My Husband Will Only Talk Via Text

My Husband Will Only Talk Via Text

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[instahamx]

He wants a paper trail of communications for clarity and minimum conflict with her.

[brendarewan]

I HAD to write a letter to a hateful boss once. Laid it on her desk. She read it and called me in her office. She asked “what do you want me to do about this?” I said “nothing it’s too late now. I just wanted you to know. “. I had addressed all the hateful words and actions I had received from her since the day I started working for her. Her attitude was better after this. It was like she was just not aware of her actions and words.

[suziesmith]

It’s wild the amount of people that think porn isn’t addictive in these comments…or maybe they’re the addicts that haven’t got to step 1 😂😢

[happysmilees]

I do this with my mom. Can’t tell her anything without her reacting negatively, exploding, disapproving. So I just text her instead. Alleviates us fighting and arguing all the time -.- unable to have a mature conversation with her.. so I text to avoid the emotional explosive reactions from her

[lindajackson]

Something is VERY WRONG WITH THIS MARRIAGE!

[anyagee]

Sometimes putting your thoughts "on paper" is the best way. You are not impulsive, you think things through, and you can't backtrack on your words. It is also easier to be vulnerable and to say difficult things. Of course, ideally, with time, you can be more and more vulnerable in person. But writing/typing things up is a really good start.

[llearson]

If her husband is on the autism spectrum he cannot feel safe with a face to face conversation- texting can be a good compromise

[davidradford]

Oh, I'd be very careful here. I had to resort to text-only conversations regarding serious topics because I would constantly be misquoted, be taken out of context, or fall victim to my ex "not remembering" what was said. This whole, "emotionally immature" argument doesn't take into account that sometimes people do not engage in good-faith face-to-face conversations. I kind of wonder why he feels the need to text only. Has she played dumb or suffers from convenient memory if things are written down. In this day and age of "bringing the receipts, " I think it is unwise to have serious conversations that aren't being recorded in some form or another. Sometimes people who are really good at manipulation and use word and mind games to control things love to have face-to-face conversations with no evidence or record, that way they can make up things or twist what was said to better suit their narrative. And even worse, some people read other people's body language and facial expressions to better manipulate them. Also writing things out via text or email allows you more time to really think about what you are going to say or how you are going to respond, thus lessening the chance of saying something in the heat of the moment or out of anger and not being able to take it back.

[castellp]

Using, "hey we need to talk tonight at 8pm" to me sounds like a huge cliff hangar that leaves me wondering what it could be and how can I prepare if I don’t know what it is

[ryand]

My wife would send "walls" of text when things started building up. I couldn't stand them. I had to intentionally create a "safe space" for her to talk in person. Now she puts something on the schedule, or a weekly chat. I don't get any walls anymore.

[tarim]

Porn addiction can be so damaging to the person and the relationship in the long run, sad so many men dont understand this how it can really hurt the woman they are with.

[crushynn]

I’ve done the text or email thing with my husband when things are difficult because he can be so overwhelming verbally that I cannot keep up & he bulldozes the conversation.

[Maria-jonn]

He is ashamed to face you face to face to be honest with you or he is afraid.

[jenniferbowerman]

Why people stay with individuals who are so dysfunctional is beyond me? I understand. I am 77, now, and have done it twice in my life. If I could relive my life I would never do it again. Why do we think we can save others from their own inadequacies which they unload on us and then make us feel as though we are responsible?

[jasonbornne]

I understand where he’s coming from. I try to talk to my wife about something as simple as planning our summer vacation and it turns nasty and she brings up old stuff. We end up texting while I’m at work about most things.

[signalfire]

I often text to resolve conflicts because I’m a better writer than I am a speaker and I want to express myself clearly and make sure my intention is clear.

[bladerunner]

could be a number of reasons... could be that the caller is difficult to converse with in confrontational situations.

[Openingtheshadow]

The opposite of addiction is connection is more true than the opposite of addiction is sobriety. Success isn’t making something work. Same for marriage. Just cause you stayed together for 50 years, doesn’t mean it’s a successful relationship. Most relationships ships thrive and last off of dysfunction. Most people who are sober do so out of will power, not actually internally changing something. Connecting our internal parts like making our shadows more conscious helps addiction. Connection inside and outside.

[honeybadger]

Sounds like this woman has created a space in which he feels he can’t talk to her.

[OnjelieMarie]

So many men with porn addiction. Its terrifying