Express Your BOUNDARIES! ⚠️

How to set personal boundaries and stop people pleasing!

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Julien Blanc is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.

Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!

His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!

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Express Your BOUNDARIES! ⚠️

No more lack of boundaries and no more people pleasing! In this short, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to set boundaries in relationships, how to set boundaries with people and how to set boundaries with yourself... Discover the truth about personal boundaries, relationship boundaries and emotional boundaries.

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[JulienHimself]

ALWAYS express your personal boundaries! ⚠️

[MRRookie]

Very well said, we can’t expect people to read our minds or be angry at them for having a different view of what we deem ok/not ok without making them aware of it.

Assuming people have the same values as us and then getting angry when they don’t is illogical but we do it so often.

Communicate and set your boundaries, if they break it, then you have a right to be upset.

[WTHPOPL]

Julien! I want to work for you. I think I'm about to buy your course today or tomorrow to support you but I really want to work for you to help spread your message. Thank you for all you do and fuck the media scandal, let's rebuild your name.

[ranc]

People who have issues with boundaries are extremely tolerant about misbehaviour and toxic behaviour. They can handle a lot of pressure and unfair situations and someone's greed and intrusion.
So - those boundaries, when we need to express them - these are social contract issues - something that we all learn in kindergarten and school.
This means - if we come to the point where we need to explain an adult person about the difference between criminal behaviour, abusive behaviour, abnormal psychopathy - it is pointless - since this person is abnormal and anti-social to begin with. They will simply not listen to us, they live in schizophrenia, invented fantasy world of delusions and we are inanimate cardboard snapshot of an object to them.

Problem with expressing boundaries hence only boil down to unfair Power Dynamics-
where we are not problem at all.
Our expression or not expression of boundaries are not problem at all.
The one and only problem is the abuser who consciously choose to abuse and they don't care about their consequences -
since we are stuck with them due to unfair Power dynamics:

- such as having toxic job in poor country where another job is not viable alternative since there is none
- depending on third party - having kids with someone abusive
- someone psychopathic which can end up as Femicide if we lay boundaries
- depending on basic need where toxic person is proxy - such at obtaining important document, shelter, some material possession required and needed at that moment etc.

The worst thing we can do in such unfair dynamics is to blame ourselves and place unfair judgement that our behaviour or lack of it - causes someone's abuse.

This belief will destroy our self worth and set us up to trauma bond with others - depend on their emotions that we must fix - or to build wall where we invest our time, money and focus in monitoring this person and their actions and opinions all the time.

Lundy Bancroft:
"Abuse is NOT caused by bad relationship dynamics. You can't manage your partner's abusiveness by changing your behaviour. But he wants you to think you can."

[judithzoe]

Bro is literally the teacher from victorious

[ezazkhan]

sir what are healing people plesing co depence

[danh]

those scooped neck shirts are creepy af