What is 'estrangement'? (Glossary of Narcissistic Relationships)

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[wendyadamson]

My mother has A LOT of money in the millions! She has controlled me with it hanging an inheritance over my head. My mental health was more important to me than having money. I have learned by watching her that money will not bring you happiness! I would much rather have mental health and peace in my life than money. I am a beautiful grey rock.

[Ahukim]

I went no contact with my family and I feel 100% fine with it

[realhealing]

Estrangement saved me! My mental health is much more important than a toxic relationship with my family. I gave so much and got nothing!

[andreamagyar]

My answer to that : I could not choose my family. I put myself my life first. If someone openly judge me or insult me over cutting my family off. I cut that person off too. Stand in your truth people!☺

[cindyc]

The narc never offers resolution or closure.

[grievingmom]

one thing you said sparked in me...when I am not around my narcissistic family members that horrible knot in my stomach is absent...I have to remind myself that feeling peace without them isn't a bad thing or something I should feel guilty for. Thanks for the video

[julesfitminute]

Nobody has ever validated me like this before. Thank you 😊

[rommix]

Sounds a lot like me. I grew up in a narcissistic household, and once I realized how bad it was I felt like I had no choice but to cut them off. If I didn't do that I would probably be dead. I wanna live.

[LeLeB]

I literally feel like she is talking directly to me about my life. Wow.

[nicholerenee]

I am so glad I found you Dr. Ramani. I went no contact from my covert Narcissistic Mom in February 2020. I am the scapegoat and since childhood I have endured so much stress and turmoil as a result her of her presence in my life. This time she was attempting to hurt me through my 7yr old daughter. When I stood up for myself and called out her toxic behavior, it challened her "control" over me and she lashed out. No one around me understands narcissism and I'm continuously made to feel like I'm overreacting and should always bend to her will because she my mother. They are not the ones crying or in mental anguish from her abuse though, I AM!
Please understand that toxic is toxic and abuse is abuse regardless of who inflicts it. No one is owed a place in your life including family. Don't continue to subject yourself to damage out of obligation because it's your parent. Know that you have a choice and sometimes a narcissistic parent needs to be removed from your life in order for you to fully heal and move forward.

[nelumbonucifera]

I was raised in a dysfunctional family with narcissistic dynamics. I was stretched in all directions to pander to their games. My parents were overbearing, emotionally detached and controlled everything. I was not allowed to make any decisions, including marriage. They manipulated me into getting married into an equally dysfunctional family and I ended up with a narcissistic husband, who figured out I was the family scapegoat. When I was subjected to his abuses, my parents turned a deaf ear and a blind eye. I was trapped in this nightmarish saga and there was no respite. Eventually, I cut everyone from my family off. Have been estranged from them for over 10 years. My Narc husband took advantage of my self imposed isolation and orchestrated my character assassination through smear campaigning and estranged me from everyone in his family. He managed to brainwash our adult daughter too. And proceeded to discard me. I’m literally alone at the moment, but strangely, I’m in a better place now than I have ever been in over 50 years.

[mariavirginiagonzaleztavar]

Estrangement is a way of life in some families

[lindsayvega]

Please continue creating content that dissects narcisstic family dynamics. This is exactly what I'm living and trying to heal from.

[wendyadamson]

Oh I know about estrangement!! The key for me is having self love! I have learned to self parent and unconditionally love myself to shield myself from my very narcissistic mother! She no longer has any power over me.

[crowznest]

The hardest thing to accept about Narcs is that they don't change. That knowledge has shocked me but it's necessary to let go of the hope that they will.

[thereal]

I had no idea i was married to a narcissist for 20 years before I realized it. I stayed for an additional 7 years "for the sake of the kids" Big mistake. My advice RUN don't walk asap.

[QueanaIvory]

Exactly. I’ve learned not to feel guilty about doing what’s best for my mental health. Thanks Doc.💜✨🧘🏾‍♀️

[johannahandersen]

I had my final straw broke with my narc mother when she came to my home the day I found my best friend dead in our kitchen and she felt the need to make it all about her. She still doesn't understand why i went no contact, her pov is I'm just cruel and a bully and taking my aunt's side. On what, neither of us know. I'm sad I can't have a normal relationship with my family, but I'm also happy to be free.

[swizzleproxi]

I'd rather be a alone sometimes than be around people that don't bring me happy feelings.

[LizzPaintz]

Dr. Ramani, you said it all. When I finally went no contact I realized. "It is all about control." I have always been free. I AM FREE.