what no one tells you about your BREAKUP.

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💕 Caroline
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💕 𝐌𝐘 𝐏𝐎𝐃𝐂𝐀𝐒𝐓
Not For Everyone - @not4everyonepod
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"THE COMPLETE GUIDE TO YOUR BREAKUP"

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💕 𝐁𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐊𝐔𝐏 𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐎𝐔𝐑𝐂𝐄𝐒
"THE COMPLETE GUIDE TO YOUR BREAKUP" [podcast]

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00:00 - Intro
1:16 - one of my stupidest breakups
2:46 - the timeline
4:37 - the cycle
7:32 - spiritually sexy
9:22 - thanks to Ritual
11:38 - The thing that’s causing you the most pain
12:33 - Another stupid BREAKUP STORY
15:20 - Should I contact them?
18:58 - Survival Tools that changed everything
23:08 - Are you codependent?
24:40 - good support vs BAD
28:00 - its breakup season

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[danbrunn]

Interior designer, relationship coach, career coach, fitness trainer, she is mother, she is everything

[deniseunterman]

Caroline, as a psychotherapist of 40+ years, I want to tell you that this is the wisest, most insightful, most compassionate description of the break-up process I've ever heard. You're young enough to be my daughter but, wow, out of the mouths of babes. I'm going to direct my grieving clients to this video. You can do far more for them than I can, you beautiful person. Thank you, sweetiegirl, thank you.

[giraffesandmeerkats]

I'm in a happy, secure relationship expecting our literal child, but am I going to watch this and ruminate on my previous experience? Damn straight I will.

[dancinlemur]

Oh Caroline. If you ever have a moment of doubt about your youtube career, or someone makes fun of you choosing to make videos and moving away from acting, and coding... just look at the comment section on this video. You have fostered a beautiful, caring community and you are genuinely making such a positive difference in peoples lives. Whether you stay with this platform or move on in years to come, I just know that you will be making a positive impact on this world!

[shodack]

I wrote letters and never sent them. This helped me process the feelings, let all my nasty meanness out, but still stay completely away from them.

[homebodyheaven]

Even after 25 years of marriage to a cheating, angry, alcoholic and my kids were grown and I felt I could finally move on to a happier life—I still went through grief! The grief of the death of a dream. Of what could have, should have been. Fortunately little did I know that I would meet the true man of my dreams right away. My ex cried when the judge pronounced us divorced and I danced! My new love and I have been married 27 years. I have lived the life I deserved all along. No regrets!

[Julie-gipf]

Ava DuVernay was asked on Twitter on you deal with heartbreak. Her response was a gut punch but truly changed my outlook on my break up. I'm so grateful I came across it and happy to share it here for others going through heartache. How do you deal with heartbreak? "You don't. You live with it like a stranger until it becomes familiar and changes form. Until it becomes knowledge and power. But until then, just let it walk beside you. There's really nothing else to be done." ❤

[giulia]

“The deeper the pain, the deeper the transformation. BITCH YOU BECOMING A BUTTERFLY” 👏🏼 you are so naturally funny I can’t

[Print]

My current "breakup" is losing my parents (both of them at the same time!) slowly and awfully to dementia. Let me tell you, the death of a parent is like the worst break up of your whole life. But the stages are still the same. You still have to swim back to the mainland and it's not a linear swim. Thank you for this. ❤️

[trf]

Forget algebra and trigonometry .. this is the class we all needed in high school ❤

[MsPea]

The notion of attachment resonated with me. I was in a relationship, and we built a house together, assuming we would be together forever. It was literally my dream house. But my partner had an affair and decided to end our relationship. My grief was overwhelming, but it was because I Iost the house. I couldn't afford it on my own and my partner bought me out. I mourned that house for a couple of years. Even now, years later, I think of it. I almost never think of my ex.

[kkkool]

The post break-up period is always the time I level up my career, my body, my life, etc. Break ups suck, but i wouldn’t be where I am without them. Sending good vibes your way, girl!

- your “one-way” friend and viewer ☺️

[eclectichouseinteriors]

As someone who's ALWAYS found it necessary to segregate completely post-breakup, I'm now in a situation where it's an impossible step. We have 2 small children and are irrevocably linked as parents. Every time we have dealings with each other, it's like reopening a wound. I've just started therapy, so I'm hopeful I can learn a new path to healing rather than my previous go-to method of no contact.

[jugua]

Dear Caroline, I wanted to comment before watching this video. I discovered your channel 2 weeks ago. 3 weeks ago, my bf of 3 years broke up with me. I was devastated, heart broken - he was "the one" (or so I thought). When I discovered your channel, I was beginning my journey to accept the outcome, rediscover myself, rediscover my pleasures and interests outside of the relationship. Your energy resonated with me. You are such an incredible, strong, ambitious and independent young woman - a woman I aspire to be myself. Since then I have watched many of your videos, and truth be told, you have given me the energy and positivity to look upwards and forward in life. This video comes right in time for me. Thank you so much for being you and for putting out these videos! I look forward to following you in the future - and hope to see many more vlogs and videos like this one. Thank you <3

[fionaschiffl]

Thank you so much. Divorcing a narcissist after 32yrs and it’s hell. When I found out the truth about him, I did the research and decided the first thing I needed to do was to get my head together. I didn’t know I was emotionally abused, I just thought he didn’t like anything I did and he was always in a bad mood. Done research on doing chores, etc. better and what works for me. Done a lot of art therapy and look forward to decorating a new house for the first time ever. I wrote 3 books too. Scared for the future but won’t have a narc in my life so it can only be better. Smiling at myself in the mirror each day even if I’m crying through it at first, it becomes a fake smile then a real one, then a cheeky grin. Dance down the hall or while food is heating up. Make up parodies about unstacking the dishwasher. Compliment yourself for putting on your socks. Caroline, you are so awesome!

[noahfladeland]

Queen you honestly make a huge difference in my days

[madelinem]

Sorry Caroline but I beat you. I was ghosted by my husband of 10 years. He went on a business trip and never came back. Not a call, text or email. He did not answer his phone. After 1 month I did get an email from an "anonymous" persons stating they think their friend is dating my husband. Talk about blindsided, confused, angry, depressed, sad and crying, crying crying. It took him about 5 months to email me asking for me to mail his things and pay for 50% of our divorce. I did neither. We did end up getting divorce which he paid for. Never a call or an apology.

[fl]

This is life. Not just break ups. Life is one massive swimming and resting and grieving and coping process. A relationship is a massive highlight of whatever needs most work done on .

[TheLadyRochester]

A year ago, I got fired from a job in a way that was not unlike a horrible breakup. Except instead of one person dumping me, it was an entire group of people. The advice you gave in this video maps pretty well onto my emotional experience of recovering and healing from that ordeal. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us, and I hope that the pain you are experiencing right now will give way to even more spiritual sexiness. <3

[lindaroy]

My most painful breakup was the one I caused by being too insecure. Thought I was gonna die from the pain but nope, just grew. ❤