9 signs of childhood emotional neglect #childhoodtrauma

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[BikeLife]

I can relate to all of these. My parents were emotionally neglectful, physically and psychologically abusive, narcissistic, and controlling. I ended up marrying a covert narcissist and sustained even more abuse for the next 20 years. But I can say with confidence (which I never had before!) that he convinced me I had issues, so I worked on myself for the last 15 years... to the point that I became a much healthier person and was able to change, find myself, and set boundaries and leave him. And, teach my kids to be healthier as well.

[hollytalbott]

Oh dear, this sounds like me! I didn’t really begin to understand this until I had children; then when my mom passed away, I really didn’t miss her much. I was always trying to get approval from my mom and trying to please her.

[nathanhawes]

scarily accurate, tempted to send this to my mom

[OnceUponATide]

Wow, there’s a few of those that I no longer identify with- but definitely did up until I hit my forties- trauma therapy helped as well. I started being my own parent and nurturing my inner child- I found it so healing to buy sensory things like plushies, stickers, cushions - but I’d choose things that I wasn’t allowed to have as a child- pink, sparkly, fluffy, sequined- whatever made me feel happy.. it’s only a small thing but it really made a big difference- I started feeling ‘safe’

[nyedueldiew]

My mom neglected me in many ways but the one that effected me the most was her not following through with my braces, it took a huge toll on my confidence

[edainari]

I am relieved and proud to report that I am making progress on ALL of these. However, what is frequently seen as impulsive buying is actually for me a form of profound self-care, finally SEEING myself as WORTHY of getting my needs met of being VALUED enough to have what I physically, emotionally and actually creatively need.

[LiveFaustDieJung]

Yup except the lying part. I don’t have time for that anymore. If people can’t handle the truth then I can’t help that. Lying is a way to avoid difficult communication usually and that never helps to avoid it. Difficult conversations need to be had. Not to say there can’t be candor in how things are said. Difficult conversations don’t need to devolve into a shit show argument.

[ThePsychGuides]

childhood experiences plays important role in an individual's personality development. Most of the psychological problems find its roots back in how the individual was brought up. this is the crucial time and the child's care giver needs to be very cautious.

[mercedeswalker]

I love an emotionally unavailable man …. Says my trauma to me 😭😭

[MoonStar-roxl]

So insightful to my life WOW God bless you for this 😊

[TreesNotBeach]

Oohh, look, 9/10! I passed the test.

[pmartin]

I need to know more about the compulsive lying. I broke up with my partner because he wouldn't stop lying. It was to the point where whenever I asked him about something, he would lie to my face, at times, and I'd find out later about it. I felt gaslit and completely disrespected. He's in therapy now, but I'm not sure this relationship can be saved.

[VectorSpector]

Hope you’re doing well :) love your videos!

[cherie]

7/10. Lucky to have stumbled onto a good partner. Got rid of my compulsive lying behavior. And I have learned what I like so I can make decisions faster.

[Marilou]

I do all these! I thought that was my personality.

[Kloops]

8 of those are me. However, I value honesty, receiving and giving. My integrity has a hard time with lying. I am so bad at it and I can’t sleep or eat when I do lie.
Mostly because my mom lied to me when I was a kid all the time and I didn’t like being lied to. And I didn’t feel that I was being kind by lying to someone else. I felt that if I care about someone they deserve the truth even when I mess up.
However, I chose people around me who lie all the time. I don’t understand how this is. It’s upsetting and I am trying to figure out what I can do to change who I am so I can be around and with others who want to tell me the truth. I have a few people I trust with the honest truth yes. But they aren’t my romantic interests. Lol.

[katydid]

I don't understand the compulsive lying part.

[peaceofmindofpeace]

I feel I'm to much in touch with my emotions.

[njr]

Well shit lol i got the entire checklist.

[shelleymays]

All but the lying part. Interestingly though my memories of my childhood are good..Dad was funny, mom was always there. When I was 7 I drowned and had a nde. I watched my dad dive in the water and fish me out.I watched as he beat on my back and suddenly I switched back into my body and was throwing up river water. It wasn't ever discussed though and I became obsessed with death for several years. I was timid and shy. I loved my childhood. I am an empath and mom always said I was psychic. Which I am very intuitive. I tend to see things through rose colored glasses, and I occasionally get knocked over by reality. I'm extremely self sufficient and independent