each profile was a picture, your location and age. Now I'm not Hollywood leading man material, but I do keep myself neat and presentable at all times. I probably received 100 "matches" over my year, and I took the time to open & read the lion's share of them (Not gonna lie; I'm a male, and visual stimulation IS a "thing" with males, so if you don't look like you give a darn about your health/appearance, well ...). And just how many of these ladies took the time to at least open/read mine? Less than five. So, ladies, DON'T try to sell me the "we only care about character" line.

[ruckin]

If she has TRUE DESIRE for you, the relationship will be VERY easy. I wish I had learned that when I was in high school. Makes mate selection infinitely easier

[USSResolute]

Women want attractive men to be better men. Most quality men lack physical/financial attributes that make them attractive to women.
I had a female friend 10 years ago who told me once "I wish I could find a guy like you." I told her it was the most offensive thing a woman ever told me because I was like me but she would never date me. I told her "What you really want is the men that you date to be like me, but they don't have to because you will date them without those facets." She was upset, but she knew I was correct.

[ThisTall]

Ask any woman over 25 what she wants in a man, and she’ll describe a man she’s turned down for 10 years. And leave out how money brings the odds of any man to 90+%.
Ask her what she hates about men and she’ll describe the only kind of guy she’s been attracted to without money.

[nickmichelioudakis]

Excellent! This clip reminded me of the following joke: 'One of the things women claim is most important in a man is a sense of humour. In my years as a comedian, I've learned that they're usually referring to the humour of guys like Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise and Russell Crowe. Apparently those guys are hilarious!' [Comedian Jimi McFarland] 😆😆

[robertjohnston]

The guy a woman is attracted to is directly related to her relationship with her Father
Don’t chase them. Enjoy your life. Be independent, and dont ever rescue a woman from her circumstances.
Don’t ever marry a narcissist
I learned all this the hard way.

..and if you think being single is lonely, try a bad marriage😒
There are a lot of gold diggers out there.

[CarrinaCarrillo]

If a woman is not attracted to you, don't waste your time on her.
Indeed, oddly enough, ignoring her and going your own way is the
only chance you have with her.

[ldrake]

“Don't try to understand women, women understand women and they hate each other." – Al Bundy

[supermonkey]

This is absolute truth. Take it from me. I'm not swimming in women, but within the last year, I have received attention from far more women than I ever did in 41 years previously (I'm 42). I've always been told that I am very kind, sweet, considerate, and generally wonderful by women who just wanted to be my friend or by the few ex-girlfriends I've had when they broke up with me. Women absolutely loved me, but always platonically. The biggest change I've made in the last year is that I have been going to the gym. I'm in the best shape of my life now (which isn't saying much, really, as I have literally never before been in good shape), and have a long way to go to be anything near "jacked." And yet, just being in decently good shape has made a world of difference. As I get into better and better shape, I attract the attention of increasingly attractive women, . It's pretty straight forward. Get more attractive, and you can attract more attractive women. I should include that one other change I made is that I dress a bit better. Being in better shape makes pretty much all clothes look better on you, but it also lets you wear some things that just wouldn't look good at all on an out-of-shape body type. I don't know shit about fashion, but I usually send a photo to one of my female friends to ask if I should buy a shirt or jacket or something before I buy it. Very useful feedback. I'm also bald and 42, so those are big negatives against me that I can't do a whole lot about, but even with that, 3 of the 5 women I've gone out with in the past year were between 28 and 30 years old (the other two were 35 and 38), and all of them were in good shape and ranged from very cute to hot. I was also the one who ended up rejecting them, which was a position I've only ever been in a few times before, having usually been the one rejected. So the moral of this long story is this. GO TO THE GYM! And you should also probably dress better. You WILL see results if you put in the work. And one more thing; how much money I make never even came up with any of them. They cared more about me than what I made... because they were attracted to me. It really is the most important thing. Women aren't that different from men in that way.

[thereisnosanctuary]

The Issue is not trying to be attractive to a woman that is NOT attracted to you. It's keeping it when she has decided she is NO LONGER attracted to you. But, that is also a fool's game. She withheld her desire to escape until she could monkeybranch. And he isn't necessarily better, though she will allow you to think that the rest of your days. He is Fresher. Brand New. A movie she hasn't seen yet. Eventually, she may regret her swing. Realize the previous branch has grown bigger and stronger. And we too often allow them to swing back.
Not anymore. No more swingbacks. And if you hit the ground, single, maybe friendless and homeless...welcome to a man's life. Now you must climb the whole tree again.

[jimbo]

The best way I've heard it explained is this. When women give dating advice, they are giving you advice on how to make a woman who already finds you attractive see you as a viable long-term partner. They answer like this because picking your favorite from a group of men who are already attracted to you and then trying to get him to commit is what dating is for women.

[prschuster]

I'll make it simpler. Be the best person you want to be, and if a woman doesn't find you attractive, forget about her and move on, because she isn't your type anyway.

[NotaNazgul]

I fully agree and learned this the hard way.

Another thing. Understand that thing about the life goal. Make yourself busy in growth, in living, in seizeing the moment. Provide positive psychology to yourself. Appreciate failures as new input. Many "unattractive" men are needy for validation by others, they never learned to be their own source. That drives most partners away because it easily leads to a toxic relationship.

Enjoy growing, lads! Enjoy each step, each day. You've got this!

[arthurdirindinjr]

As it has been stated by other content creators, and absolutely correctly I might add, you CAN NOT negotiate attractiveness
She either finds you to be F-ABLE or not
And
She made that decision within the first seconds she saw you before you ever spoke a single word to her