Why MEN like YOUNGER WOMEN: the reason that's so obvious it needs to be said

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Much has been said of late on men's attraction to younger women, and much of this has been said before. Men are visual creatures; men are expressing a preference; men are using beauty as a signal for fertility, etc. You already know these reasons, so this episode does not discuss them. This episode discusses another reason men are attracted to younger women: a reason so obvious that it almost never gets talked about (though it's staring us all in the face).

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[GrandPines]

Bob, a 65-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful 25-year-old blonde: she proceeds to knock everyone's socks off with her youthful appeal and charm. She also hangs on Bob's arm and listens intently to his every word.

His buddies at the club are all aghast.

They corner him and ask. "Bob, how'd you get the trophy girlfriend?"

Bob replies. "Girlfriend? She's my wife!"

They're knocked over, but continue to ask.

"So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?"

Bob says: "I lied about my age."

His friends respond:

"What, did you tell her you were only 50?"

Bob smiles and says:

"No, I told her I was 90." 😅

[MsPleasantries]

"Seeing what people go after when they have the most options is our truest glimpse into what they really want" wow! I really like this saying!

[keithkollenbaum]

I enjoy dating younger women because they are generally happier. Older women have lower self-esteem. Most guys don’t care about a few wrinkles or gray hair. My advice to older women is forget the Botox. Concentrate on the beauty inside.

[idlehourlinda]

I've decided I'm not old; I'm 25 plus shipping and handing. 😁

[queenswords]

I have never been attracted older men, physically. My ex husband was younger than me. and now that I am fifty, I am dating a much younger man. We have an strong chemistry. Women can be visual creatures too :)

[motmotorg]

My father is 16 years older than my mother. He always joked that he wanted her to take care of him in his old age. Sadly my mother passed away a year ago and left my dad devastated. They were incredibly happy. Don't listen to all the feminists criticizing older guys dating younger women, do what makes YOU happy.

[hikari]

I notice that when we talk about this topic, a lot of people just have the vision of the 21 year old girl dating a 50-60 year old man which are not the most common age gaps. When we talk about men going for younger women and women being attracted by older men, the most common scenario are women in their 20's going for men in their 30's and early 40's. And yes this tendency happens from the earliest days. Girls in school are usually more attracted by boys a grade or two higher, it's very rare that a married woman is the exact same age or older than her husbands, usually the man is at least a few years older. Plus, most women openly admit not dating men younger than them even for just a year of difference.

[BC-wjfx]

Then I've been a trend-breaker. The most unattractive thing for me is emotional & cognitive immaturity. So most of the women I liked were older. To me if she's older and in good shape, that trumps being young and unhealthy.

[justinthebeau]

As a 32 year old man that has dated both sides of the spectrum older/younger women and I prefer to be with an older woman and ill explain why. BTW I'm part Irish and it will become clear later in the story why I'm saying this and this story is quite long I appreciate the time for those that read jt.
1) Alot more mature
2) alot more respectful easy going
3) they know what they want and they know how to properly communicate.
4) they aren't after my resources and I'm not after hers.
5) The bedroom action is alot better with older women .Younger women never really satisfied me sexually and it was mostly just boring. Older Women actually like sex and they are more open minded about trying new things.

Here's a my story I was 20 years old I had broken up with my 3rd gf because I caught her cheating with her dead beat ex bf. Then about a few months later I went out to a restaurant my date didn't show up so I went by myself and I saw this real attractive and beautiful woman who latter became mybwife sitting by herself so I decided to talk to her and she said she had a date however he never showed up and then I said mine stood me up to and she asked me to join her and I obliged we started talking and then after we ordered our food she asked me how old I was and I told her to guess and she said I was at least in my early mid 30's and then I told her I was 20 she was kind of surprised at first because she said I looked older than that. Then I guessed that she was in her mid late 20's and she said no I'm 37 years old. I was a little surprised myself because she didn't look a day over 30 tbh based on 1st impressions. Anyways we continued our dinner and talked some more she said she worked for a company made good money etc and I make pretty good money myself at 20 working on my journeyman anyways we stayed in touch for several years after that she considered us to be a long term FWB and we would go out for dinner dates etc she always insisted on paying for everything I didn't object to this however as a traditional man I told her I want to pay for dates dinner etc not just her every time and she finally relented which im surprised she did after so long of always insisting on paying for everything and told me ok you plan the next date for us. On my 23rd birthday I planned a special date for her So the 1st destination was the Salon to have her hair and nails done 2nd I took her shopping bought her clothes shoes etc. Then I bought her a Claddagh ring at a jewelry store and she really adored and appreciated the rings beauty and I told her she wears the finger on her right hand with the heart pointing towards her to indicate she is in a relationship or with heart pointing towards her fingers to symbolize that we are just friends she put it on with the heart pointing towards her. Then we went and ate lunch then I took her to the art museum and then I took her out to dinner at a fancy restaurant and then we finished the night off by going out to the club and we danced a little bit. Then after we went back hoke she said it was the best date a man ever took her on and she said she wanted to properly thank me for it then i told her i had fallen in love with her and she got teary eyed when i said it and hugged and kissed me and said shenhas fallen for me to long story short she said tonight i wont have to wear a condom and that night I ended up getting her pregnant and 2 months later when she told me the news I was so happy and her parents already really liked then when we announced the pregnancy her family was really excited and happy for us and at the dinner I planned i got on my knees and asked her to marry me she started crying and screaming yes then I put the ring on her right finger to symbolize we were getting married everyone in the crowd was cheering. Now I'm 32 years old and my wife is 49nwe have a 9 year old son still together to this day and we are intimate at least once a day sometimes 2x.

