Why Men Feel Useless

I dive deep into two critical factors that impact men's lives: the need to feel useful and needed. I share my personal journey through dark times and the lessons I’ve learned after years of working with men. We explore societal narratives, cultural challenges, and how men can reclaim their sense of purpose. This is a call to action for anyone who wants to support men in finding fulfillment and thriving in today’s world.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Introduction
02:15 - The Struggles of Adolescence
04:32 - Two Things Men Need
07:10 - Cultural Narratives and Their Impact
12:03 - Finding Your Path to Purpose
15:11 - Closing Thoughts and Call to Action

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⚡️ WHO IS CONNOR BEATON & MANTALKS?
Welcome to the ManTalks YouTube channel. I’m Connor Beaton, and my mission is to help men break through the barriers holding them back.
Whether it’s in your relationships, your career, or your mental health, this channel is dedicated to giving you the tools, conversations, and insights you need to step into the man you’re meant to be.
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[amyaubuchon]

Your videos have really helped me in my relationship. I value and love my partner so much and I always want him to feel needed and appreciated. You've helped me understand him. ❤

[tess]

I have 4 brothers and have always had empathy for men, and have always seen the value and necessity of men.

[JklHints-Tips]

As man myself what feels hopeless is speaking open with a women about deep desires, but at the end the of day they don't fill the desires

[donfabian]

Thanks a lot for sharing! I grew up in a household with a mother who herself had a hard time when growing up, stating to me several times that nobody was interested in her and she totally felt invisible when growing up. My father was absent a lot of the time, working his ass of since he migrated to the country I grew up and he had to blend in perfectly. I guess that these notions of uselessness and not being wanted or seen have often a lot to do with what your parents experienced themselves. I have a son and I am so aware of the importance that I play in his life. If you have kids, regardless of boys or girls, be there for them. Guide them through life. Show them that they are appreciated and loved. It will make a huge difference in their lives. And for the ones like me having suffered like so many other men: don't give up! It's a hard and long process to lean into the fear, the pain and the despair. But it's worth the struggle!

[kellyt]

I value and respect men in my life so much. I always try to show my appreciation to them. Videos like these really show me that there is a NEED to take better care of our men.

[WolfxxBite]

Until you do the inner work to change your bad behaviors, like lashing out when a girl isn't giving you what you want, you'll just continue to live in bitterness and loneliness.

I'm saying this as a man who used to blame society and women for all my problems. It was only when I started working on my self that things began to change.

These influencers will just keep saying what you wanna hear, because your view time = money for their channel. Get off youtube, do the inner work. Figure out where your parents failed to give you enough love as a child and start providing that for yourself. THEN you can worry about dating and everything else.

[shawnbruce]

Thank You for this video. Abusive relationships whether Man / Woman, Family, social or business Will take a mental, physical and Spiritual tole on one.

[onplanetbanana]

Damn, Connor - I've listened to quite a few dozen hours of your content at this point & can definitely hear the difference in your voice that tells me it was extremely hard to share this. I am a woman in a relationship with a man who has been doing the work & i just want to say how grateful I am for men like the both of you. Those ARE the types of men that i do feel like women need.

I was verbally & physically abused by my dad growing up. So in my 30s, I understand where some women are coming from. But to me the solution is to get to the root of the issues plaguing the differences between the sexes & meet each other with understanding while celebrating the differences.

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I'm going to continue to do my part to foster emotional safety for the men in my life like my significant other & perhaps any future sons. Thank you for doing your part. 🤎

[jackdeniston]

Nor just online, it is EVERYWHERE. And has been at least 40 years.
The really big evil is the being needed, doing what is needed, and not being recognised for carrying that burden.

[pmh]

A major thing is that it is very easy to get stuck in our stories especially from early childhood and the childhood thinking which will flare up, holds it back as it is unprocessed and unnurtured.

[okaySam]

One piece of advice from someone who works in film and advertising; I highly recommend not using stock b-roll footage to emphasize your points in these kinds of videos. The sudden insert of a random shot does not have the effect you might think it has, quite the opposite. I know a lot of big channels do this kind of stuff, but it's not the right thing to copy imo. It's cheap, tasteless and hard to get right - so it's better to omit it completely. Respectfully. I appreciate the content.

[Kreetoh]

Thanks so much for your sharing, as always. 🙏 appreciate you, brother.

[afandifitri]

I just found your channel man. Love the content brother

[fjkjoutru]

When I read Men's Work, I found myself very interested in related topics. In this episode, you mentioned the author of Of Boys and Men, so now I am reading this book and using this issue to help me learn English. I really like Yung's perspective！！！❤

[DavidGotelli]

I don't feel useless I just feel invisible lol

[Levandetag]

Good to listen to, a man who is enough Real to dare to question stuff. Thank you!
Not just accept how it seems, most is not as it seems, when we are afraid of each others.

...and women are also feeling this, I do.
I have had to carry too much of both roles, male and female, over the yrs. Tired.
Have been so tired of men and some females, who think it is a womans role, to be overused, carrying everything, looking after every one and doing too much, or having to explaining whats in him, if he do not want to question, or ever talk of what he has been through, as vulnerable as he can. Many just run away from difficult communications.
Also, women have a problem with, daring to put words on what feels in them.
I had, earlier in my life, as I too, was so indoctrinated in roles we had to adopt to.

Listen to you is Good Medicine for both men and women. Equality, and differences, can if we let them be so much better than walking on each others feet, and nagging on each others. I have felt the same as you do, and I am a woman.
Still curious on what Life is, or can be. And what drives I do have inside of me, and question them.

We have to help each others up, on our grounded feet again. Both genders, have to help each others.
Not condemning the differences.Celebrating them <3

And boys too, have a need for better educations, rolemodels, than they had for some years. Who teach them how to be men, not tough guys, MEN with both brains and hearts curious, and stable open enough.
I believe both genders need to question, free themselves and change what they have been taught they have to be.

[bobthegamer]

Powerful video thank you for what you do 🙏🏼

[deepblvejeer]

No one should ever be left questioning whether or not they are needed in the world. I fear that in recent times, our culture has focused too much on telling men what not to do and who not to be rather than what to do and who to be. I hope to see a world where both men and women enthusiastically help and support each other with their unique challenges. Love to all in the comments.

[skffingtonai]

Modern men need to dig deep and find their purpose. My story is not important, although I dare say most people would have gone insane or deleted themselves had they walked in my shoes since the day of birth. I refuse to categorize myself as a 'victim' and have generally overcome the cards I was dealt. Those 'fake cards' which were forced upon me were discarded, the good ones kept, and overall replaced with a brand new fistful of cards of my choosing. It's better to ask for forgiveness than to beg for permission. Adopt and live the attitude: "Failure is not an option."

[matthewrenko]

Thanks, that one hit pretty deep. Knocked the wind out of me a bit