Top 10 avoidant red flags 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

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[JSS]

They are such difficult people, yet somehow make you feel like the difficult one

[Fnx]

So it’s an total asshole, and it stems from his childhood. Very similar to a narc, except the narc has the intent to hurt. But they are both still nightmare assholes to their partners

[anglodath]

what's the difference between "avoidant" & "asshole"?

[هُناعبير]

I should’ve known you a year ago and saved myself from this miserable 18 months I had with an avoidant .. I read lots of books on attachment theory but you pinpointed this so clearly that I had zero doubts about it. At least your content helped me break up with him. And yes he’s breaking no contact and didn’t communicate a peaceful closure although I did. Breaking up with him feels like closing a pandora box that keeps opening itself and I have the adult responsibility of closing it each time ..

[citizenoz]

I've lived through 10 out of 10 of these... never ever ever again. And now she is with someone she tells me she "thinks is a narc" and "just isn't sure about him". Seriously... why tell the person you discarded this?

[migueld]

My ex of 7 years had every single one of these red flags and she had me convinced I was the problem all along

[ellakaddouri]

Avoidance is always always childhood trauma

[lum]

Jesus christ. I shouldhave watched this video while i was together with my ex to save myself months long depression after his discard. Especiaally the "independence" thing is such a big sign, i can't even count how many times my ex told me "i like my independence" out of nowhere and i was like okay, no one is locking you up there buddy chill😅 but these people need therapy otherwise they will crusch your heart...

[MattCassCook]

Absolutely nailed all of it Ryan. My ex is all of these things. Everything could be amazing but she had to sabotage all the time. We spend an amazing day together and boom… disappears. NOT NORMAL.

[Ken-odgc]

To number 10, flaking on plans, I would also add talking a big game but never following through. Not so much future planning, but things like "hey we should get together weekly to have dinner and watch a movie or just hang out". And then nothing. And then when you call them on it its invariably "I'm too busy/work/stress/water is wet/sky is blue etc pattern of no excuse excuses". That is the one I actually picked up on, but she actually gave me just enough string to keep me chasing. Horrific experience.

[dannycolwell]

If she had communicated to me at all about any feelings, I would have worked to reconcile things. Instead she pulled away for weeks and then laid out the things about me she found “triggering” at the moment of breakup. I’m frustrated.

[Vickey-bt]

These behaviors are rather complicated for my little mind. If I like you and you like me and if there are shared values and no mind games a friendship could be built. If not, I'll stay in my own yard.

[vixter]

Only time he talked about anything is when he was drunk !
Alcoholic!
Couldn’t get anything out of him sober !
No he was married for 25 years but cheated!
So toxic !!
He met me months later after left his wife

[firefly]

#Avoid the Avoidant .
I wish I had, so not worth the constant head fk 😬

[zhengzhang]

It’s exactly a picture of my avoidant ex. Too late to know he is a severe avoidant at the beginning of situationship decorated as serious relationship. Lot of red flags such as white lies, triangulations, sarcasm insults and awkward moments since

[laszloreich]

I hate myself to go in to that "beneficial" hate myself

[Ruthforme]

😲Wow!!! My ex had practically ALL of these.

I never knew or heard of an avoidant before you Coach.

Thank you so much!!🎉

[Joshuavbarr]

I just recently ended a relationship with an avoidant and this video was spot on about the red flags. One that was missing was them bragging about ghosting people. Mine did that and I thought it was strange but it all makes sense now that I understand what an avoidant is. My avoidant actually popped in about an hour before I saw this video and I told her to buzz off. I told her I didn't need that kind of energy around me and wished her well in life.

I'm grateful to these videos because these videos prepared me for what to do when that person did pop back in. I'm sure she'll be back again later but these videos really helped me to see that those are not the kind of people I want in my life. It has also forced me to do a lot of internal dialogue with myself about what made me attract these kind of people and has helped me to do the inner work necessary to become more and more secure moving forward. Thank you Coach Ryan.

[MD-gkun]

Ryan, thank you for validating my sanity...I've thought maybe I was crazy for years with him.

[emlinc]

You described him to the TEE!!! Smfh he makes me feel uneasy, full of anxiety and drained I'm trauma bonded and I'm praying asking God to change the situation somehow. It hurts being involved but it also hurts to think about walking away. I hate this feeling. I need calmness inner peace. God help me. Please who ever is reading this pray for my inner peace and hopefully this situation turning around better than I could've imagined. 🙏💖✨️