How Dating Apps Work In 2024

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Dating apps are meant to keep you from dating.

Using them has an affect of appearing to scratch the itch of doing something about your loneliness, that is in actual practice a worthless act that also diminishes your self-esteem and dignity.

The companies that make them also have a vested interest in your continued failure. If they worked, they wouldn't make money.

dissident

All I heard was we should make a dating app based on League rank.

Sethery

It just sounds like things are getting worse and worse. Dating apps are a broken system which hurts the individual and just makes the loneliness epidemic worse. This channel explains those things sure, but how do we actually solve this rather than just coping? How can we actually fix things in our society/culture?

TinyTitanBOSCO

Dating apps are absolutely WORTHLESS! Don't waste your time! Even if you do end up going on dates with someone from there, chances are they are fucked up in the head and not a person that will be good for you! Good relationships happen organically

moonblastx

It's also worth noting that women use them less than men. You have more competition than in more "natural" environment like, idk, some kind of knitting club. And obviously the kind of women who use those apps tend to care about your looks. That's why they use them

Solution: join a some kind of organisation where you can become friends with bunch of people. You might find a partner among them or through them. Because you spend a lot time with them they no longer see you through simply aesthetics but rather through your personality

Another important tipp - you're not competing against just other men. You're also competing against women's peace. If you can't bring anything good to their lives they'll more likely to stay single. Why get involved in a relationship when it only brings more mess to deal with?

angelikaskoroszyn

This is not only how it works in 2024, this is also how it worked 10 years ago :D. Personally I like reading profiles and see what that person is actually about, but many only link their IG these days.

MrReese

This discounts the fact that humans use visual cues to select healthy and desirable mates. The apps aren't inventing the dynamic, they're simply maximizing it.

jpl

Also, I think we all make a terrible mistake by judging performance on dating apps based on NUMBERS of matches/dates. Because most of us only need one person in the end. So, goal wise, it is much more advantageous to get 2-3 quality matches rather than 100 poor ones, because we have actually more chances to end up in a satisfying relationship in the first case.

nepharis

dating apps are thrash, and the older you become the worst it gets

mikeunkown

I actually had decent success with dating apps and I'm not an attractive person. That wall of text, helps. It helps when you're able to actually put down interests, hobbies, musical tastes, general views about things, and let whoever is reading get an idea as to who you are so they can decide as to whether or not you might get along.

Plus, I only attempted to contact women who also had a wall of text for me to go over so I could tell whether or not we'd get along.

And even if most didn't last past the initial conversation, sometimes they did, and those times were good. I dunno. I think the best chances will come from exploring and trying all avenues.

rickuslastname

I wouldn't completely stop using dating apps, at least the free ones. It's a boost of encounter rate for meeting introverts or people who aren't local but are just a few cities away

MezmerKaiser

Never used a dating app. Never will. Feels too sad

st_duallist

On one hand, I get what's being said here. On the other, the whole "nice guys don't get dates" is much older than any dating app.

AnimeFreakK

This what I’ve been saying. A lot of men don’t know how to take the best pictures of themselves, they don’t know about lighting and angles. I’ll see a ton of guys with poor quality pics and I bet they’re hardly getting swipes. The fact is—quality pictures means everything with this apps. It’s the first step!

hellokittyme