Dating apps are more dangerous than you think

Meeting people in real life is hard, maybe harder these days than ever before. When you meet someone in real life and want to ask them on a date, you’re taking a big risk. And we’re all hyper-aware of that risk, well, most of us. The odd thing about this is that even with all of their issues, dating apps seem to work.

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[AmericanVices]

The more choices you give a human, the harder it becomes for he or she to make a choice. That goes for movies on netflix, diner menus, and especially dating apps. The internet has completely ruined personal connections and it will never be the same. If you can, try to meet someone in the real world.

[ProjectDarkWolf]

My roommate once invited someone over to our apartment. I walked in on them on their first date. Both were sat on the couch, on their phones, swiping away on Tinder whilst comparing matches. There was a sad irony to the whole situation.

[nabilfaris]

As somebody who is currently trapped in this world of online dating, I've always known it was a very messed up world and I was aware of the dangers that the algorithms imposed, but this video kind of just summed everything up in a poetic way. The intimacy of dating and getting to know someone is completely lost on their selling point of having unlimited options and always wanting more. Safe to say I will be deleting these dating apps.

[Healthandwealth]

This guy went from space topics to videos about society and I’m for that

[davidyoung]

Dating apps are a waste of time. I've used them in the past and always got hurt. Never again. I think with the advent of online dating, it has made it harder for men especially to find someone. I'm 43 and never had a proper girlfriend. Online dating should be closed down because it causes so many problems.

[psychologic__]

I’ve been thinking about this a lot. Dating Apps will be a contributing factor to the downfall of intimacy. Online, we don’t seem to see the humanity of the people on the other side. We just swipe on what’s appealing to us. When you get a match, you’re likely not the only person that the other person has matched with (especially if you match with a girl). It’s just your turn with them and nothing more. They have dozens of other people to fall back on and everyone is expendable. People will always want more and more as we’re constantly exposed to attractive people online. The grass will always seem greener on the other side and your value is diminished to how attractive you look.

Do not go to dating apps for intimacy.

[migah]

i matched with a girl who ended up getting a boyfriend (she wanted kids, i didnt, so it was never going to work anyways). AFTER getting a boyfriend, i noticed her profile picture changed on tinder. i asked her how come, when she was in a relationship.
she explained something to me, that i never knew, but have since confirmed with several other female friends.

she was still using the account, but simply not responding to matches. it was effectively "a confidence boost" sort of game for her. the idea was, and i quote:
"how many times can i swipe yes until i get a match". she also said the most she ever got was 7, but usually it was only 2-3. she did this usually several times a day if she was feeling down or something was bothering her.

this was about 2 years ago, and to this day that still blows my mind

[norma]

I think dating apps were made with good intentions, but like everything, humanity just takes a good thing and ruins it. It's sad.

[bear]

I had 4 matches on bumble and none made an attempt to reach out. I really question what these people are even doing on a dating app cause the whole point is to find a relationship or hook up but I’m not into that. If you are looking for a relationship, match and don’t message the person PLEASE DO EVERYONE A FAVOR AND STAY OFF THE APP.

[davidwhitney]

I'm 65. Believe me, it wasn't very much fun back in the days of single events (in one I actually did meet my wife of 30 years, the love of my life) and personal ads. Now dating apps seem so much more difficult and unpleasant- it seems- especially if you're a guy- you need skin as thick as the armor on an M1 Abrams tank, no joke. I really feel sad for those who feel they must resort to apps without considering other options, as difficult as they may be...

[PlutoniumSlums]

I gave up on dating apps. I’m not even ready for a serious relationship right now. I’ve been on a self improvement journey lately and feeling a lot more secure about myself. Maybe one day I’ll pique someone’s interest, but not today. And I’m fine with that.

[wastelander]

I bet that the swiping hand movement triggers a psychological effect of discarding people and further increasing our levels of indifference towards others by looking at others like commodities.

[valis]

Honestly, I am the type of person, who is avoiding the whole dating scene, for this exact reason. I want a connection, but not based on appearance, but rather based on interactions, personality, and that feeling of "everything clicks perfectly."

[AlexAlex-kmdb]

A few of my friends met their significant others through Tinder. Like everything, be aware of the dangers and do it in moderation. Not everyone in there is seeking the ego boost, the hook ups, the short fun. A large majority are just busy with their jobs and unable to meet new people.

[VNExperience]

I'm so glad to have found my partner 10 years ago in "the real world". Still remember the first time I saw her and when I subsequently had amassed enough courage to talk to her and ask her out. She remembers it was her who asked me out, and that's probably what actually happened.
If I were younger I'd most likely be using dating apps and would have a completely different memories associated with my first times. That idea scares me and I'm so glad to not have to live in that alternative reality. It seems dystopian.

[rapbattlefan]

Oh my God! THANK People are ALWAYS recommending dating apps. It’s so annoying 🙄. One thing I’ve noticed is it’s always the people who recommend them the most who actually use them the least.

[kirandeepchakraborty]

You've put my cluttered thoughts into a cohesive narrative and thank you for that. ❤️

[wilhelmromoser]

I have been researching and talking about the severe problems plaguing the new generation's romantic interactions. It is a fascinating thing to learn about, because by in large it only "benefits" a tiny minority. I'm glad to see a video bringing it more to light!

[iakinose]

This is why I've refused to ever download a dating app out of principle

[Deviiilz]

Just my opinion but from a person who doesn't fit very well in the world which is driven by social media and apps like TikTok, Tinder etc... I just feel sad and odd when I face topics like this. It's like I have a feeling that we are becoming to be "less humans" in our actions if that makes any sense. Normal human behavior and acts have not lost their power but I think something is shifted and I have no idea where this road will lead us and that's a bit scary for me.