6 Signs You Have Toxic Relationship with Yourself, Number 2 is Sneaky

Have you ever stopped to think about how you treat yourself? Would you be friends with someone who treated you the way you treat yourself? In this video, I’m breaking down 6 subtle yet powerful signs that you might have a toxic relationship with yourself—and how to start shifting it.
From being overly critical to downplaying your successes, these patterns can hold you back from living the confident, fulfilling life you deserve. We’ll explore:
Why over-apologizing might signal something deeper.
How self-sabotage shows up in sneaky ways.
The toll of overthinking and why it keeps you stuck.
The real impact of sacrificing your needs for others.
PLUS, I’ll share actionable steps to start building a healthier, more compassionate relationship with yourself.
Your relationship with yourself matters—it’s the foundation of everything else in your life. Let’s make it stronger today.

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ABOUT JULIA:

Julia Kristina, MA, is a speaker, teacher, master therapist and mental wealth coach who helps smart, highly sensitive, heart centred humans get past anxiety, stress, and self-doubt so they can have better: Better relationships, a better life and feel better about themselves.

Through her membership program, The Shift Society, she helps people identify their deep rooted thoughts and beliefs that are keeping them stuck and struggling, and then teaches them how to take charge of their minds and emotions so they can thrive in all areas of their lives.

Julia’s expertise has been featured in Inc magazine, Psych Central, Mind Body Green and numerous other publications, podcasts and television outlets. She has also given talks in front of audiences of hundreds on stages across North America. Videos on her YouTube channel have been watched more than 20 million times and she has built a community of over 400,000 people across social media platforms. When she’s not helping her clients and students increase their emotional intelligence and mental strength, she’s out on some kind of adventure with her three children in Vancouver, Canada.

[juliakristinamah]

Hey! Glad you’re here.
What was one of your takeaways from this talk?

[AminatAnimashaun-ku]

My standards are just too high for myself but when it comes to others I'm empathetic.

[KaciCreates]

Trusting myself has become my theme for this year. I’ve tried so hard (and failed) to control my life because I don’t trust that I can handle it. Time to shift my focus and learn to value myself instead. I’ve gotten this far, I will be okay. Excellent video, thank you!

[titan-speakerman_shorts_tiktok]

Thank you so much. I’ve been struggling lately, I got up this morning and prayed for help. I went on YouTube and found your video. It was like it was sent to me ❤ I’m usually ok but just recently I’m awful to myself. I’ve had too much stress and I’m tired. I will be kind to myself today, thank you xxxx

[Marekcatholic]

Thank you Julia for the great video! My takeaway is of how damaging it can be to downplay my successes and highlight my failures.

[AlexandraBerglund]

This. All of this. Bookmarking to come back & remind myself of all of this. Thank you Julia.

[ladyesther]

Wow, this was just what I needed to hear today. It just brought up a memory I had with an actually "friend" I was posing for a photo shoot and she actually told me when the camera person was not in the room that I didn't look that good. It made me feel so bad. It was actually my wedding day. :( So this year I want to commit to having a better relationship with myself. I guess I disowned myself so much that I didn't even know I had a self. Another person in a position of authority once told me that I should never trust myself. I always thought hmm...that didn't sound right!

[Ravid]

I feel like I have a much better relationship with myself after watching this video. Thanks

[GeoffreyGambier-mgtx]

It's hard to not micro manage/ monitor yourself because people have changed a lot since the bug/ lockdowns. I didn't experience any of those things I was in prison for the entire lockdown period. Now ppl really don't seem to want to socialize anymore.

[fenderlead]

If somebody bumps into you and you apologize… It just means you’re a good Canadian! You should come to Canada… We got cookies…

[AshokPati-db]

for the longest time, i thought being magnetic was something you either had or didn’t. i used to watch others shine while i felt stuck. then i found Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it made me realize it’s all about the vibe you give off. chapter 3 especially changed the way i carry myself—it’s such a powerful shift.

[Wolf-Man]

I notice I have this pattern of self sabotage where I'll be doing well and feeling pretty good and then I'll turn to my vice that makes me feel like sh*t after doing it coz it's like I don't deserve to feel good and happy. I know that happens and I keep doing it. It's like an impulse and has been hard to shake, but I'm slowly getting there 🙏🏽

[mr_d_o_r_e_m_o_n]

been there, feeling like no matter how hard i tried, i just didn’t stand out. then i picked up Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and honestly, it changed everything. chapter 3 opened my eyes to how energy works—it’s not about effort, it’s about alignment. people started noticing me in ways they never had before.

[tarapedersen]

Hi Julia. could you please do a video on how others are toxic to family members, what are some examples they might say or do?
what does word toxic mean? much appreciated. have a nice day.

[NishaMosi]

ever feel like you’re the one no one notices, no matter what you do? i’ve been there. i tried all the advice out there, but nothing stuck until i read Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki. the insights in chapter 3 blew my mind—it taught me how to let my energy do the talking before i even say a word.

[Sumaya-fv]

I have a question, if I have anxiety issue can I become a psychologist, I mean should I ? What should I do, I have relationship anxiety, . but my dream is to become a psychologist, plz help me 🙂