Top 10 Things Narcissists HATE

In today's video Jill talks about the top 10 things that all Narcissists absolutely hate.

Jill Wise, otherwise known as The Enlightened Target, is a life long survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was raised by a malignant narcissist and married to a malignant narcissist, she has endured years of parental alienation, has repeatedly been targeted by narcissists throughout her life. She has an intimate understanding of all aspects of narcissistic abuse and Cptsd. She uses her experience and what she has learned to help educate others and bring awareness to narcissistic abuse. She is also a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and works with clients all over the world heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and Complex Ptsd.

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[Wanda]

They also hate the truth….Thank you so much Jill🕊️

[col]

They hate being questioned.
They hate being caught out in a lie
Infactcthey hate you

[peacefulamerican]

They hate humiliation yet are never embarrassed.

[dclarke]

It's interesting how much narcissists hate to be humiliated . My ex narcissist humiliated me continuously behind my back for well over 1 year when I finally went no-contact. I'm emotionally scared for life because of it. Narcissists are the biggest hypocrites!

[elswae]

Public humiliation is huge! When I was in kindergarten, I said something to my narcissistic fathers work friends to the effect that he likes to sit on the couch watch tv and fart. Later when alone, he smacked my face, blew up at me novella style and was seriously angered. No regard to the joking context of a child. It was a huge disappointment and affront to him.

[rocky]

1. Narcs hate Being told no or coming into contact with a person’s boundaries
2. Narcs hate being ignored (triggers feelings of inferiority)
3. Narcs hate Having to apologize (don’t want to be seen as guilty or held accountable for their actions)
4. Narcs hate Authority (do not like being told what to do)
5. Narcs hate public humiliation (they are after narc supply)
6. Narcs hate consequences (no matter what they did to cause them)
7. Narcs hate rejection they take it completely personally
8. Not being properly acknowledged (no matter the circumstances)
9. Narcs hate losing they want to win every and each competition they enter.
10. Narcs hate being exposed for what they’ve done

[Lunchladydoyle]

Yes narcs HATE to lose. Reminds me of a story Christopher Ciccone wrote in his memoir about growing up with and working with his sister Madonna. Whenever the siblings played Monopoly Madonna always had to own Park Place and Boardwalk. If any of them landed on it they could not buy it. She also got skipped on the chore list and got a Ford Mustang on her sixteen birthday. But when she hit the bigtime she immediately spun a narrative in the media that she was the doting big sister forced to take of her younger siblings. I highly recommend his book Life With My Sister Madonna. He is way kinder than he had to be and it’s a fascinating insight into how a narcissist destroys the whole family.

[groovy-momma]

Haha mine hates everything I do, or don't do!

[kelsey]

They hate to apologize… I was stabbed by my narcissist mother as a teenager, then I cut of contact. A few years later she reached out to say “maybe I shouldn’t have done that”… like what, yes “maybe” you shouldn’t

[MaRkYWaHoO]

What’s the most disturbing to me is that narcissism? Usually the victim gets the help needed by the abuse the narcissist caused while they just pick up and move onto the next

[noelcummins]

Agree Jill.
As soon as I put up boundaries, I was dropped. I believe she moved straight on to another supply.
In response, I blocked and deleted, hard as it was.
Ignoring is the key, as is no contact (and moving on).
Thanks for an excellent video.

[funlovinbloke]

The narcissist hates to lose control and when he or she does not has the upper hand.

[mydearlady]

It’s heartbreaking and frustrating when the narcissist is a close member of your family, like an emotionally and verbally abusive adult child. It’s hard to go no contact.

[warrenbradford]

All this describes my narcissistic mother and sister. These things they do to run away from shame. Thank you for enlightening me, Jill!

[seventhson]

DESCRIBED my ex perfectly. Especially the "pestering." We'd have the same argument 10 times until I finally gave in, or she'd go behind my back and do it anyway.

[georgegavallos]

“No” the strongest word in the English language. It’s more than a word. It’s a statement, sentence and declaration.

[johnshafer]

Narcissist hate it when you call them out on their BS or when you call out their favorite adopted narcissistic conman.

[Steve]

I have a funny story that relates to narcissists' hatred of authority. Years ago, I used to drive my narcissistic brother to court every once in a while so he could request an extension of time to pay his unpaid parking tickets. Every time, he'd give the judge a sob story about how he didn't have the money because he was out of work, or the economy was bad, yadda yadda.

One day, he gave that story to the judge, and the judge just had a look on his face like he's heard this B.S. story a hundred times before. He looked at my brother and put up two fingers and said, "Two weeks. You've got two weeks to pay it."

My brother was pissed! Afterwards, we went for lunch, and as he was talking about how rotten the judge was (because of course, it wasn't my brother's fault, right?), he had rage in his eyes as he squeezed so hard on his glass of water, I thought the glass was gonna break!

As for the parking tickets, he did pay them within the two weeks. So when he has to do something, he can. But it was nice to see him held accountable for once by someone who wasn't buying his bullshit.

[aquagirl]

Nail on the head again. Thank you Jill🌻

[nancyarchibald]

Spot on dear sister. You have nailed it again.