Lazy Husband & What To Do About It

My husband won't do anything. He is so lazy. Everything ends up on my plate, and I’m drowning in responsibility. I can't keep living like this." Does this sound like you? If your spouse seems like they don’t want to do anything or don’t care about anything, it can be hard to know where to start in turning things around.

If you're struggling with a husband who doesn't seem to invest in or care about helping you out in your day-to-day relationship, I totally get how frustrating this can be. My own marriage faced this struggle at one point, and I can help you talk to your spouse about what’s going on and how things can change.

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[mijadelsol]

I think by the time someone’s watching this video, they’ve tried all the things

[kirsty]

What about the trauma and mental hurt they cause us by not caring that they do nothing and we pick up all the slack. So much anxiety and stress burdening us because of it and they don't care. It works both ways

[DIAMONDGIRL]

I cannot live with anyone who is lazy. I’d rather live alone.

[ZZ-qymv]

I did all that. Encouraging, love, asking about his feelings. Years of love and patience. Meanwhile, I had to be the breadwinner staying at a stressful job while my depression was (without saying the word) pretty much as bad as it gets. I’m starting to think that sometimes, it’s because if they can get away with it, they will.

[azrafanoos]

Like I have a double duty. I have to manage all the physical emotional and financial burden as well as manage his trauma. Who will take care of my trauma that is caused by him

[LovelyDarling]

What about a husband that had a mother that did everything for them and expect their spouse to continue that way of life?

[messforever]

My husband thinks is job starts and ends at work. He does nothing around the house, nothing with the kids and expects me to do it all. All while complaining about how much his life sucks.

[mzgreendayfan]

Ive tried every thing in the book to get husband to help. Absolutely nothing works. Giving him space, asking politely, begging. Nothing makes a budge. Ive realized it much less effort to just do everything myself and let him play video games all day. I'm at a breaking point and I see no way out.

[vickimerritt]

you can change your spouse it is called divorce

[bernadinenewland]

Why is it always that the wife just has to work more. So she's got to sit down and try to be patient and talk to him and all that stuff and I've done that a thousand times. I know that's a slight exaggeration but seriously it just requires more work for me. And he still hasn't changed and I don't think he's ever going to.

[fatkidfatfamily]

this video teaches us to do more for a good for nothing slacking husband

[bygrace]

I feel so guilty after snapping on my husband for being so messy. I am so physically and emotionally exhausted from constantly cleaning up after him. I ask for help, I try to talk to be calmly but it never holds up.

[Greens]

I learned this video was a waste of my time, i would think anyone that would watch this video has already done all those things. I have struggled with a lazy self centered spouse for over 40 years, my only fault is that i beat myself up and used up my self and lost myself to trying to fix our relationship to get him to understand how this is ruining our relationship. It never worked. I now just have to make him lists, double check that he did it, which usually is him not doing as asked, its miserable too. But at least he is doing something. And yep he is miserable too, but for better for worse...🤷...this is the worse part I guess 😮‍💨🙁
Its hard to get to the point of accepting this is my life, but once i have accepted it, i feel free in knowing i can be happier with my life and no longer care about fixing it. Is that sad, yes, it was sad, now its like dealing with anything else in life we have to learn to live with, move on.
But yeah, a weak video coming from my perspective.

[Reneroxy]

Not gonna lie, this is the opposite of helping

[DaniBeau]

I dont want to any extra work trying to fix this when I've already done all the chores and EVERYTHING else...

[krisopinionsful]

I'm crying right now I love my children but if I never would have met their father my life would be better

[j-scribble]

What do you do, when you’re always the one doing stuff for the kids, when you clearly need help? Sure, my husband works, but so do I! We both work 9-5 jobs. I do way more than him around the house, as well as childcare. I take medication for anxiety and depression. I had bad PPD/PPA with our second child. I’ll never forget how much he did NOT help me and when I asked him to get up in the night with me, he straight out told me no. He also called me a burden because of my depression. I will never forget his insults. I’m now about to get my tubes removed, because he refuses to get a vasectomy. I’m married to a very selfish/lazy person. It’s not fair to me at all.

[Bonner]

He is selfish plain and simple. Expectations were set

[melissacrockett]

Yeah, understanding why & relating doesn't get the 'lazy' spouse to still got bills....

[missxmarvel]

Divorce. Or be just as lazy as him so that the trash takes itself out. You owe a lazy person nothing.