Ethics in Therapy! Is your therapist treating you right?

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[TheAmaraHorton]

After having counseled a few of my therapists, I have decided it is time to become my own therapist.

[keithwasser]

Interesting subject. I had once had a therapist in Orange County California who I had been seeing after the end of a long term relationship. I felt really bad at the time. I began dating a gal during the course of my therapy who I found out was seeing the same therapist I was seeing. When I went to my next session I told my therapist, whom I'll call 'John', that I was seeing one of his clients. John looked perplexed and told me that he was jealous, which I thought was kind of weird.

The next time I saw the girl whom I was dating she told me that the therapist "John" told her that "she should not be dating me", that I had "too many problems and that things would never work out." Of course I called "John" and after using some choice words, I terminated my therapy with him immediately. When I mentioned the incident to my family physician, seeing him for a routine check up, my physician pleaded with me to file a complaint against the therapist. My physician said, "It's idiots like that who give us all a bad name."

[skeletonskyline]

my first therapist (out of two) told me she wouldn't tell my parents anything without my permission unless she saw I was a danger to myself or to others, then turned around and told my mom EVERYTHING

[KMill-xbuc]

Too many therapist abuse their power and are not using proper communication stategies. These horrible experiences are too common....

[rowshanquema]

I had a therapist tell me once I was a liar..that I made up all of my childhood trauma. Uhhh..WHAT?!?! No wonder she couldn't help me with that and ultimately kicked me to the curb..with NO REFERRALS! You can say I am still traumatized by this..

[davidgreaves]

I need a counsellor to get over my last counsellor who I saw in order to get over the previous one to recover from my first who was an a**hole

[annehedelius]

My therapist blamed me for everything. Looking back I can see how sick it was, but at the time it was familiar like my mother and I wanted to fix it. The best thing I ever did was to find a new therapist.

[beetlewhoisalsoabee]

I have schitophrenia. When I was about twelve, I went to a therapist. She said it was impossible for someone so young to have schitophrenia. She diagnosed me with OCD (the voices was her reason for that) and said that I had an over active imagination.

Years later, I finally went to another therapist who treated me better. I am feeling a lot better now.

[SediluWarrior]

One of the obvious flaws in the therapy system is that there’s not enough practical help for clients and patients. There are a lot of people who have zero normal support in their life, which means they can’t get the same things done as those who do have support from family, friends or a partner.

So more assistance would be very helpful and appropriate. It’s just not available for those who are not very wealthy, (like a lot of Hollywood stars)

You’re not crazy or inappropriate if you need more help - it’s just that the help isn’t available to most people.

[tangerinefizz]

I had a college counselor tell me I was unattractive when my self-esteem was in the basement of rock bottom and I was dealing with bullying, and she offered no solutions. She was basically pessimistic in general and offered no solutions.

[darynadixon]

I had one great therapist but she retired. But she truly worked with me and I have grown and changed over time.

[WoodlandT]

I feel like I finally found the right therapist. Your video supports my sense that we're doing this right, lol. He does allow me to text under somewhat less dire circumstances than suicidal ideations. My mothers has been critically in hospital for going on three months. But even still that has happened maybe 3 times and he gets back to me when he can. There's no expectation of dialogue outside of session. More often I have something exciting I'd like to share that has gone great and I save it for the office. I have faithfully participated in therapy for years. But for the first time and even in the midst of my mothers health crisis, I see that I can be whole again someday & content in my life. Find the right person, work hard & things really can get better. You can do it.

[contradictortea]

My therapist tells me I can call her any time and she tells me she's going to check up on me throughout the week to see if I'm reaching my goals (which, I'm not..). She lectures me all the time when I don't reach a goal, saying how I "haven't done anything" over the year I've been there. She asks me why I'm "still here, " and then turns around and says that I've gotten a lot better. If I haven't been trying, how have I gotten better? She compares me to my mom and the other members in my group, too. ..She also tells me everything we talk about is between us...

