Six Reasons You Choose the Wrong Partner

We are - most of us - incredibly bad at choosing partners who will make us happy and who will be warm and supportive. It may look like bad luck but it is far worse than this: it is an unconscious strategy to frustrate ourselves that we need to understand in order to overcome it once and for all.

FURTHER READING

“The fastest, easiest and most inadvertent technique for messing up one’s life remains that of getting into a serious relationship with the wrong person: with very little effort, and without any innate taste for catastrophe, one can end up – by middle age or earlier – contemplating wholesale financial ruin, loss of parental rights, social opprobrium, homelessness, nervous exhaustion and shattered esteem, to begin a lengthy list of harrowing side-effects…”

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[fern]

Everyone: Why?
The School of life: OUR CHILDHOOD

[saladcaesar]

Some people spend more time searching for a perfect partner instead of perfecting themselves.

[faridaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

“We accept the love we think we deserve”

[PtolemyXVII]

I feel like every relationship is a learning lesson that brings you closer to the one. Not all relationships are meant to last forever. Perhaps someone is brought into your life to teach you something important about yourself.

[coconutseeds]

Everyone wants someone to complete them, instead of finding fulfillment within themselves.

[HowellConsultations]

The Universe is not in a hurry. You are. It’s why you’re tired, it’s why you’re anxious, stressed, and disappointed. Trust that what was meant to be yours, will be yours Unrush yourself. Hope our channel helps you on your journey

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[camez]

I love how much emphasis School of Life puts on how much the dysfunction in our early upbringings informs our later thoughts and behaviors, and how hard that is to change. It's SO important, and yet is seldom taken seriously enough, imo.

[Eugene]

This vid in a nutshell:
"No! Get away from me. Your kindness is unfamiliar! Inflict more pain on like my parents used to!"

[rosalynredwood]

Had no idea my FBI agent cares for me so much..this came at the perfect moment .

[ELTarTree]

Bang on. For me loneliness is/ was never a fear. At 62 years old and 3 dreadful relationships behind me, there's no point in ruining what is a now my peaceful life by making another bad judgement

[ossen]

*"Why do we fall in love with wrong people?"*
Because we accept the love we think that we deserve.

[azaleaslightsage]

This is why everyone should be taught Emotional intelligence AND about our subconscious programming

[JSRenow]

I just dated a girl three years ago and tried an online relationship with another girl (a couple hours from where I live) past year. Both relationships finally made myself stop searching for anyone, too much pain for me, I prefer to focus in my work, health and friends. It's quite difficult for me as I am really romantic and willing to love and care about others, but I am forcing myself to believe that she will come sooner or later and, until then, loneliness is my way to truly appreciate my future wife as much as I can. Love is too profound to be shared with anyone.

[ChrisInvests]

Sometimes you get mesmerized so to speak and you forget to think logically 🤔

[maii.]

Wow, this video really hit the spot. I think one of the reasons why people can't get over their ex's is bc they have lots of regrets about the relationship. What you could have said or done in a certain situation. Then maybe you would still be together. But the reality is that they just aren't right for you and they never were. They aren't worth it and you have to claim that power back to yourself.

[Inerize]

One can only give true love when they love themselves enough!

[lillianlilo]

There's more to life than just relationships with others. There's work, travel, shopping and coming home to a clean house.

And she never heard from him again.
A modern day love story.

[morganmoody]

the school of life needs to make a dating app for all of us watching these videos. i need to find somebody like you guys who are so emotionally mature 😭

[GiGisUmax]

This made me tear up, especially with the last reason, "they are wrong because they threaten to be kind". Fantastic video and so true.