What is 'projection'? (Glossary of Narcissistic Relationships)

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[infinitetundra]

It’s crazy how they all do the same thing. It’s like they all went to the Cluster B Institute of Narcissism.

[yprabhudev]

Wow! An empath would apologize for one's mistakes but a narcissist never apologizes and acts like a victim and projects back! Ditto experience that I've had

[MsKK]

Projection is actually my favorite Narc trait! It is like he/she is giving you hand written list of his/her own transgressions and flaws. It’s confession by projection. Once you understand it and can see it, it makes everything so much easier to accurately assess your relationship. That’s the first step to getting out.

[alaia-awakened]

Being accused of gaslighting and “twisting things around” by a narcissist is truly next level effed up.

[pinklotus]

As William Shakespeare said “suspicion always haunts the guilty mind”

[lavernlyons]

You can’t really manage a relationship with a narcissistic, the stress will eventually lead to sickness or even death. If you must communicate with them use as few words as possible, never try to reason or rationalize with their accusations just walk away, even if it hurts don’t show them, always be in the process of breaking any emotional, physical or financial bond and move on with your life.

[johnmiller]

"Why are you so angry?" - "I'm not." Repeat umpteen times until you can't take it anymore. "See, you're such an angry person."

[BR-yyko]

Projection makes you feel like the crazy one! You start to dissect everything they say to you and them question yourself! Then you start feeling like the one with the issues! This is what they want!

[sarahjohnson]

When the narc abuser says his ex is the abuser but his behaviours indicate an entirely different story! I’m grateful they tell on themselves!!

[makaylahollywood]

"You sound like you're angry?" They will say anything to get you out of your genuine calm peaceful nature.

[Harivelo]

My draw dropped when he said, "You never admit a mistake, you never apologize!"

[sandyc]

These videos should been shown to middles schoolers and high schoolers. Im in my 40's now and had no clue what a narcissist is until my late 30's. Would have changed my life if I would have know about them sooner... Keep saving live Dr. Ramani.❤️

[legitKwit]

My ex narc accused me of wanted to go back to my ex and that I was still in love with my ex. It was really he who was still obsessed with his ex. He also called me a gold digger when I was buying a house with my own money. I told him “gold diggers” don’t put 200k down on a house. They get someone else to do it. He was projecting. HE was the gold digger!

[mitsakiTheOfficial]

He was projecting on me literally everything. He was telling me that I don't know what love is, I will never love anyone, I have no shame, I'm too full of myself, I don't accept critic, I'm not humble, I have no humility, I am a deeply violent person and brutal, I am egocentric, that we always end up talking about me, I am a liar and I am altering the reality, I don't see reality as it is, I don't accept his authority because I want to have control, I have no respect and don't know what that word means, and of course he even told me that I am a narcissist.

[ddseir]

Even though it’s really well explained in the video, trust me, you have to see it on a narc in order to fully understand. The narc doesn`t just use projection and denial. He/she IS projection and denial. It’s like narc rage. It leaves you in awe, like «wow, this person’s really deranged»... and yes, there’s no point in trying to discuss things and try to reverse that. The projecting narc, sees you as an intruder, an enemy that threatens that fragile ego core. And they will strike back, they will hurt you, they’ll do anything.

[nadiyac]

"You are angry! You don't have any reason to be angry right now!" screams the parent to the confused and previously calm and happy child

[hindsightpov]

Projection is one of the biggest red flags that the person projecting is a narcissist.

[AxA]

Finally had the guts to leave. I had no clue I was married to a narc. Thank God for these videos they opened my eyes to the hell I was living. I feel like my health is slowly coming back.

[lynny]

Every thumbs down is a narcissist pissed off that their garbage is being exposed. LOL

[pavla]

My parents excelled at this . I came to realize that they had been subjected to the same behaviour in their younger lives and seemed to have committed themselves to outdoing their own parents in every aspect of abuse . Projection was a favourite weapon along with severe verbal, emotional and physical abuse . The world surely doesn't miss these types when they die off .