[cadmantheaviator]

I got very depressed after three weeks of group analytic therapy. I realised there was techniques being used that made no sense, intentionally and I questioned this and got silence. I got more and more depressed. I wanted to leave, but kept getting encouraged to stay. I've read way way too much literature now on psychotherapy and I am utterly astounded at the ethics. "Positive manipulation" "give the resistant patient something baffling." "Hold with love in one hand and spank their bottom with the other." There's so many version of "therapy" that I think it's really disingenuous to not explain what they are going to do. I thought I was going psychotic. I couldn't understand why whatever I said was flipped, ignored, twisted or just answered with a non-sequitur. It's left me in a mess, with a therapist I basically want to scream at. I can't get that time back. 15 months. I'm still confused and suffering from the deceitful, cruel and ultimately totally pointless time I gave. Erickson's Confusion Technique should be not be used. I came close to suicide three times during my 15 months of group analytic therapy. Erickson was into hypnosis and creating a "void" in the patient's mind, which the therapist can then insert their view, value, perspective. I studied Psychology. I am aghast that this passes for ethical treatment. SH Foulkes wrote to deliberately avoid giving the patient information in advance. How do people ever return to therapy once they've unconvered things about it that seem dangerous?

[kiki]

my (ex)therapist was not the best. I started going to her because i was depressed and suicidal, she gave me no coping skills (I already had and ED, but didn't have the courage to tell her). Then finally months later, i told her about my ED and she  said "I am not specialized in treating eating disorders, here are some worksheets to help you, good luck." Then she never talked about it again. I stopped seeing her because she was very unhelpful.

[hillaryvalgardson]

I am currently an undergraduate in psychology who has the goal of becoming a clinical psychologist. I am particularly interested in eating disorders, NSSI and addiction. I appreciate your passion for helping other people, and your clarity and conciseness in your videos. I would love to see a video about your journey to becoming a therapist.

[SuperMcdew]

Thank you for this great video. I started seeing a therapist last summer and stopped when she started judging me and getting angry at me..I said I was hoping things would get better with my boyfriend and she replied angrily that I was neurotic and when would I understand that it would never get better and that if he loved me enough he would already have made some changes...I was shocked. I need to point out that my boyfriend is kind and what we need to work out are usual couple issues and not horrible things such beating me or anything !

[mikkokorhonen]

Just wanted to note that there are therapies where keeping contact and/or allowing contact (even fregvent and at odd hours) is a part of the therapy! DBT for one and many trauma therapies as well. Also many humanistic approaches favor e-mail contact if it feels ok to both parties. I think that some rules are needed in this though, and yes it is the therapists responsibility to set the rules, and we can't (at least I can't) always be on call... but I do work in a setting and under a therapy field where e-mail/phone calls (sometimes more than one between sessions) offers such a huge benefit to the work I do (trauma therapy with DID clients) that I would actually highly recommend it! The goal is for them to one day go with out e-mails and therapy all together, but for the time they are in therapy many of them go through periods of fregvent contact and/or need skill building inbetween sessions and I never promise to answer them right away but I never punish them for needing the contact or extra support. I trust that in due time we will get to a point where that is no longer needed and in most cases that has been the case. At least with highly traumatized people where they might go in and out hospital, be highly suicidal and at times be barely functionin at all, you just have to approach therapy from a more flexible point of view. Not gratify every wish, but if you a point a certain time in your day for e-mails and think of it as being part of your job, (like everything else you do outside of the therapy session; educating yourself, supervision, planning for your next session etc), then you don't get irritated or feel it as an extra. I think of it as being a part of my job description and have found ways to incorporate it to my daily schedule and seen so many times how it helps and speeds the process for the client that I just really wanted to stress the point that for more complex client base contact between sessions is not in every case a red flag, quite the opposite!

[martherhale]

i went to a support worker who told me i wasn't suffering ptsd when i had been diagnosed by a professor. She said cruel things about me and my loved ones. I couldn't believe what i was hearing Because of this i hide . Myself away and am afraid of meeting people.

[Hannahosborn]

I'm scared of therapy because as a teenager who had zero self esteem and an emotionally abusive father and verbally and emotionally abusive step father I went to counseling. She asked me what's been going on and what were the reasons I was there. I told her what had been going on. She stood up and got in my face and started calling me names and insulting me. I felt like I had to fight to get to the door to run away.
I dont know how to get over this. Its left an enormous scar on me