8 Signs You're Secretly Disliked By Others

Have you ever felt this nagging feeling that even though some people might say they’re your friends, they don’t really mean it? Ever get the sense that there are some people in your life who might be harboring some ill will towards you? Or secretly want you out of their group but don’t just come out and say it? Here are a few tell-tale signs that can help you figure out whether or not someone might secretly dislike you.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: art1st1cly
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References:
Van Bavel, J. J. (2018). The psychology of hate: Moral concerns differentiate hate from dislike.
So, J., Achar, C., Han, D., Agrawal, N., Duhachek, A., & Maheswaran, D. (2015). The psychology of appraisal: Specific emotions and decision-making. Journal of Consumer Psychology, 25(3), 359-371.
Lincoln, K. D. (2000). Social support, negative social interactions, and psychological well-being. Social Service Review, 74(2), 231-252.
Lakey, B., Tardiff, T. A., & Drew, J. B. (1994). Negative social interactions: Assessment and relations to social support, cognition, and psychological distress. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 13(1), 42-62.

[Psychgo]

How many of you are sulking currently? comment below so we can all feel better together :)

[tipsdib]

0:35 their body language towards you is closed and negative
1:05 they fake a smile around you despite being a close acquaintance
1:40 they keep their conversations short and impersonal
2:09 there’s a distinct lack of physical touch towards you
2:35 they don’t make any plans with you
3:10 they rarely reach out or check up on you
3:37 they tend to let you down/break their promises
4:10 they don’t listen to your opinions

[FunDudeGirl]

Another sign: They're only around when they want something from you.

[Juggernautfitnes]

One thing ive learned is that you cant be liked by everyone No matter what. And thats totally fine, its their loss not yours.

[roxiethecockapoo]

It's a difficult concept to accept, especially when you wish you could be friends with them while you know everyone dislikes you.

[gargwinvinesnake]

Soo terrified to watch this and likely confirm everyone actually hates me and it isn't in my head.

[SubparSkill]

As someone with social anxiety and just generally being someone who finds it hard to talk to or interact with others I do most of these things to others, not because i dislike them but because i don't know how else to be and sometimes the complete opposite..because i actually like them and i'm scared to let myself be vunerable. I really hope people don't see it as me disliking them..

[annafidler]

If someone dislikes you, they shouldn't be involved in your life to such a degree that you notice their presence and their dislike of you.

If someone dislikes you yet you find them continually in your presence somehow, that's their issue and they need to grow up and discuss the reason for their disdain towards you in a mature way or just f * * * off and leave you alone.

Don't worry about people who don't like you.

[basticasimiro]

I have a friend who displayed all these signs to me, and then I watched this video and it was a dead giveaway that she disliked me. So I confronted her and asked her why are you like this? And it turns out she likes me, but she just didn't know how to show it and was too embarrassed to admit her feelings to me. Love is a very hard feeling to convey sometimes...

[Frutty]

I wish we could have our own friendship group with comment sections from every Psych2Go vids, you all seem so cool who I'd befriend if I knew how to befriend anyone in the first place 😂 Either way, great community!

[deannal.newton]

As harsh as this might sound, but it's one of the reasons why I isolate myself from others because I know they don't really like me or care for me in the first place. It's not a healthy habit to think that everyone is out to get me or that they'll just shoot me down whenever I try to talk to people because they'll just tell me to "leave them alone" or "go away" or "why are you talking to me", but it's those reasons why I never make the first move because of past rejections. Sometimes I wished that I were invisible or a nobody than everyone hating me.

[pepperpalmerston]

It's the irony of life: We form our identity and self worth through our relationships with others, only to eventually learn that 80% of what others say feel and do has more to do with their own inner struggles than with us.

[ASMRVanne]

My autistic/depressed/socially anxious ass relates to some of those (as the "others") but I swear it isn't because I'm disinterested or because I dislike you… I'm actually very loyal and caring – I just struggle to maintain eye contact, fear physical touch, fake smiles because it's become a way to conceal my pain and trauma, often zone out mid-convo, practically never make plans with anyone because I feel iffy about leaving my den, and refrain from reaching out to people first because I'm convinced that I'll only bother them. So this goes both ways…

[cheesecakebuns]

Is anyone else friends with people who treat you as a back up friend but don't wanna drop them because you don't wanna be alone. They are also very toxic and sarcastic but in a really rude way. It honestly feels like they want to say something messed up to me but disguise it as sarcasm.

[lukashuddleston]

I'm not secretly disliked, I am disliked. No matter what I do it's never enough for people. They say "oh I don't like starting the conversation" but then they can do it fine with everyone else. They never talk to me outside of school, unless surprise surprise I message them. And finally I'm never invited to go do things with anyone. In my whole life I've never been asked to hang out with someone. Nevertheless great topic. Sorry for the sob story, if anyone sees this.

[leverdia]

Why pretend if they know they don't like you? They might as well be straightforward so everyone can move on. That's easier said that done, but it truly works out better for everyone involved in the end.

[tunafishtoys]

Lucky I’m not secretly disliked, people just tell me they don’t like me 😂

[irefusestop]

While I don't completely disagree with the narrative conveyed in this video, the authors ascribed value judgments to behaviours that can have a multiple meanings:
0:35 People mirror each others body language. If a person is closed and negative, it might be a reflection of our physical presence, not a judgment of our value
1:05 A fake smile can mean many things. Something going on in that person's day/life that they are trying to hide, or would prefer not to burden you with
1:40 Short and impersonal conversations is a communication style. Some people are quiet, reserved, but that doesn't mean they dislike you
2:09 Physical touch is a prime example of feelings of safety. However, some people prefer not to touch others physically, or reserve touch for romantic relationships
2:35 If everyone waited for their friends to initiate plans, plans would never get made
3:10 Checking up on your friends is a good way to show you care without a doubt, but life gets busy and its not necessarily about you
3:37 If your someone lets you down or breaks promises, it may be a reflection of their character vs. how much they value you
4:10 Listening to your opinions is one thing, agreeing is another. Friend's don't always have to agree, but they should be open to listening.

[totalloser]

Refs I got in the art :
0:16 Isabella and Mirabel
0:25 Heather's ref
0:38 Hayloft Poster
0:55 Tommyinnit, Tubbo, Ranboo
1:19 I think Regina George
1:31 Gravity Falls Journal
1:51 Bruno Madrigal and maybe Wendy from GF (Credit to the person in the comments !!)
1:53 BBH and Skeppy
2:14 Heather's ref
2:22 LasNevedas poster, Lovejoy Album, Klaus Ref (Umbrella Academy)
3:51 Amethyst from Steven Universe
4:14 I think an Eret or Technoblade ref

[SoldierOfFate]

I want to add an additional point to this: they will always remember/recognize you for something. I say this because a lot of people can recognize me (even if I'm in a cosplay they've never seen before) and we do live in a time where people will often remember you more for the bad things you did vs. the good things. If you look at social media, this is more fact than fiction.

I always try to remember people I keep in touch with for the positive impressions they left on me in the past, but I have a gut feeling people only ever recall me because of things like "hey I remember that guy, he's associated with that particular person that has a horrible reputation!"....and no I'm not making that up.