How To Be More Loving

Loving others is not always easy; particularly since so many people behave in distinctly unloveable ways. The secret to a more loving attitude lies in remembering the essentially childlike aspects of their characters.

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“Perhaps the finest way to develop a loving attitude towards other people is to recall, in the face of their difficulty, that we are, in the end, all children.

The claim is an odd one. Adults are clearly not children. They have powers of reasoning that quite outstrip those of younger people, they have options and a sound grasp of right and wrong, they are capable of causing serious damage; they should know better…”

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[julieh]

I started loving myself more and as a result I began finding myself loving everyone around me

[anringo]

I've been working on loving my parents for a while now because growing up they had some toxic behaviours. Understanding why they were like that through their own childhood made me feel like they were actually a child to me. Also scared and insecure, with their own bad parents. I really do not want to be like them when i grow up i hope to break this cycle through understanding them so i can understand myself.

[johnny_roots]

While I agree, we also must bear in mind that everything has limits. Popper's paradox is here to remind us that too much tolerance when a thougher action is needed can also lead to ruin. I speak not as an intolerant person, but as an empath whom has endured a lot of abuse and had to learn to set boundaries. Understanding people's pain and motives for toxic behaviour does not equal not taking measures to also protect yourself from the them.

[kuldeepchhetri]

As a wise man said "be kind to everyone because everyone is fighting their own battles"

[yasminamaiga]

Nobody:
Every single school of life video: “treat everyone as if they were the child version of themselves”

[ethanielclyne]

There's a reason for almost everything, which means people that suck usually suck for a reason. That doesn't mean that they should accept themselves as bad people and belittle others. I know it can be hard for some people, but it really is just about treating and loving your neighbours like you would want to be treated and loved

[MikeJackson]

As a wise man once said: Hurt people hurt people.

[vidhidoshi]

There is this book called “I am Okay, You are okay”
They say we have three personalities
Parent, Child and Adult.
Parent is what we’ve been taught, example, don’t touch knives, don’t go near a fire etc.
Child is our response to the parent, crying, laughing etc. any emotion that we experience comes from our child.
Adult is what we develop using the data from Parent and Child and our own experiences. Example, The parent told us to not touch the knife, we still did and it cut our palm, the child wouldn’t pick any knife up ever, but if the adult did, he wouldn’t hold the knife from the sharp side.
Every time we gut hurt, triggered that response comes from our child.
Just putting it out here, since this has helped me a lot to grow as a person, hope it helps you all too :)

[Fromtheforgottengardens]

I have never been in love in my life, due to my childhood trauma. But that trauma pushes, me in general to be kind and understanding, but at times even I be apathetic. I always regret being apathetic to someone later

[GrowthMindsetChannel]

“The most beautiful moments in life are moments when you are expressing your joy, not when you are seeking it.” ~ Sadhguru 🙏😊

[pokemontrainerLRPP]

Being a healthcare worker you face a lot of difficult patients, making it more difficult to treat them, that’s why we need better pay and less hours, to properly treat with care and love every patient, as they’re both limited in amount, no one is ever loving and caring, it takes a huge toll mentally and physically.

[timloughnan]

Having worked as a psychotherapist for 35 years I find this video so true, accurate, helpful and validating. Thanks 🙏

[SouthernBelleReviews]

Seeing adults as big children as in helping us to be more compassionate to their innocence that's truly inside.... I like that.

[spiffythebritishguy]

It truly is the most wonderful blessing to realize that someone did something objectively horrible to you, not because you deserved something objectively horrible, but rather because they themselves are continually battling their own traumas. The ability to forgive the manifestations of others traumas can help you absolve your own.

[marseldechumavoy]

I play a game: I try to bring out something beautiful off every person I interact with (e.g. a smile). If I do I win.

[inkerikavantera]

Losing mum at 15, brother at 16, domestic violence on the top of that- no wonder why I've never really known how to love. Fear of abandonment is just too great.

[lybs]

I feel so pathetic watching these like im a robot trying to fit in with humanity

[underground-man]

Well-meaning but ultimately not great advice. While not everyone falls into this category, some toxic people simply can't change - the scientific literature is very clear on that. If you keep on giving empathy and love to people who continue to treat you appallingly, they'll destroy you in the end.

[dewi]

"Evil is a consequence of injury." Noted.

[NomadT]

When you view everything through the eyes of compassion life becomes just a bit more bearable.