How to understand & heal your trauma: Gabor Maté, M.D. | mbg Podcast

Gabor Maté, M.D., a physician, New York Times bestselling author, and internationally renowned speaker joins Jason Wachob, founder and co-CEO of mindbodygreen.

“95% of trauma is multi-generational. You unwittingly pass it on," he says. In this episode, Gabor and Jason discuss how buried trauma can harm your health, plus:

0:00-0:42 Intro
0:42-5:07 Gabor’s upbringing & his professional work around trauma
5:07-10:18 What trauma really means
10:18-12:47 Gabor’s personal experience with trauma
12:47-17:20 How trauma gets passed down from one generation to the next
17:20-20:51 How your personal trauma can affect your physical health
20:51-27:53 The relationship between stress and illness
27:53-31:39 How to start resolving your trauma
31:39-34:10 Why so many people have a hard time saying “no”
34:10-39:19 The real reason children start resenting their parents
39:19-44:00 Why you don’t actually have to socialize kids
44:00-47:04 How our culture makes us sick
47:04-48:40 What’s unique about our cultural trauma today
48:40-52:09 What we can do about a lack of social connection
52:09-53:08 Why we attract others with similar traumas

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[monikaj]

Wow. “ trauma is not what happened to you but what happened inside you” this was a great statement.

[annastinehammersdottir]

Dr. Maté taught English at my high school and the best thing he did was quit and go to medical school. One of the world's greatest doctors in a sea of careless, greedy mediocrity.

[nandamaharjan]

He makes everyone who has been wounded in their childhood feel heard and validated. Finally we can feel relieved for feeling the way we feel and to know that it’s okay to feel like that and that it’s not your fault. Something that strikes me is learning that a child should not have to work to make the relationship between them and the caregiver work. They should not have to be perfect, smart, beautiful and successful to be loved and accepted. I wish I knew these as a 5 year old child.

[robynhope]

“The attempt to escape pain creates more pain”...very true! What you resist, persists.

[svevitta]

“Your yes is only meaningful when you know how to say no.” 🤯

[robinbroad]

Every time I listen to Gabor, I am newly healed and reclaiming all the needs that were were denied

[gojiberry]

I tried to talk to my mom about my childhood molestation by my brother, and she just screamed at me to shut up. That's how it is in my family... so it's not just past trauma, it's continuous trauma when you're shot down by people whom you're supposed to love

[AlpacaRenee]

Our society of “keeping up with the Jones’” where we feel both parents have to work, is the root of the problems we now deal with. Downsize your home or move to a less expensive area, simplify your life. Then moms and/or dads can stay at home to raise their kids, instead of strangers doing it. Then you know what they’re being taught, what they’re being fed, and materials they’re being exposed to. If you can, homeschool. The junk they are teaching in public schools is ridiculous.

Thank you for this interview. This Doctor is a gift to humanity. God bless him!

[altaerker]

Dear doctor your face reflects all the pain in the world and I thank you for your deep understanding and compassion for humanity. God bless you beautiful soul.

[tinamarie]

I had a very eye opening experience tonight that made me realize, at 50 years old that not only am I struggling to process multiple traumas from throughout my life but that I’m now filled with so much anger and rage that I’m barely a functioning human being. Sexual abuse, childhood neglect, a parent having multiple affairs and abandoning the family and returning several times, to as an adult not knowing how to express my own sexuality because I was shown at a very young age that sex is ugly, it’s manipulative, it hurts, it’s a dirty nasty thing to do and that I was a disappointment for having sex and not having sex. As the doctor was saying early on, I’ve now seen those traumas manifest as many different illnesses. Cancer, weight gain, Anxiety and panic attacks, eczema, oral canker sores, headaches, sleepiness, physical pain throughout my body and uncontrollable crying. I don’t function anymore. One of the worst symptoms of my trauma is passing trauma onto my only child. We are adults left holding the broken pieces of our pasts with out the directions to the store where that very special glue to put it all back together is sold. I took it upon myself tonight to research how to start to heal myself. I possibly, a way to send my child some tools to heal her as well. I was injured in a work related accident a few years ago and was unable to return to that type of physical work. With no education and a laundry list of learning disabilities, I have been unable to find new employment. I’ve lost my home, car, my ability to care for myself (emotionally not physically) though the desire to physically care for yourself is gone too. I know that something has to change within me. This is my start. I have no medical insurance and cannot afford therapy. So, thanks to YouTube, I’ve found some sort of start for myself. I’m also now living with the elderly parents that began a lot of this trauma and they continue to be a source of this pain for me. I feel stuck. Mentally unable to will myself free.

[monavis]

Pure genius. Such a pleasure to hear him speak. Some people who walk amongst us are so ahead of their time and he is one of them. Respect <3

[mustafakemalpasha]

My mother left our family for no reason for 15-20 days right after I was born and then came back. I learned this at the age of 25. Until then, I would intermittently lose consciousness for no reason and pass out. It was only after I learned this truth and listened to Gabor Maté that I realized the extent of the trauma. I felt incredibly inadequate, and I still do. And that's mainly because my mom is mentally unstable. Please don't have a baby without maintaining your sanity.

[kwww]

I was abused by my ex-boyfriend when I was a teenager. He forced me to record videos of me and I did that for him out of “love”. After that, during 4 years of the relationship, when we had fights or when he was jealous, he would bring this up saying he would blackmail me and blamed me with lots of rude words. I cried almost everyday. Eventually, I had him deleted all the videos and broke up with him. Now, I’m 32, thinking back, I want to say thank you for the lessons learned. I have learned to be more careful when taking actions and choosing a friend, and to forgive myself, to forgive him, and be my new self. 🌟🌞

[natashiacox]

Listening to this really struck me. Wounds that have been always hidden are now so clear to me that I started feeling empathy for myself, as if I was looking at myself as a person who experienced so much trauma through life, all the big Ts and little Ts, I surprisingly and suddenly felt so much empathy and sadness for this person that I started crying. Very interesting. Truly cathartic moment for me.

[hd-bedi]

I cant believe Dr Maté is almost 80. He looks like he's in his 60's

[HarmonySoldier-mgsw]

I was born into the troubles in Northern Ireland to a mixed religious, mixed class family and I’m the middle child.
By the time I was 10 I was dead inside. Beaten so violently in the locked bathroom naked by my 20 stone 6 foot dad.
The healing began march 2020.
I can listen to you cos of the beautiful beautiful energy in you words. Your compassionate energy in your voice is a big spiritual blanket I’ve just wrapped around myself.
I’m horrified, yet so bloody great full I see and have some kind of beautiful life force

🤕🗽😳☠️🏝️

[nanabanana]

Please pray for me to heal physically in my brain and all body systems and in my mind and spirit and soul.

[HelenaTeeter]

I never let my babies cry and we cosleep. They are such balanced children, kind, healthy, homeschooled and never one vaccine. My 16 year old starts college this week! So proud of them!!

[truthmatters]

Gabor. Gentle. Powerful. Beautiful. Human. Wise, Respectful. Concerned. Yes, it's 53 minutes rather tha the 1 minute YouTube shorts. But you really should make the time to watch this and get some deep, fact based learning. Thank you Gabor for your effort in sharing your insights with us. Peace & love to all ☮☮❤❤🤗🤗

[katrinaseifarth]

This is just so fascinating. 95% of traumas are multigenerational.

"I can tell you your childhood trauma by the last time you got truly upset with somebody".

Gabor Mate, how do we thank you for thus profound information you give to the world💜
Thank You 🙏❤️🙏