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In this video, I talk about the top 6 red flags that the fearful avoidant attachment style looks out for when dating.

Which red flag do you struggle most recognizing and why?

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[S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier]

1- people who lack passion / unexcited people
2- untrustworthy people
3- arrogant people
4- shallow / superficial people
5- people who put high expectations on them
6- people who lack transparency

[bp]

Hope you would be flattered to know that I had brunch with a friend who is a professor of psychology at a fairly prestigious university a couple weeks ago, debriefed her on my first (and preferably last) FA experience that ended in August. She proceeded to recommend your channel as a good resource to learn accurate info, told her "already there". Thought you might appreciate hearing that. Always appreciate what you provide. Turned a completely baffling experience into a comprehensible one for me

[Revolution-tlwo]

I could also add that incongruency is a huge turn-off. If you say you feel one way about a thing and then demonstrate a behavior toward that thing that indicates feeling a different way, it's a sign of incongruency to me. Worse still is when people say one thing and do another, or don't follow through on their word. Listening to this list, it sees weird that FAs get in relationships with DAs so often, since DAs come off as the definition of incongruent, lacking transparency, untrustworthy, superficial, and arrogant. Or maybe I'm just speaking for myself. Or maybe the DAs don't start doing that stuff til after they hook a person, IDK.

[morningview-ok]

Hearing this is like hearing myself being described back to me - thank you for validating my experience!

[tahirabruce]

😂😂😂 the fact that the first one is the main reason why I don’t allow so many dating prospects to get any further lolol

all of these are very accurate as well. Always love feeling seen and understood by you as a FA and learning so much. ❤

[lrain]

Can Thais block the person who's sending everyone messages for spells on here!!
Apart from that I Absolutely agree. Hate it when someone is closed off emotionally and if someone is more interested in themselves than getting to know me.

[Borboleta]

100% agree! Although ...wouldn’t most of these be red flags for securely attached people also? Who wants someone untrustworthy or shallow?
I agree that FAs have a greater need than average for some of the other elements such as depth, passion etc (I was an FA ....now only about 20% FA and much more secure and better at communicating my needs 🥰 )
Your channel is always on point 💯💓👏

[soul-etude]

Will a secure person tolerate all of those????

[Michelle-qqsd]

You hit the nail right on the head. All true. 😊

[Lovedis]

This resonated with me 1000% thank you

[lisalee]

This was funny because i often attract men who try to hit on me being arrogant and they are left so confused when i run, i think they attract a lot of other women with this but i’m just repelled. Shallow people are also the worst. And when people have high expectations of me i give up before even trying and lose interest if it’s a person, job or whatever. When my boss for example tells me i got this and that i can relax i do a way better job then if he tells me i have to be like this and that

[jennylopez]

Oh wow. These are absolutely the things that give me the ick in dating. I could think of specific examples with each one that changed how I saw someone I was dating. These videos are disturbingly accurate.

[sterlingsmith]

My experience with my FA gf of 4 years is that more than anything they hate to engage in deep conversations about the relationship, their feelings, the future, bf feelings, what they want out of relationship, their needs, bf needs, bf desires. My gf would only talk about the news, weather, people, and family. Entirely superficial and flat.

[surfreadjumpsleep]

Would love to see the video: top 6 red flags that your date is fearfully avoidant

[sheilam]

Unless I am mistaken, won't most of these things end up being the things the FA will eventually do later in a committed relationship before leaving?
Their red flags sound like the deactivating strategies they employ later.

[lauriejean]

So accurate! Also I'm curious why you don't use the language of "disorganized attachment"?

[Rainy_Fernandez]

I love all your videos. I’m a fearful avoidant and everything has been spot on

[htc]

This is funny, because these are the things that some FA’s fail to give to their partners, lol.

[roshalllambert]

lollll run million miles per hour was a funny analogy!! Also I knew she would put up the trustworthy point in here

[osbonoam]

Having a fearful avoidant/pwBPD run from you is a gift