Psychiatrist Tells you What Boundaries are ACTUALLY Healthy

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[iandreihell]

loved the moment when he said what boundaries are actually healthy

[JoshHitti]

This short gives us insight into the fact that we may need to temper our boundaries. However, we’re left with a cliff hanger. How do you determine what boundaries are healthy, and those that aren’t?

[anonymouse]

Compromise is what healthy boundaries are about y’all, THANK U DR. K🙌🙌 like if u wanna be alone for the rest of ur life or have only superficial connections, then ur own boundaries (or titanium walls rather) can be whatever. But if u want more, you’ve gotta COMMUNICATE. Like yes, other ppl should respect u too, obvi. But don’t get mad if ur not putting any effort into communicating & the ppl in ur life are getting sick& tired of it.
Don’t make other ppl feel bad for respectfully expressing themselves, or for being a human who wants to sincerely connect & live their life. We live in the Age of Isolation, building walls around ourselves & calling them “boundaries” is not making the situation better for anyone. I know everyone’s going thru hard times but you’ve still gotta try ur best to take others into consideration. Balancing btw self-care& self-love and giving to others, or learning how to give w/out giving all of yourself or a large chunk of your soul away is what will help u live a happier, more well-rounded life🫶💕

[fernandoi]

I dont like these shorts, they are too simple... I prefer those hour-long sessions with a lot of information!

[UncutWarrior]

Dr K is not good for YouTube shorts lol please everyone watch his actual videos 🤗

[jeffreychandler]

my one BIG gripe with this is it doesn't go the next step of what healthy boundaries and healthy compromise is.
do not erode your boundaries to the point of resentment. do not let people abuse you.

Him playing this like its just a guy that wants to play games all day when theres far more to it, and I'd argue there are more common and more negative unhealthy boundaries people set

[humourlessjester]

I really appreciate him saying "articulate your own boundaries and help them articulate theirs" where most people would say "articulate boundaries to each other" because it clarifies one person's role in boundary setting and not just this skill of articulation be expected from both parties.

[absentabsinthe]

So far the shorts are disappointing: they're vague, out of context, don't lead to said context and in this case are even misleading as if dr K, on first glance, is actually agitated and bitching instead of doing so sarcastically, jumps out of sarcasm then right back in and smothers all this inconclusive mess even further, not a good look for those who check out HG through these shorts
What happened? The channel has cropped out moments at the start of many videos and those look fine yet shorts are, well, this

[selenagomezjaz]

Its werid my bf and I have done this without even knowing. Like we show love in very different ways. I pick on him but he always let's me know when it's too much. And I will always check to see if still feels like im joking. This is a weak example. Buy there are other ways we do this. It's werid because I grew up around such horrible relationships and the first person I date, I get it right, so far at least

[AcidBuu]

If only there were 28 hours a day so I could actually play 28 hours instead of only 24

[elysiadawn]

Yeah, even just meeting the right person became a million times easier when I got super clear about my boundaries. Because like if a guy on okc didn't pay attention to me or show enough interest or caring, I would immediately reject them. Before that I would get to know people based on intelligence and things I liked.. similar interests, etc.. nevermind how they treated me.. :-/ Never worked out well. When I was a teenager I didn't even know what boundaries were.. lol

And for me compromising boundaries just doesn't work.. (I used to do that all the time as I didn't even know what they were.) But I mean, I'm not unreasonable. If you want to play video games when you're dating someone as much as you did when you were single and lonely, perhaps you aren't with the right person.. haha Because I pretty much stopped gaming for a while almost completely after I met my boyfriend.. I preferred to spend that time talking to him. And this wasn't forced on me. haha (I have dated plenty of men I ignored for video games)

[potapotapotapotapotapota]

My boundary is that I don't want my children to be naughty, but because I love them I and understand that they are just children I am able to compromise and will never abandon them no matter how poorly they behave.

[arlaux]

My like two boundaries won’t be compromised, everyone has a list but I have like two MAYBE three. Rest is fair game.

[connorwilliams]

I've always seen boundaries as a personal rule I hold myself to. These could be inverted if the situation calls for it, and the time you spent maintaining the boundary makes the change more meaningful. Everything is always in flux, and personal discretion can help you find the things you want to change and the things you want to keep the same. I wonder if this approach resonates with anyone?

[weird-guy]

You more of a dating coach, if you really want a girlfriend go “outside” instead of watching videos in how to get a girlfriend 😂

[Hussain]

I should be able to play Warcraft for how long!!!

[ST-hlji]

Where is this video? Is it not out yet?

[tonyoik]

If you are too bored to think of a proper title, either don't upload it, or at least link the timestamp of the original video

[Moraenil]

My biggest boundary is that I don't want my parents in my house making abusive comments to me because of the mess of my house. Is it really unrealistic and unhealthy to have such a boundary? The other day my Mom peed in my backyard because I told her she could use my bathroom if she could not say anything about my house. She also doesn't respect the same rules she expects of me in her house (i.e. putting feet & shoes on tables, flushing the toilet, putting the toilet seat down, throwing away your own garbage, all those basic manners and housebreaking). Can't we have basic rules and expect basic manners and not be abused and have a safe space? I would think these basics would be healthy, yet I'm not allowed to have these.

[kylejohnson]

I wish these shorts would have a pinned comment with a link to the video it's from, so we can get the full context/explanation