6 Signs It's NOT Real Love, It's Hoovering

Are you feeling confused about whether your relationship is built on real love or manipulation? Understanding the difference can save you from heartache and help you recognize toxic patterns. In this video, we uncover six signs that what you’re experiencing isn’t genuine love, but hoovering—a manipulative tactic used to keep you entangled.

We’ll explore how hoovering manifests as toxic love, filled with manipulation and deceit. By identifying these signs, you can protect yourself from fake love and make informed decisions about your relationships.

Join us as we discuss the behaviors of manipulators and provide insights to help you navigate the complexities of dating and relationships.

#love #relationship #datingadvice

Disclaimer: Hoovering tendencies can be exhibited by anyone, but it does not automatically classify them as an abuser. It's crucial to consider the facts and intentions behind these actions. Hoovering is commonly used by abusers when they perceive their victim is trying to leave, which is why we made this video to raise awareness. Furthermore, this video does not suggest that all narcissists are abusers. Our objective is to provide information aimed at identifying unhealthy relationship behaviors.

Writer: Brandi Michele Ortiz
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Gabriel Miles
Animator: Amy Arendolff
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Disclaimer: Hoovering tendencies can be exhibited by anyone, but it does not automatically classify them as an abuser. It's crucial to consider the facts and intentions behind these actions. Hoovering is commonly used by abusers when they perceive their victim is trying to leave, which is why we made this video to raise awareness. Furthermore, this video does not suggest that all narcissists are abusers. Our objective is to provide information aimed at identifying unhealthy relationship behaviors.

[Pomeraman]

A narcissist making a promise is nothing but empty words. They’re like New Year’s resolutions…broken by the next day.

[helen_lucilfer]

Reminder: if you are watching this video, then you are slowly recovering and seeing the first signs! Keep going, you can do it!

[naomilauzut]

I feel so horrible, I had no idea . I'm so glad this video was released . Gonna work on myself

[AquaQuokka]

If your girl:
- Makes a lot of noise
- Is always doing the dirty work
- Cleans around the house

That's not your girl... That's a Hoover ONEPWR™ Emerge Complete Cordless Vacuum

[noobzito]

Timestamp!

-0:23 What is hoovering?
-0:55 Empty promises
-1:43 Nonstop contact
-2:29 Over-the-top gestures of love
-3:22 I'm crazy? You're the one being crazy!
-4:09 But I need you...
-5:04 Everything is fine

[tripletflamesrainbowstarpeople]

This video opened my eyes. Someone who is trying to win me back is showing multiple signs of hoovering. I had no idea this would apply to me and this person!

[cosmolosys]

Wow I didn't know faking being fine was part of this too. It's all coming together. Honestly the guilt tripping starts happening, and I block them, the person I thought was close to me becomes so threatening and scary to me, and they know where I live so it's really hard to feel safe in my own home. I hope I can forever recognize and prevent getting close to people like this.

[vini]

Man... I had so good times with my ex, now I see this videos and see what a mess we were together 💔

[gerardodiezmartinezmedina]

It feels like real love is not avoiding at all cost problems or complications but working on them together by firstly recognizing them.

[averagejane]

"Everything is ok" tactic....that was a lightbulb. I instinctually knew it was a side-stepping tactic to get the relationship to resume without having to fix anything or address anything. So, my feelings are brushed aside, nothing is fixed and therefore will repeat in the near future. I am not sure if the person I am dealing with is in fact a narcissist, though he presents like one often. I can only say the relationship is unhealthy and he uses unhealthy behaviours. This being one of them. Thanks for this.

[mindyfree]

Hoovering—a love vacuum that sucks the joy right out of you! 🚫💘 Time to switch from 'Hoover' mode to 'Self-care' mode

[BlueEyedVibeChecker]

As a Brit I saw "hoovering" and thought, how does one mix up romance and cleaning?

[Absolhunter]

Hoovering is bad... Narcissists are bad, and relationships are bad with the bad people, everything is bad. It's rare to find a good person these days. 😢
I'm glad Im not going into another relationship after recovering from a narcissist.
This video spoke everything I went through in my 2 year relationship of lies 💔
Thank you for this video... really thank you..

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Empty promises 0:55
2). Nonstop contact 1:43
3). Over-the-top gestures of love 2:28
4). I'm crazy? You're the one being crazy 3:21
5). But i need you 4:08
6). Everything is fine 5:03

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[brain_respect_and_freedom]

Thank you. I've learnt a new English word👍
Hoovering is a type of emotional abuse in which a person engages in manipulative behaviors to “suck” or “hoover” (yes, like the vacuum brand) someone back into a toxic or abusive relationship with them.

[GamerA.S]

Yea i needed this video to realise i was being manipulated by validation.
It sucks because i am scared of it happening again

[GustavoRodriguez-tysu]

After watching this video, now I can better analyze my own actions in my previous relationship. Now I feel way more sympathetic towards her and I’m happy that she broke up with me because now she’s free able to rediscover her happiness again. :) if her happiness includes my absence then so be it.

[XAEzl]

Some of these, though, can be common in a normal and healthy relationship. Constant attention and over-the-top gestures can be a good thing. Though, it's best to be careful

[WiiENTERTAINMENT]

I hate thinking that it is real love when it's not & is something else....