5 Key Ingredients Every Fearful Avoidant Must Have To Trust Their Partner!

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Rebuilding Trust & Overcoming Jealousy in your Relationships

Do you want the 5 things every fearful avoidant must have in order to trust their partner?
In this video, Thais Gibson shares 5 key ingredients that every fearful avoidant must have in order to trust their partner while having a thriving relationship!

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00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:16 - What Is The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
00:01:08 - Foundation of Trust
00:09:23 - Ingredient #1: Vulnerability
00:09:35 - 7-Day Free Trial: Overcoming Broken Trust
00:10:39 - Ingredient #2: Accountability
00:11:19 - Ingredient #3 & 4: Transparency and Validation
00:12:42 - Ingredient #5: Consistency & Congruency
00:13:45 - Summary

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I’m Thais Gibson, welcome to my channel, and thank you for stopping by!

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[karencoleman]

1.Vulnerabilty
2. Accountability w/mistakes
3.Transparent (context w/why it happened)
4.Validation
5. Consistency, Congruency & consideration
The foundations of TRUST

[LSGO]

I’m a FA and I approve of this message.

[kittykat.]

I had an FA ex and I was becoming FA just through being with him. There was so much inconsistency in that relationship, I never knew if he wanted me to come closer or pull back. I always needed to have 'backup plans' incase he cancelled last minute. It's hard to be there for an FA when the FA is not being there for you. One moment you get love bombed and the next they pull right back. You never know if you or coming or going.

[shauty]

Man I was consistent, congruent, considerate, transparent, vulnerable… and she still pushed me away but I could tell she wasn’t ready to work WITH me… so I had to let get go

[Sidera]

I changed attachment styles in adulthood. I was an anxious attacher until I met my ex spouse, who knew how to steady that part of me. But once we got married I became disabled and he was my primary caregiver and our relationship started to fall apart. He become aggressive, manipulative, unpredictable, harsh, and leveraged my health and medical care over my head. I never knew what it was like to be around such an unpredictable person and having them in charge of my wellbeing, I can only imagine what children with unpredictable parents go through. After we divorced, I realized with subsequent dating I now was fearful avoidant and very chaotic in subsequent relationships. I can’t even form friendships anymore bc most of the time I am just dismissive or feel dead inside and prefer my own company. I get lonely sometimes but I have no energy left to start any more relationships.

[LeeChrissy]

Thank you for clarifying that a FA is actually a Disorganized Attachment. I thought I was an AP, but I took the quiz and it came back FA and it makes so much more sense to me. I was starting to think I might be bipolar, but I only seem to get this anxiety when I date someone I care about. It's awful....especially when dealing with a DA who's possibly a FA too. I honestly think it's best to walk away (again lol) and do some deeper work on myself. We went from situationship to relationship back to situationship and I don't see a solution. We haven't dated anyone else but each other and he always comes back when I leave. I just don't know how to let myself trust and feel safe. Just a few days ago I felt great about us and now I'm a low-key wreck and he's doing nothing wrong. I don't feel fully comfortable in a relationship or out of one.

[daniP]

It hit Home 100% when you said for FA, love can be lovely and very scary at the same time. When I feel love and happiness I immediately feel saddened and cry bc I love someone. It is really really hard to feel comfortable in that feeling

[nataliexo]

I have been following you since April last year, so almost about a year.
But I am so happy with the PDS channel. There is less info around on the FA attachment style, than the others attachment styles.
Hearing about the “fa tedencies” really makes me feel less alone or crazy. It makes me understand myself more, and from where certain reaction to situations comes from.
As a fearful avoidant it can feel very lonely, I often don’t understand myself, which makes it harder to know how to handle the situations and how to perceive them in a healthy way than out of the damaged woman.
So thank you for making this content 🥺

[ng-marc]

❤️🥂 As an FA, 💯 agree. Building trust is everything. Relationships are 💯💯. Learning how to trust love, family, friends has been my life journey. A never ending story of discovery. Nothing has helped me more than this channel and PDS. Thank you, thank you, thank you 🎉❤

[kevangelisti]

Isn't this how everyone should behave in relationships? I'm FA but also I can't imagine a secure person not wanting consistency, compassion, etc!

[gogohappygirl]

Spot on as always! I’ve been watching your channel for 2.5 years now and I am a PDS member, and I cannot thank you enough for all your wonderful content, especially on the FA & DA. Prior to finding this channel, I had only briefly dated here and there in between long stretches of not dating at all. Now I am finally in a relationship, going on nearly 2 years. I honestly think I wouldn’t have gotten to this point had it not been for your amazing channel and all the heart and soul you put into it.

[notyourturkey]

As an FA this was extremely helpful for me to see an example of what my unconscious patterns might be and how to work through them! Thank you!

[Regina.Clarke]

All of these are so on point!!!! As I said to my ex the math was mathing. If you follow this, you can get an FA to open up and build something beautiful.

[tinkerz]

Im an FA and the inability to trust is so painful. Often I don’t know who or whether I can depend on someone.
And yes.. when I don’t feel I can trust or it’s broken-I’ll deactivate.

[GEOFFAMORTON]

It’s funny. I had a friend who recently barrelled back into my life with a big “I miss you so much” and asking if she could call. I couldn’t take that call when she asked as my boss happened to call me at the very same time, and I wanted to be able to give her my complete attention. But I didn’t want to just leave her hanging. She asked if she could call and I wasn’t going to just leave her hanging. So I set up another time where we could talk uninterrupted… but come that time, suddenly “oh, in a few hours”, and then in that few hours “oh, I’m just so busy, another day?”… which ultimately she ignored all my attempts to set up. But I tell you, my thought when she started putting me off was “oh god, not you too”. I’d had enough bullshitters in my life and I knew she wasn’t “busy” on that day. I could have handled “I’m really not up for a call, could we just text for a while?” But that sense that someone who had always been constant with me suddenly jerking me around… that ended up triggering some of my issues, which ended up triggering her issues, which…. Silence.

[SEVENTHREEANDNINE]

It’s important for us FAs to learn first to trust ourselves again. Trust we are worthy of expression, valuable humans and we will be ok if another needs space or is hurtful (because they are growing / learning on the journey). Trusting ourselves that we made the best choices at that time Trust me I can think of my stories where people really were outright manipulative mean bitchy etc. that’s them not how I operate.. it’s been almost 5 decades to finally feel I’m able to constructively request resolution with people including those from the past. And no more doormat or taking it like a man even tho I’m definitely a feminine women. FAs have to be strong to spend so much time on their own. We need others to support our cause too. ❤

[mercymunoz]

This is so true. Thank you for this.

Especially for “considerate, consistent and congruent”

[kimberleywilliams]

Love this. Thanks Thais! I’m also an FA and more secure, and trust is a big thing for me. I do better if I’m given context and understand the “why” behind things.

[Bakesga]

Wow!! I’m a 39 year old male and I finally understand what trust is and how to build it. Thank you soooo much for the insight. It’s unfortunately too late to get my FA ex back. I broke her heart and lost her trust. She unblocked me and has ignored my texts. I told her my hand will always be there for her. Much love and thank you again! Will be watching more of your videos.

[bradleywesterford]

my mom didn't have substance abuse problems, but she did have wild swings in moods, and we never knew if she was going to be hot or cold on any given day. very controlling and disciplinarian.