If you thought the story is over I still have more to add over the years we've been together both me and wife have been subjected to negative stereotypes because of our age gap. Most common stereotypes against me are
1) he is just using her for her money which is completely false
2) That's probably his "Mother" like an adult mommy and that 1 particular infuriates both of us wife actually punched a woman in the face for saying it.
3) YOU can't find anyone your own age. I say I. Happy and she's happy it's none of your damn business.
The most common stereotypes my wife gets are
1) She is old enough to be my mother when the word mother is uttered in regards to our relationship both me and her get real upset and angry.
2) She needs to find someone her own age.
Now sometimes my wife gets called a cougar and she said damn straight I am she is proud to admit she is then she says your just jealous cause this fine man respects me treats me good and satisfies me while your single alone and miserable.
Conclusion to my story is yes men do like younger women however certain men like me prefer an older woman it's just my own personal preference s everyone has theirs it's just important to respect life choices of others as long as their happy mind your own business and improve yourself instead of trying to pull someone into the same misery your currently in.

[talknight]

At 26 I started dating a 19-year-old girl. She was madly in love, but the age gap actually seemed to be a problem in the sense that she was constantly insecure about how much further advanced I was in life compared to her (degree, adult job, knowledge, etc.) and felt incompetent. Despite her impressive efforts there was a gap in IQ as well, which didn't help her confidence either. So fellas, keep an eye out for those insecurities when you try younger women.

[anitaklein]

the majority of the 25 year olds don't date 45 year olds, so the basis of the whole argument is flawed. If you sexualise someone that is closer to your father's age than yours, you have unhealed psychological issues. Likewise, if you are attracted to someone that can be your child, your are creppy.

[immortaljanus]

I'm 39. Women my age are on the verge of menopause. You can't start a family with a menopausal woman. End of story for me.

[ht]

Yes they are more attractive physically. However, never again will I bother with young women. They are too insecure, life is a mess, they just want to party, etc. I'm at a point were I have everything except a family so want a women not a girl. I want peace and calm from a partner not drama.

[Why_Knott_Me]

My husband and I are 18 years apart. People online believe that my husband doesn't really love me but I know he does and has proved it. I couldn't be happier. ❤ My husband matches these qualities of the older man. He's actually 47 right now lol. One of the first things that attracted him to me is how informative I was about myself, I took care of myself and had a bubbly, welcoming attitude.

[anastasiosparissis]

Hahaha I love the way you said "it s because younger women like older men", you nailed it sir

[elizabethanne]

When my children were younger I employed young women, wanting to take a year break from their studies, to help with child care. I did this for 4 years with 4 different women. Each one at least once, was hit on by a man in their 40s/50s while working for me. Their advances were not received well in ANY of the cases. One woman working for me even came home scared and in tears. When I was in my early twenties I dated a man in his late 30s. It only lasted 6 months, we had little in common, we were in different places in our lives. A 15 year or less gap works, in my opinion, but when it goes beyond that....I personally have never seen a good outcome. My uncle, for example, was 30 years older than my aunt. My cousins were very sad when they lost their father as teenagers, and my aunt became a widow at 50. I definitely think men are drawn to younger women, but I am not convinced younger women reciprocate, unless they really just want money.

[cathyosullivan]

I read another perspective about this from a Psychologist who worked in Aspen. She said she saw a lot of wealthy older men with young women in the community. She stated that initially it worked out well but later the women seemed to feel like the men stole their youth and the relationship often ended.

[musashiwebb]

I've been tossed aside by my sons mother for a neurosurgeon in his late 40's. She would have never met him had I not helped her to enter her career choice by becoming the stay at home father. It has not been an enjoyable experience(I've separated from her, and now have a 50/50 parenting schedule), but it has given me insights of great value. I wished I could have kept the family together, but letting her use me in the ways she did was unacceptable to me. My father raised my sister and I by himself, and I grew up believing that I would not do the same to my offspring. But, life is both wonderful and terrible, filled with peaks and lows. I am still searching for my one and only to build/share a prosperous/fulfilling future with. Best of luck to all on their Journey here on Earth.

[lumiere]

I don't think women like men who are a lot older than them generally speaking. There is data that shows this. I'd say on average they do like men a few years older than them, and this changes to skew towards liking younger men once women are somewhere in their 40s. Again, data shows this when it comes to online dating

[markcollins]

I appreciate the perspective. This is a dynamic that men and women are both responsible for.