Overcoming Fearful Avoidant Attachment: 5 Signs Of Healing | HealingFa.com

Discover the 5 signs that show you're healing from a fearful avoidant attachment style. Whether you're at the beginning or in the midst of your journey, understanding the milestones can make the process smoother and more rewarding. Let's dive into your emotional transformation.

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I'm always looking for ways to help you in your healing journey. These healing cards reveal what it looks and feels like to be healed. These affirmations will make healing the fearful avoidant attachment style so much easier.
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00:00 Intro
03:18 My relationship is healthy and stable & there’s no doubts/drama
05:18 I’m okay with being vulnerable
08:02 I don’t get triggered easily and if I do I can handle those triggers so much better
12:11 I’m not afraid of people anymore
14:28 I allow myself to be human
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This video is the about Overcoming Fearful Avoidant Attachment: 5 Signs Of Healing. But It also covers the following topics:

Healing Fearful Avoidant Attachment
Fearful Avoidant Recovery
Attachment Style Transformation

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✅ About Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful-avoidant.

The way you feel right now is not the way you are. If you want more freedom, calm, love, and peace in your head, body, and life, it is possible. You are not too broken.
‌After spending 14 years healing the fearful avoidant attachment style, I am beyond passionate and dedicated to getting you to where I am now: living a life true to myself, waking up feeling rested and peaceful. Deeply in love with my husband and looking forward to the future. This is what life is supposed to be like, and it is my honor to help you get there.
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In the past 7 years, I have guided over 2000 people through my Dutch programs (I am from the Netherlands), to a secure attachment and happy relationship. Over the past year and a half, another 150 beautiful people have been through the English program Healed&Happy. I love seeing how lives can change within three months, and how NORMAL it can feel to have a secure attachment. I wish you so much joy, pleasure, and love.

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[liggos]

I think in fact, there is less you can do to heal whatever insecure attachment style by yourself alone. Healing I think requires interaction with a securely attached person or a "simulation" of such person ie a therapist, or both. Sometimes I feel that insecurely attached persons miss a lot in life, struggling with their fears and their put-downs everyday. They have to put too much effort and energy to resolve their internal conflicts for the rest of their lives. On the other hand securely attached persons have everything set up emotionally by their beginning of their life and during childhood or even adolescence. This gives them the opportunity to blossom socially, educationally, professionally ect without necessarily struggling and feeling shame, while insecurely attached people require "2 lives or even more" conquering a part of these things in life. That's my perspective up to now. Correct me if I said something that "does not make sense", I would like to have your comments.

[Andreabijelonja]

I can’t believe I found something so familiar to me. Actually I’ve already destroyed my relationship, because I was convinced that we are setting ourselves for failure and that I can’t be with him, it felt heavy. And yes I had a lot of abuse in my life, so I couldn’t have rational picture about anything connected with my emotions. After realising how much he meant to me, and realising how much love I feel, i just got blocked and needed to escape relationship. I thought my need for breaking up was because he is not for me. But still I was confused, because how one day u can love someone so much, and the other just get detached, distant, and felt all this guilt towards yourself. Year after, I think he was the best thing ever happened to me and I’m pretty detached but I know that no matter how afraid and repulsive I was, I really loved him. It ended badly and now I want to work trough this. Thank you a lot:)

[melissasmuse]

Thank you! You’re really beautiful inside and out! Appreciate your wisdom 🦉

[tori]

I know it’s off topic but you look so much like Scarlett Johansson. Prettier though!

[kompowiec]

thank you for this video, I needed it so much

[lifeisbeautiful]

Thanks for the affirmation, I recomand recording them with your own voices and listen to them when you're in a theta state

[aaliyahwilliams]

Hi Pauline! Thank you for the video as usual! I have 2 questions for you! 1. I have the same problem with blaming my partner for things a lot. Could you possibly make a video on steps to stop doing that? And 2. Is it normal to kind of "block out" your partner? Like I'm not super into getting to know my partner as much as I'd like and I have trouble getting to know him. I also kind of forget good memories that we make and then it makes me feel bad because he remembers them and I dont

[Anne.....]

Hi Paulien, can I ask you a question? If someone acts disrespectful or unkind to you, now that you have healed the fearful avoidant attachment style, du you then just state the vulnerable feelings that it evokes? Or do you get angry and put down a boundary? Or what does it look/feel like as a healed person?
A short while ago I was with some "family" members and we sat and talked, and one of them, a woman, constantly interrupted me. When I asked another person a question, then this woman immediately asked the other person another question, so that the other person did not answer my question, but started answering the woman's question. Literally every time I spoke the woman interrupted me in some way and (after I read about projective identification) I got the feeling that this woman tried to relocate some unwanted feeling in herself onto me (the feeling of being worth less, being undeserving of attention, being ostracized) so that she did not have to feel these feelings herself. I sadly identified with the projection and got triggered into a child state of feeling worthless, uninteresting, not belonging, helplessness and shame, and in the days afterwards I was overcome with feelings of loneliness, pain, desperation, powerlessness etc. I talked to my therapist about what I should do to avoid ending up in such a situation again, and she thought that anger in this situation might be a healthy ting so that I could say to the woman another time that I don´t like it when she keeps interrupting me. But I am really confused about whatt a healthy reaction would look like? Would a healthy person show their vulnerability and say for instance: "When you keep interrupting me, I feel really worthless, uninteresting and helpless and as if I am not accepted and valued in this group of people", or would it be healthy to say: "When you keep interrupting me, I get angry, would you please stop doing that and let me get a word in on the conversation"?
I am sorry for the long question, and of course you don't have to answer it. Thank you for the video, I really appreciate your videos, and I am happy for you that you have healed the fearful avoidant attachment style.
Kind regards

[denissececena]

Hi Pauline, I sent you an email via your website a few days ago. Hoping I can join your program. Thank you.

[sunbeam]

Do you have to be in a healthy relationship to be healed? Cos strangely I felt I was healed enough right after a break up. When a person I loved ran away from me and it didn't hurt nearly as as much as before. I didn't blame them nor myself, nor felt shame or inadequacy, I just accepted it with compassion for us both. Before, I would have felt so off balance but now I feel stable, I have my job, my friends, my family, my hobbies and yes it would be nice to share all that with someone but it's not up to me lol. So my question is, can we heal even thought we are single? Although I m aware only a healthy relationship will probably be able to come confirm that.

[Heyokasirenieisxso]

What are your intuitions of fearful avoidant and polyamory ?

what if different people bring out different styles, with one more anxious the other avoidant another full out fearful avoidant and even perhaps a secure one too ?

[EsseQuamVideriSeen]

I absolutely love your videos. Your insights are so deep and resonaten so strongly with me.

But I think we FAs (or ACs as I call myself) need to stop looking at emotions as positive or negative. We need to accept all feeling. Labelling emotions one way or the other might make us feel unworthy for feeling something labelled negative.

There are no negative emotions.

There are no positive emotions.

There are only emotions.

And these emotions are our guides. These emotions are signs of how things are going and to let us know if what is going on deep within us, in that bottom part of our psychological iceberg.

I fear if I label emotions. If one comes along that I perceive as negative I will get out the toilet plunger and try to shove it down. I won't take time to analyze it. I won't take time to seek it's source. I won't allow that feeling to be felt, and, in turn, to run its course. Only then can I hope for the roots of that emotion to be healed.

Anyway, keep up the awesome work you are doing. You are such a huge inspiration to me Pauline.

English may be your second language but you are so fluent in the language of love ❤

[charmedfosure]

Is it possible that sometimes you get to worse or are at your worst before getting better?