What Does It Mean To Project? A Psychological Defense Mechanism

Today's video answers the question:
How do I stop projecting when the person is reinforcing some of my insecurities with insults? I give examples of projecting your own thoughts onto others. I define the unconscious vs subconscious. The answer is you have to identify your negative self-talk and work through it.

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[AeriaGlris]

Yes, please talk more about defense mechanisms!

[toothpastehombre]

I can't say enough how helpful your clear, concise and compassionate content has been in (our) lives, esp lately. Learning how elements of mental health work and interact inside of ourselves, and in the world/relationships around us, gives incredibly valuable perspective. Sometimes a shift in perspective can be not only inspiring or healing, but life saving.
Thank you

[alinw-nt]

The thing is without considering the genetics, no one is born with self hatred, negative self talk or mental illnesses. If someone keeps destroying how you perceive yourself verbally all the time, in time, it's easy to believe these words instead of what you knew was true. So it's all in her head but others were in the first place.

[Azure]

Thinking of projection as a defense mechanism was revolutionary for me, and really helped me deal with a family member that really does it A LOT.

[pearlvader]

Doctor Marks, your knowledge and willingness to share this knowledge is appreciated. For a future topic, can you explain why people live in the "past" instead of the " here and now"? Is there a condition for this? Thanks

[Hyderagean]

I really hope the people in your life tell you every single day how much they love you, because you're a freakin blessing to the world. Thank you so much for working so hard and continuing to work hard both on and behind the scenes every single day. You're a real hero.

[ebunni]

I was trying to tell my brother that he was being a jerk and he accused me of projecting. No, brother, you're being emotionally abusive and manipulative.

[intentionallyqueen.]

🙃 I bet Dr. Marks is contributing to a better understanding of ourselves and others.

[Chicobliss]

The key to healing from personality disorder is to be aware of the self unconscious thought that we all have. Meditation was a amazing tool to become self aware of these negative thoughts that make us trigger and go through another circle of paranoia episode.

[austriaperez]

Hi, I'm new discovering you, but im very glad i did...Love your videos...They are very educational and awesome

[wildewildestrawberries]

She's brilliant. She takes huge ideas and makes it digestible to the rest of us.

[johncarty]

So what about a narcissistic parent projecting all of their attitudes onto their children and the children growing up with a shame. Or siblings projecting their inner core being onto each other by which the narcissistic parent or parents projected onto their children

[MaddesG]

People with mental illness can often psychologically project when they feel stuck or are suffering in their mental health and having a crisis. I've seen this happen a lot. I had took my own advice in the comments after ruminating about issues for years. I have decided to finally get real help for my neurological disorder.

[lorirees]

Yes to hearing more about defense mechanisms. One thing I do is clam up or reveal very little to those I feel are judgmental or self-righteous. I feel very uncomfortable talking about my life — small or large details.

[curlsgalore]

I told this to my mother last week & since she won't listen to me she should go see a professional that way she can speak with out feeling judged. It won't happen and I'm done trying to get a 61yr old to grow up. Thanks for helping in my mental growth. 💖💖

[mnamna]

You are one reason why I’m doing psychology as a degree because the way you explain these makes me hopeful for helping other people as well thank you!

[evian.]

Yes, please ! More of defence mechanisms:) thank you

[Ron-SA]

Thank you Dr Marks. This video was like it was made just for Me. I took a lot away from this. I did not see the connection regarding my own self hate. And knowing that that I need to bring my own self acceptance and love up to a place where I no longer allow people's criticisms to pierce my soul. Thank you so much.

[cw]

Developing a string sense if self is really hard to be able to stop projecting and to protect yourself when someone is projecting on to you.

[eboogieexx]

GIVE US MORE ON THE DEFENSE MECHANISMS!!!! You’re incredible, thank you! ♥️