what no one tells you about erasmus | is it really the best time of your life?

This video is different than any other of my videos. I open up about something that has been weighting on me for a long time.
Is erasmus really the best time of your life? Most interesting part about erasmus is that each experience is so so so different and yet we always talk about it as something that is same for everyone. I don't know if that made sense but accepting the fact that erasmus in Madrid will be much different than my erasmus in Zagreb was very hard for me. Even if it seems silly I was spending time in my head and thoughts too much and it lead me to many sad days.
Now I am totally over it, I am happy and grateful! I promise my next video will be more optimistic and get you excited for your exchange!

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[KateFeng]

i always put my expectations wayyy too high and get unnecessarily sad when things don’t turn out, so this spoke to me a lot!! loved your points and gratitude💗 new suBbbIeE

[KateFeng]

ooo i love how transparent you are!! the comparison to other people and friend groups is so relatableee

[veerose]

Thanks for sharing such a beautiful video and genuine feelings. I find myself wanting and searching for those deep connections with new people but can never seem to find any. Social media definitely made me think I was unsocial, but I’ve realized it’s also normal to have 3-4 friends (and I’ve lived in one country my whole life haha). I still want connections but like you said, no expectations ☺️

[PitiBoyChill]

Kudos for being so real, most of the time it's so easy to compare things to the better version of them but we rarely compare it to how worst could it be, gratitude goes a long way in keeping you grounded and grateful! Happy times Lasma :)

[Nil-nsoz]

Thank you for always being so real! everybody here on youtube seems to only talk about the best parts of their experiences but you are doing the right thing. I’m about apply to Erasmus in Madrid for the next semester so your videos have been a huge help to me. I hope you have even better days and remember that the people who don’t want you don’t deserve your time or your care. Finding a small group of friends that truly care about you is much better than a large group that cares little about you. Looking forward to your next videos :)

[blucdxp]

thank you so so much. this is so reassuring ❤️ i’m only in my first year of uni but i’m already worrying about my erasmus experience and it’s so reassuring to know that i have to lower my expectations because otherwise i will be a mess mentally on erasmus hahaha. once again thank you for this!!

[ortilio]

Respect for sharing your true story!!! It was a warning reaction from your soul that you are on wrong way. I was an "erasmus mentor" and I saw that its not the "time of their lives" --- euphoria and reckless partying in the first weeks and homsickness and depressive moods later. Superficial friendships, some meaningless lectures in a semester, too much freetime, culture shock.... I didnt have a chance to take part in Erasmus but thinking back it was better this way. I think the "Erasmus Experience" wont inprove ones personality - its just a big illusion that something great is happening, you dont have to prove aníthing, no real responsibility just spending your parents money.

[hjs]

I'm in Barcelona right now and I just want to come back home. It is my first time abroad and I've wanted this for so long, I've worked for this and I expected it to be perfect. Now all I see is the people around me not inviting me to stuff, I meet new people but it seems to never go past small talk, guys just try to talk to me because they want to hook up with me, and I miss my friends at home so much.

[Nauuu]

Oh i know what being disappointed when the reality does not match the expectations and being fixated on it. But what it really does is ruining what you have and a lot of times you only recognize it afterwards. So thank you for sharing this. Love from Germany❤️

[CorinneThians]

i know what it’s like to not be chosen 💔 you’re amazing 💖

[OmeroBello_]

Wow... for the first half of the video I was thinking "After the video has ended, the first thing I'll be writing into the comments is to delete Instagram", but then I've reached the end of the video and I was so glad for the action you've taken. Thank you very much for this video, it really helps: in a few months I'll be in Erasmus too (hopefully) and I'm continuously watching videos about wonderful past Erasmus experiences in the city where I'll be (because I'm so excited), obviously increasing my expectations, but you helped me to remember that my experience will not be theirs and I mustn't compare my journey to others, so mucias gracias 🤗

[BeaBiancaLao]

I love how real you are!! Thank you for sharing 🥺😍

[magdaxsto]

The social media ruin everything... anyways amazing video! I really enjoyed it and I understand you for soooo many reasons.
I'm here in Madrid too and I feel lucky too, but somehow we always think there is someone who is 'enjoying more' just because he or she post more stories on Instagram for example.
I hope someday we will meet in a random group in Madrid and talk! Have a nice day ;)

[loredananegash]

This helped me so much, I feel the exact same as I am currently on Erasmus as well and just have the exact same feelings. Will probably delete my insta too, it’s just not good for your mental health
So thank you !<3

[adultsh]

I‘m actually so sad we didn‘t hang out more together in Zagreb because you are such a great person! Love from Berlin 🤎

[chowmong]

Oh my god Lasma, you are speaking my heart out loud. Sending you a good energy.

[sophietekliuk]

thank you so much! totally can relate& no matter where I go or with whom I make relationships - it's never enough

[VlogAwi]

Thank you for being honest with us, i hope you feelings will get better!

[brianwhite]

I really appreciate you sharing this part of your experience because as a retiree in the US I'm planning a month-long exploratory trip to Valencia next month and need to keep in mind, during this trip and during a possible future relocation, that what you see on YouTube and IG are other people's experiences and that mine may be quite different and that I should keep my expectations in check. Thanks and I hope all is going well for you .

[chantalgro]

This was so genuine to Listen to! I hope you will find for what you are seraching!