Grief Expert on Death: How to Cope.

A clip from my Under The Skin podcast with grief expert David Kessler.

David is a death and grieving expert and author of many books including - The Needs of the Dying: A Guide for Bringing Hope, Comfort, and Love to Life’s Final Chapter and Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief.

Go to Luminary where you can listen to the rest of this podcast and my Under The Skin podcast to hear from guests including #JonathanHaidt, #JordanPeterson, #Naomi Klein, #KehindeAndrews, #AdamCurtis and #VandanaShiva.

*not a euphemism

My Audible Original, ‘Revelation', is released on 25 March
My Audible Original, ‘Revelation', is released on 25 March

Produced by Jenny May Finn

[stephenwalder]

I lost my 10 year old son to a brain tumour just last year and his mum, my partner to cancer 3 years before that. I’m currently riding this grieving experience with front row seats. I find it both a painful and joyous experience when confronting grief head on as I do now on a regular basis. I look forward to listening the the whole episode. Thankyou :)

[paulc]

Alot of people grieving here, including myself, sending love to all of you.

[CarmindyOnline]

LOVE THIS--- "how long are you going to grieve someone who is dead?" "well... how long are they going to be dead?" FUCKING ON POINT. THANK YOU.

[ICEcoldJT]

“Speak to people in a way that if they died the next day, you’d be satisfied with the last thing you said to them.” 🙏🏽

[givensurname]

Here's a quote by Jamie Anderson (apparently a Dr. Who novelist) for those who grieve:

"Grief, I've learned, is really just love. It's all the love you want to give but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go."

[denseljosephs]

It gets better you will smile when you remember them and there's always something that reminds you of them every day.

[KaoticReach]

My father died the day before Christmas, I missed his call a few hours before and wonder everyday what he was going to say...I miss you Dad

[diafenix]

I lost my dad to covid on January.
He took really good care of himself and practiced all the prevention measures, it didn't matter at all.
Due to the situation in my country, me and my sisters couldn't see him after he was off to a made-up-hospital for covid patients, nor we could talk to him on the phone.
We so were so dettached from him while he was suffering and sick, eventually dying while intubated.
As he died, we felt so far away from him, and that is a nightmare we carry on with us everyday.
Everything still haunts me and my sisters.
Thank you for this, any help dealing with grief is cherished and highly appreciated.
Stay safe everyone and Love deeply.

[daryl]

✝️ I dont worry about where I'm going when I die anymore just looking forward to seeing them again🙂

[JB-nrvq]

I lost my husband to cancer in March 2019, after 3 years of caring for him and loving each other deeply. He was only 36 years old and he passed just days before his 37th birthday. I was only 33. I thought we would have a whole life together. Grief isn't just for the person you lost but a whole life imagined. It really messes with your expectations. You grieve the loss of those as well. I met so many young widows before my husband had passed and saw how different grief was for each of them. I'd tried to predict how I would feel but you truly can't know until you're in it. Grief is painful and personal and, because of that, often isolating. But seeing things like this surface when grieving helps to feel understood. Our pain feels like a taboo and many of us just want to talk freely about it.

[camilawenger]

It's weird when the death is sudden, and the person is young, it hits different. Just lost a friend last month like that, it made me reflect, tomorrow is so uncertain, it could be any of us at any time really. I'm ready for it whenever its my turn. <3

[acloudworld]

My father died of Covid, a healthy active man at the age of 68. He had no underlying issues. I loved him with all my heart. The pain is confounded by the fact we cannot do anything and are trapped in our homes with our thoughts. I miss him so much and there is no support out there.

[strikerorwell]

Im a 48 year old veteran. I have fought anxiety, depressions etc, for years. In late December my grandpa died, and in January I sat with my only real friend and companion, my 11 year old White German shepherd/Briard dog Curts head in my lap. I looked into his beautiful brown eyes when the Vet put him down due to Cancer. The first week after my anxiety was over the top! The 2 most beautiful souls I have ever met were gone and I had no one to speak to. My Grandpa (A 93 year old WW2 Veteran) was an incredibly down-to-earth character, and we were grandson and grandpa but most of all dear friends. My dog was 11 years old and he saved my life with the unconditional love you only get in that special way from a dog. I suffered just as much when I lost my dog as when I lost my 2 best friends, a decade earlier. Its horrible to feel so empty and miss these beautiful Souls beyond words.

[svenkamog]

Most my family have been wiped out in the past 10 years, its been absolutely brutal 😭
Cherish family and friends that are close to you because you'll miss them when they're gone 😞

[pearlirene]

June 16, 2017 my son died in a motorcycle accident. Within 6 months his brother died from (fentanyl) Overdose. Grief is different for everyone. I don’t want to hear how brave or strong I am. So far, I am just taking the next breath, the next step. I probably make some people uncomfortable, but if I find something reminds me off them, especially the funny stuff, I will talk about them. Those guys were hilarious at times, when they weren’t really pissing me off. I cry at the sight of peeps (those silly little sugar coated marshmallow chicks), and occasionally flannel shirts. What a great discussion, and I am so sorry for your guest’s loss of his son. I do understand.

[stephgebre]

My dad passed away 2 weeks ago, he was on life support for a week after breaking his neck after falling down a flight of stairs and going into cardiac arrest for 30 minutes. I miss him so much and I can’t stop thinking about him. He was always showing he loved me unconditionally unlike anyone else and I don’t know what to do anymore, I miss him so much

[ragingchimera]

"Anything you lose comes round in another form" - Rumi

Believe it, you'll feel it.

[jl]

Russell I enjoy listening to you. your topics and your philosophy are right on. Tomorrow I start my grief counseling. My wife passed away last month. She passed away from pancreatic cancer. There's another aspect to grieving. Which is guilt that you couldn't do more to stop it. We only found out about a month prior. We talked a lot, cried a lot her faith and inner strength never wavered. I was a mess. She died in my arms where she wanted to be. I miss her dearly. It helps knowing that I'm not alone in my grieving.

[mariarossi]

Love and grief are a package deal on Planet Earth. Wow. That really landed.

[Tristan-omff]

What a kind hearted being, who lost his son and wants to help others too