Emotional Aftermath for the Cheater and the Person Cheated On

Affairs cause a lot of destruction in relationships, sometimes that can't be repaired. However, we rarely talk about what happens inside the person who was cheated on and the cheater. This video will discus how a breakdown in trust has lasting impacts for both partners.

Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships.

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[jimobrien]

I've been cheated on badly by my wife and we have been in reconciliation for 3 years. Your words are spot on. I went from being a very mentally healthy and happy person to a very mentally damaged person. I would even say that I've never felt pain like this in my 51 years on this earth.

[draaiboerdery]

Cheating is the baddest thing in life that you can do to your partner.
It is so degrading.
It is so humiliating.
It affects you for the rest of your life.

[Relic]

You can't expect others to be loyal to you, because you weren't. That's one of my favorite parts

[gretathegarbo]

This is the first video I have seen that actually PROPERLY calls out cheaters. Mostly, people seem to want to victim blame and let the cheater off the hook, which really sucks, but I guess it makes people feel safe. Sigh.

[alive]

Superb analysis! I wish you had been my therapist, after my wife’s betrayal 24 years ago. Cheating is far too soft a term. Cheating is devastating. I was in love. I adored her. I can no longer fondly reminisce about our early days together without thinking about her affair. I stayed in our marriage because of our child, and because of the experienced trauma of my prior divorce, also involving two children. I still wonder whether I made the right decision the second time around. As for women, well, I would never put them on a pedestal again.

[namboy]

I am always amazed at the level of genuine knowledge and insight that this woman drops on us with each video. She is truly a font of great wisdom and counsel for troubled relationships. Sadly, when inevitable marital/relationship problems arise, most of us are stymied by inadequate communication skills and lack of the "know-how" to rationally resolve the problems. Too bad we all can't have a MJ Rapini to call upon when needed.

[caroliner]

Trust, once broken, can never be regained.

[aceball]

I was married for forty-five (45) years; two known affairs, and then learning that she was actually a serial cheater from my PI and attorney. She was 90% angle, 10% demon. Very active and respected at church! Yes, you're spot on! I will NEVER recover. Thanks for speaking the truth. You've help more innocent victims than you realize...

[LRSB]

The betrayed spouse feels extreme fear. When the cheating spouse is callous to the betrayed spouse causes the fear felt to be intensified

[I-rlak]

Painful. Broken. Wounded. Damaged forever.

[ivyp]

I recently experienced emotional creating and everything she said in this short video is 100%. My eyes are open, the innocence is gone.😢

[KugelfangTV]

Ive been cheated on too, the dude she betrayed me with was one if my best friends and since then, nearly two years ago. Since then i kinda isolated myself from everything and everybody. I accepted a while ago that this feeling now, it will stay. Its cruel. There are times where i dont think about it, but everytime i lay down, when its quiet, when i see other people caring for one another, the memories come haunt and hurt me again. I dont wanna use woman to cope with the loss, i aint got anything left in me that i could invest in something new, i feel worthless, helpless and filthy.
Nothing can take that away.

[ft]

i love how truthful you are. so much hard truth but graceful at the same time. thank you <3

[ILOVEISRAELETERNALLY]

Thank you so much, the pain hurts everyday.

[alive]

I wish I had had you as my clinical psychologist after my wife’s affair. Twenty two years later I am still struggling. One thing that I can relate to is just how brash and cocksure the betrayer becomes at the height of the affair. Common sense goes out of the window. The act is unprotected, and an STI and pregnancy result. Reality hits home with a loud thud, and the betrayer has no choice but to eat humble pie and to face the consequences.

[asafselevanay]

She cheated on 5 months ago caught her with her ex in her job parking lot totally traumatized me for life. I am secure and very confident person, but after this infidelity lost trust in women and confusion.

[maggiehubbard]

It’s a pity the person who cheated won’t listen to this

[brettski]

💥Man This Chick Is Laying Down STRAIGHT FACTS!💥

[agenth]

I learned yesterday my BF of 7+ years has been cheating on me. I found it on FB. I screen shot the post about him. There is no way he can denai it. I have a few things to gather then he's gone. I have to live this lie, tell him I love him, hear him tell me he loves me when I know it's all a lie. Now the I love you to him almost makes me puke. I can't wait to get this over and get on with my life. Thank you for this video.

[markour-parkour]

It doesn’t matter what they say, whether if you were just talking or in a relationship…when you get caught cheating or talking to someone else. You are NO longer able to be trusted.