What is 'future faking'? (Glossary of Narcissistic Relationships)

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[AxllsFly]

When the devil can't reach you, he sends a narcissist.

[zarenjane]

Honestly the biggest benefit of having a narcissistic ex is that you learn the lesson and you can spot any narcissistic like him/her and then run!

[ivymichelle]

The worst part is the sense of mourning you're left with when you finally leave the relationship...all the hopes and dreams you have to let go of cause they're never gonna happen.

[LouLou.]

The worst part about future faking is that when the time comes, they gaslight the hell out of you by claiming they never said that

[CrispyFriedPickles]

“Am I leaving before they serve the cake?” YES, literally describes how I felt 😫 I can’t BELIEVE I fell for this

[echase]

I feel like other than gaslighting, <Future Faking> is one of the most exploitative and mentally abusive behaviours, that the Narcissist uses. If it wastes your Time, it’s wastes your Life...

[ellenaeller]

What I have learnt is to be careful what you share with people too soon.. when we first met narcissists, we tell them our dreams, goals, aspirations and they mirror us and pretend they want them same things as we do and we fall for it.

[butterieflie]

“The small fakes always lead to larger ones”. When someone shows you their true colors: believe them.

[launabanauna]

Future Faking plays on our versions of a “happily ever after, ” which never happens with a narcissist. This is so cruel, to use people’s hopes, and dreams against them! It’s evil.

[KiLLED]

Dr. Ramani is saving my life. I thought I was going to become depressed again until I watched this video.

[kjirovec]

Thank you Mom for teaching me to: 1) Work hard and to rely on myself not others. 2) Never lend money even if family or friend. 3) Never go into business with family or friends.

[DennisNowland]

Oh, they are good at it. Lies and false promises. Then when it all starts to fall apart they gaslight you by saying it was all your idea and they were just going along with it.

[Life.Love.Locs.]

For me, the scary part of this was realising that my childhood literally set me up for this. Adults used to promise me things but not fulfil what they said they would. I got used to being let down and not taking people at their word, the inconsistencies and mixed messages. So as an adult this behaviour is familiar to me. I'm still learning what consistency looks and feels like... pray for me, y'all!

[KelsoFox]

"One of the main things that can keep ppl stuck in narcissistic relationships, is financial dependency."
Which is why we need affordable housing and affordable child care, etc!

[exx]

I learned much too late - after a 21 year marriage. I now know to listen and watch their actions not their words. Whomever said “actions speak louder than words” must have been dealing with a Narcissist.

[notsheepish]

Don't expect anything from them and you won't be disappointed

[echase]

Translation: ‘it’s never gonna be YOUR turn’.

[phemyda]

They lie to themselves too. My psych professor says narcissists can be in danger of committing suicide later in life because as they get older it becomes harder and harder for them to keep deluding themselves about the grandiose future they'll have "someday".

[karenfreund]

A narcissist can control someone with the use of fear even if it's just nonverbally communicated. When a person feels fear it shuts down the prefrontal cortex unable to think rationally.

[jackgoodings]

We invest our energy, time, attention, commitments, resources, decisions, money, plans, our life .. we make all these life decisions that we otherwise would not have made .. and they move the goal posts and yank that rug from under our feet, and it is massively destructive