8 Signs Someone You Know Is Fearful Avoidant | Thais Gibson & Fearful Avoidants

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Advanced Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style Course: Your Guide to Thrive in the 6 Stages of a Relationship

In this video, I talk about 8 signs to look out for of a fearful avoidant partner, friend, or family member.

Have you ever wondered if your partner or someone you know is fearful avoidant, and if so, what were some of the signs?

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00:00:00 - Holiday Contest
00:01:05 - Intro
00:02:20 - Sign #1: They Are Very Present
00:03:08 - Sign #2: Availability Starts Slipping Away Over Time
00:04:00 - Sign #3: Probing and All-Or-Nothing Thinking Patterns
00:05:00 - Sign #4: Can Be Very Intense Behaviour Patterns
00:06:33 - Sign #5: History of Relationship Highs and Lows
00:07:36 - Sign #6: Limiting Beliefs About Relationships
00:08:50 - 7-Day Free Trial: Advanced FA Relationship Course
00:09:31 - Sign #7: Can Appear to Have Conflicting Needs
00:10:27 - Sign #8: Boundaries May Swing
00:11:06 - Conclusion

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[lilymulligan]

Thais, thank you for the HUGE value you bring to us for free on YouTube! Seriously, your videos are by far the clearest, most thorough resource on this platform about attachment theory.... And I've spent countless hours watching videos on this topic 🤣 I'd love to experience more of your wisdom in PDS, but can't afford another self improvement resource on top of therapy in this season of my life.... A free membership to PDS would make a huge difference for me. Thanks again for all you do!

[jdub]

1. They are very present
2. Availability starts slipping away over time
3. Probing and All-In or Nothing Thinking Patterns
4. Intense Behavior Patterns
5. History of Relationship Highs & Lows (rollercoaster)
6. Limiting Beliefs about Relationships
7. Can Appear to Have Conflicting Needs
8. Boundaries May Swing

[gladyswairimu]

I grew up with a lot of chaos, domestic abuse and instances of sexual assault. I used to live life carrying so much emotional pain that it became normal to me. That was until I found this channel in 2019 where I learned I'm an FA leaning anxious. I've never felt more understood and seen in my life. Suddenly, I know why I push people away so strongly, why I have a hard time trusting people, when I'm people-pleasing, when I'm deactivating/activating.. Watching Thais' videos about FAs and using the strategies she mentions to regulate myself, have helped me when I'm activating and deactivating. I still have a hard time forming connections with people because I'm scared I'll be betrayed or criticised if I show my true self.
It's really exhausting to live life this way. My number one goal in life is to get to a point where I live freely (no fear of judgement, abandonment, betrayal, criticism...), and I know for a fact PDS will play a key role in this. I'm still in university, and I've planned to have my first salary go towards paying for PDS. I can't wait to be secure. Thinking about it gets me so excited. Thais, you've literally saved my life (more than once). Thank you. ❤❤from 🇰🇪 🇰🇪 🇰🇪

[Getmeouttahere]

I recently signed up for the free 14 day trial of PDS and waited until the 11th hour. I tried to talk myself out of it, because I had to admit that I am AFRAID to change. As an FA, growing up in abuse / neglect, the inner child is terrified to give up the survival strategies. But I am ready to love myself in the ways others couldn't and excited to start healing. I've followed this channel for a couple years and the insights have been invaluable. Thank you, Thais for giving me hope. ♥️

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P.s.
I love your passion for helping others. Your mission to help people recognize and address their subconscious programming is amazing. You have helped change so lives, including mine.
Thank you 💚