How to Heal Your Trauma-Driven Thinking So You Can Make Better Decisions

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A history of abuse and neglect in childhood affects how you think, what you believe, and how you act. This is a major factor that explains why people with CPTSD seem to make self-sabotaging decisions, ruining opportunities and repeating terrible mistakes you swore you'd never do again. In this "best of" compilation, I share a collection of videos where I teach about identifying trauma-driven decisions and thoughts, and how to support yourself in order to make better choices and change your life.
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[kalicanterbury]

AT about the 46 min mark she is talking about work and the choices we make there. I took a job out of desperation. The first week was sheer torture. My response was deep anger, sense of being trapped, hopelessness....then, it occurred to me I could just view it all differently. I started speaking gratitude for the job. Instead of having lunch in the lunch room where I was ruminating or hearing negativity, I walked the parking lot every day during that time (wide open sky, not trapped!). Every hour that passed I added "money" to my thinking. Then I took that money and starting mentally repairing our financial instability - building the future. Same job - different attitude or perspective AND I fell in love with my job! This experience changed so much in my learning journey about the power that I still had even when the tapes playing in my head said I would always be doomed, always powerless, forever stuck.

[mmmitchell]

“No one is coming to save you from your trauma” ouch!

When this woman responds to you, it isn’t just because she wants to grow her channel.

I can feel her genuine desire to want to grow healing among all of us !

Well, I haven’t yet been able to participate in the live lectures, which I will be, I’ve been able to share this channel with my other cousins, that I know must have similar experiences and hardships because of our childhood .

Add 50+ years of age, it was a shock to learn from a stranger on YouTube. What was wrong with me most of my adult life.

Healing is not pain-free . But I am worth it. You’re worth it. This beautiful soul who we see speaking is SAVING lives, families and children.



I’ve been able to unblock a few people in my family and slowly stop self isolating.

There’s still people I cannot deal with right now, and I am learning what my triggers are: one big one, angry, black women, like my mother, accusing me of stupid shit. And that’s the truth and I still love her, although because of her behavior from a distance.

[interrupted]

CPTSD is a nightmare. I’m 67 and still feel trapped in my head. I have lived a life of quiet desperation.

[outdoorswithwoodswoman]

you are better then any therapist I've had and I have been in therapy for my whole life and I am 63 thanks for all you do...

[will]

I quit a job I liked because of a relatively minor schedule change - literally just walked out. Out of nature with my character but somehow I was traumatized by it and couldn't deal. I managed to get rehired a few months later and things worked out OK but it took years to figure out why I initially reacted the way I did.

[BaiMengLing]

"be comfortable to be with people who are a little more advanced than you", most of my life I did what you talk about in the video: pick friends who had it worse than me. I thought successful people didn't like me and I was afraid of them. After I became mom I started my healing, so much so that I was comfortable enough to raise my hand in front of all the well put together parents and get voted in as parent rep in our kindergarten. It was a big step for me, and it felt good to dare be more social amongst well adjusted people.

[jarrod]

I just wanted to say that I have been on my healing journey for six years now and I've done a lot of work and logged 1, 000's if not 10's of 1, 000's of hours in Youtube therapy to deal with my Childhood C-PTSD and associated triggers.
Of the 1, 000's of video's I've watched, this video is up there with the best that I have seen.
Really really good video Crappy Fairy. Good Job 🙌

[ericrmd]

“Everything is temporary” I have never heard someone else describe that state but I’ve lived in it my whole life.
Thanks for that Anna, you’re definitely not alone.

[misha_ry]

"I am not defined by what happened to me, I am who I am" thank you so much for this reminder Anna

[WeAreNotSale]

Yes I totally relate. I have moved town many times since age 20, many intense volatile relationships, leaving jobs because of triggers. Got into bad sexual situations. People concerned about me were frustrated. I thought it was them who were the issue. Now I live with some shame, healing the shame and blame now and moving forward to a better life😊

[nmn]

Thank you for all the hard work you're doing for people with C-PTSD :)

[bNot]

Amazes me how relevant so much of this is..I stay busy all day. No music now since complaining neighbour.
Headphones on until no battery.
All day long theres Anna in my ear, talking.
I like to talk too, and I'm a good listener.
I can't remember being so happy to listen all day long, to anyone, and its never annoying !!
Well some gf's have been good talkers, but its back and forth and not that educational, and no complaints compared to days, weeks, or months of 'silent treatment'...
Anyway, i am busy all day and much more calm. Its like i can feel my mind slowly improving.
Some medication involved but its mostly Anna. The voice, the messages, the humour, its really great. ☺️🙋
Thank You again 😁

[patriciapiper]

TERROR RULED ME. STILL DOES. WASN'T ALLOWED TO ASK QUESTIONS.

[KatefilmNYC]

I had a bad childhood, but I never made poor financial decisions because of it. Just the opposite. I know i need to take care of myself, no one else will.

[Thomas-mn]

Thank you so much. I wish I had dealt with my trauma decades ago.

[oleia]

Unfortunately years ago I accepted so many commitments and relationships out of being unable to say no. Always terrified of standing for myself. A big unconscious sense of being worthless. I got into these commitments and relationships all the way, always fantasizing about the future and apparently giving it all. Now I understand these where behaviors related to CPTSD and codependency... thank you Anna. I love your channel.

[kikki]

Yes, wise Fairy Anna, I have noticed the pattern of "it's just temporary" and see the implications in many areas of my life. A small voice has been trying to point my attention to it. It gives me this creepy feeling that life has passed me by without fully participating. My life would have been more fulfilling with a different approach. It's still time to be all in, 100%. Mastering the triggers are gold.

[amber]

My dad was a narcissist but he gave me alot of wise advice and protected me from my psycho ex. I see it now that im alot older. He hurt me many times but im thankful he shared his wisdom.

[sophiemarcaurele]

It seems like your videos pop out just when I need them, I can relate to so much of what you share!

Listening to your videos in that calm and soothing voice of yours often feels like a quiet, warm, comforting hug. It’s like dropping by unannounced with a nice neighbour and sitting on their porch having tea, nibbles and chatting about life... I cannot thank you enough for all the efforts you put into these videos: someone gets me! I’m not alone! And even better than that, she’s holding the mirror with a smile and showing me with her own example that I can heal, and things can get so much better. Thank you ❤🤗

[handsanitiser]

Where were you 10 years ago when I needed you even more?! This channel speaks to me!!! Love it and and thank you!!!