Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps

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[memeabledata]

Corrections and remarks:
- I forgot to mention that I ran the simulation 1000 times for every scenario
- 05:02: "Attractiveness is subjective". A lot of comments argued that attractiveness is NOT subjective, otherwise we wouldn't have such a high inequality in likes for different users. My response to that is that attractiveness is *partially* subjective. A person that I consider to be attractive might not be attractive to you and vice-versa. Therefore, attractiveness has at least some level of subjectiveness.
- 05:50: There's a mistake in the formula of the right chart. It should be f(x) = 14%
- 06:12: The chosen functions were power functions and NOT polynomial functions, as mentioned in the footnote

[codywalden]

Dating for straight women is like shopping. Dating for straight men is like a job interview.

[oneobjective]

The way to separate yourself from the crowd is to not participate. If you ask a woman out in person, no matter how difficult and scary it is, it will instantly put you ahead of everyone else that is too scared to do it. It also shows that at least you're confident and have social skills

[FredSismoS]

To me, the main takeaway of this video is "dude, it is not you the problem, it is the system. Don't kill yourself and don't put yourself down. This is happening with all the average guys out there. Keep your sanity." Great video.

[Terminatortx]

I thought being rejected in person face to face was demoralizing - dating apps make me feel more rejected .

[calimantis]

Best way to describe dating sites/apps that I've heard is that they're "filled with women who get attention they don't want and men who want attention they don't get"

[JK-uche]

As an Engineer working with simulation systems: This video is extremely good. I love how you mark your quotations and how you talk about your thinking process step by step. Keep it up!

[Bubbles]

One reason I stopped using tinder is I had several dates cancel just as I was walking out the door to meet them. Happened 5 or 6 times.
It was as if the reality of actually meeting was too much for them and they were treating tinder like a video game and that's as far as they would go. The time waste was huge. At least they texted to cancel.
Another one that happened, not often but it's a whopper. Getting blatantly used to get a free meal.

Those 2 things did it for me

[glennday]

The business model of the dating app industry is to prey on men that are desperate for a date. It's basic economics.

[mikebranch]

Dating apps increased my depression by 100x

[justanobservation]

The fact that you put your sources in footnotes during the video is amazing! Def wish that was general practice

[ronj]

I used the internet for dating back in the old days of 2000-2010 when you had to put essays along with your pic and be witty. I would meet about 3-6 women in a few weeks in person that I liked and would pick two that I would take seriously and start seeing. All of them said my essays caught their attention. In the swipe world of today, I would lose badly.

[RYUZAKILL]

Even before watching this video, I had the differences clear: A friend and I made our profiles the same day, at the same time, she almost immediately got enough matches to even start using some of the chats as “meme chats” (non-serious conversations), while it took me one whole day to get a single match (and that match ignored me, btw). As the days passed, she had felt so overwhelmed by matches, that she started to think about deleting the app, while in the same time, I only managed to get 3 matches, and all of those 3 ignored me.

[Nois-ufnoc]

If you keep producing content of this quality, there is no way this channel won't blow up.

[ConcreteAdvisory]

I hate that dating is made mostly through apps nowadays.

I genuinely HATE that.

[fieryphoenix]

My dating experience has been as such.

-The date was an awkward disaster.
-The girl tried to scam me before meeting.
-I was talking to a bot.
-The girl was a liar.
-Or the usual, the girl ghosted me.

I was only ever able to hit it off with one girl, and even though we do love each other and have so much chemistry there are so many problems that a long-term serious relationship just doesn't seem possible at the moment.

[TheNormanbro]

Especially last few second explain a lot. You teach more about statistics on this video more than i took in semester. Great video. Great research. I wish you can had more data:( Thank you for this video. Now you are on my list. Great job:)

[bigfriki]

After spending too much time (and money) on dating apps I made a promise to myself to never use a dating app again. And I haven't in over 6 months. No need for that self-humiliation I put myself through every day, making me feel miserable.

[dibidibadibidibou]

Also there is a thing to take into consideration: dating apps are not designed to help men to find women but the exact opposite! The goal is to keep them subscribed as longer as possible!

[Helloreality]

Dude you have so many awesome points here. Thank you for this video... I'm not alone...
Online dating sucks!