Rumination and Anger with Vulnerable Narcissism #shorts

[jackiegrice]

I have noticed a trend in watching these videos-people with narcissism and other personality disorders seem to react as if the emotions they experience determine the validity of the things they do and the way they interpret the world. They don’t seem to be able to evaluate the situation outside of that emotional input. Thanks for covering this Dr. Grande.

[FriskyTendervittles]

Victims of vulnerable narcissists ruminate too. Gotta love the gaslighting and questioning your sanity when they flip everything 😂

[thelocalmaladroit]

I always learn something from these shorts. Thanks Doc.

[DigitalNeb]

I feel like this was definitely me at a certain time in my life. I've grown a lot since then, and my life is pretty much devoted to my family at this point, but your descriptions of vulnerable narcissism always feel uncomfortably close to the mark with me. I was abused as a child, and for many years, I just didn't have the ability to self reflect. Now that I'm in my forties, and after years of really working on myself, I can see how that abuse lead to a period in my teens and early twenties where I had absolutely no empathy for anyone. My defenses had become so out of control that I was treating everyone and everything like an enemy. Somehow, my wife and my kids made it possible for me to change. She has managed to stick by me when I think most people would have left, , and my kids are a constant force making me want to do better. I think a lot of people just aren't as lucky as I am. For whatever reason, they don't find the help they need to claw themselves back to reality. I don't know what would have happened with my life if I hadn't found my wife at such an early age. She saved me. I just feel really bad for people who are suffering in the same way I was, but lack the support they need to get better.

[litneyloxan]

I’d be very interested in hearing your take on why the kids growing up in rough neighborhoods (such as o block and stl/ebt in chicago) end up influenced by the gang lifestyle growing up in poverty stricken areas? Like what effect it has on contributing to being more likely to join street gangs and whatnot. Being a product of your environment is so sad, especially when so many lack empathy for kids growing up in those situations. The nature vs nurture idea is very thought provoking and not talked about enough. Often times those kids are just written off instead of someone trying to see why they ended up so enthralled with street war. Instead of being explained with an insult to them or namecalling. Educated discussion is rare these days around that topic without someone namecalling without understanding why people end up like that

[rejaneoliveira]

Love these shorts, they are very informative.
Thank you for all that you do, Dr. Grande.❤

[El-aitch]

100%. I know a true vulnerable narcissist. Her parents were abusive alcoholics. I’ve had to cut the narc out because I was a truth teller in her life and her narcissistic rage was something I wasn’t going to put up with.

[jsmithsemper]

Exposing the narcissistic playbook for those willing to learn, is invaluable to society bc it’s war tactics being applied in social situations.😢

[tomheineman]

I don't know if I should send this to a few specific people or to everybody I know

[zenawarrior]

Very interesting info again. Sad and hard way to live. Thanks Dr G😊🧡🧡

[valeriemacphail]

Brilliant and concise analysis, as usual!

[whatever.]

I don't like the idea of shaming people for sharing, if that is something that needs to happen for them to work on their trauma. It helps to talk to someone.

[estherwalker]

Been trying to find out what my daughter has, her dad died infront of her at 5 years old and went through chronic stress, would that cause this. She doesn't leave the house and extremely sensitive towards criticism, hates everyone, its like walking on eggshells, shes 21 now. Tried to get help for her for years, until she was old enough to refuse but got no answers, she won't help herself she sees no problems 😞

[jenglock]

I just want to say Dr Grande is the O.G. For real!!! 😂thank you and your wife!!

[oddwad]

Vulnerable narcissism appears to be a natural response to abuse that's viewed as having no legitimate reason ? Prolonged ? The abuser uses their liberty in a wrong fashion by enjoying act of dominating . The victim feels this is unjustified once the fear has diminished . Hence he views it as tyranny to be overcome . Tyranny vs liberty causes narcissism to grow ?

[jdmarr]

My younger sister.
We grew up in that kind of atmosphere & I think what saved me was having been the scapegoat while she was the golden child.
Oh & I learned how to box in my adolescence- which was a skill that kept a physically abusive bully sibling at bay.

[smithmusiclibrary]

Would you say that you can see the same behavior in someone w/ BPD as well or is this more common amongst narcissists?

[everyonehasone]

You know my sister?😅 Always a tangled web of lies and exaggerations. Add in the desire to be the "winner" in any situation and the need to tear anyone down to achieve it. Nobody is outside of their target range, and they feel everyone deserves whatever they dole out.

[Cocobear]

Sounds like my dad, eg; earth shaking anger with yelling and throwing stuff around in the house. Meanwhile, exploding loudly with cussing and vulgar language. This usually occurred on a Sunday. The weekly repetition in question could be a combination of things. One he was a narc, 2 he drank many liquor drinks on Friday and Saturday nights. And 3, his exploding anger could be reminiscent of his childhood bad memories and his brain that took days to recover from the alcohol. The alcohol was the catalyst that caused my dad to get down with an extreme depressive state starting on Sunday’s. By Tues through Friday at about 5:00 pm he would be back to a normal acting nice dad. The whole repetitious week always started all over again month after month year after year. Triggers on Sunday’s were my mom throwing out his accumulated piles of newspapers and magazines and unnecessary stuff he accumulated. I would call him a hoarder of anything paper. Maybe his fear of losing stuff goes back in the days of him living in the Great Depression. In conclusion; unknown but more than likely ill fated memories of some childhood issues, using excessive alcohol In his adult years and probably a dx of a hoarder. Acting out little boy big tantrums in the house.

[melindaduncan]

Dr. Grande, could you please do a video on Leticia Stout’s expert in DID? I watched her and the things that she said, and did just blew my mind and I am waiting for you.