“My Husband Chooses His Family Over Me” | Dr. Renu Kishore x Bonobology

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Imagine this. You’ve just gotten married and you realize that your husband prioritizes his family over you. It’s a tough situation to be in but remember that there is always a way out.

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A great relationship advice is to give each other space. If you feel that your husband is too attached to this family, talk it out with him. There is no merit in feeling bad about sitting with your feelings and not doing anything about them. There is a big chance that you both are facing a severe case of miscommunication.

Toxic family members are prevalent everywhere. Knowing how to deal with them without letting it affect the relationship you two share is maturity. Marriage advice that really works wonders is to learn to compartmentalize your relationship better. No matter how hectic your day looks like, make it an unchangeable habit to prioritize time with your partner.

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[captainammy]

The problem is not husband giving priority to his family.. the problem is their too much interference in every matter of husband and wife and supportive their son.

[Priya-rfov]

Please do not marry a girl if you are already married to your mother.

[nishavarghese]

Such guys should live with his parents. Not to choose marriage. Adjustments should come from both sides not always from wife.

[laveenabhojwani]

Marry a man who loves and respects his family but never marry a "MUMMAS BOY" I'm married to a MUMMAS BOY and I know wht I go through everyday 😔

[ziggypip]

It’s always the mom’s fault. She should teach her son to put his wife first, the same way her husband should do to her.

[dv]

My husband becomes a different person when he visits his parent's house. He becomes distant and cold and mean. I am going through anxiety and depression

[sudritisarkar]

A wife is supposed to leave her parents as she has married a man but a man can continue to be with his parents why this discrimination .... in today's when both are earning. If a women is supposed to prioritize her married life over parents a man should be asked to do the same. A woman cannot be made the scape goat always.... no double standards.... have some shame

[Cat-esrq]

No.. Wife should be priority after marriage. Definitely give attention to parents but not as same as wife. And parents should stay away from Son‘s marriage. If they can't then keep son for youraelf, don't get married. Ladies, stop being ’pick me‘ chicks and fight for your rights. Don't hesitate to leave Momma's boys.

[rushable]

Aunty is making this video after becoming a Mother in Law

[shrutimathur]

This video is asking the girl to understand and adjust in a way and not really providing any relationship advice except seeking help of things don't work out. You need to understand that most girls would be calm and understanding in the beginning and not resort to nagging or negatively expressing her feelings. What one needs to know is how to deal with that kind of neglect from the husband's family and how to deal with being sidelined. How should a girl manage to create her acceptance in the family? And most importantly, what are the responsibilities of the husband and his family towards her?

[krishnaghosh]

The thinking of the entire family is that they are having a servent free of cost as she is getting food and shelter.

[shre]

I want a similar video for husbands. Always wife has to be the understanding one. Even when she is already alone and traumatised in a new house.

[vavidamo]

If your husband does like that, then you also choose your family and leave him for a few years lets c If he changes, otherwise divorce him and live independently happy

[srijamondal]

Women starts adjusting even before their marriage, they turn guests in the house they were born.
Isn't this a attachment?
The guy literally gets to live with his parents and siblings, he should be more caring, understanding and polite towards his wife who left her house and parents just to live with her husband.
Although she sacrificed, she didn't ask to husband to sacrifice as well.
All a woman asks for is attention, love, care from her husband.
It's a wife who is going to be beside a man for lifetime, it willn't be the parents.
They should prioritise accordingly.
Also wife in our culture is referred to as ardhangini.
So a ardhangini should be always given much priority over one's parents accordingly.
There are faults of women too in many cases.
But in most cases, it's the fault of man .

[martidiamond]

Makes no difference if I talk calmly. I'm just ignored and always asked 'what is your problem'. I explain the same thing every single time, and then I'm degraded and insulted... Again, always the same

[amrutasutar]

It’s just 9 months for my marriage …facing the same problem. They are like a big gang just keep plotting against me all the time.. 😢 ..I agree that parents are our elders and we must respect them . But what if it’s they are only stupid and immature, yes elders also are Immature and misguide, get jealous. I’m such case I do feel that start taking care of yourself and stand up for yourself whatever the results might be

[Sara-szmn]

negative vote for this reason:
adaptation goes both ways. my husband made me pay everything alone, invited his family to come live with us, they started scapegoating me and he became more and more abusive.

[NGupta]

My husband has no responsibility towards me as I m an independent women. There is absolutely nothing that he does for me. But his pathetic insecure mother ensures that she creates so much drama that my husband cannot spare even a moment of love and gives attention to his attention hungry mother. I feel sorry and sad about my husband. He cannot enjoy even one moment of peace with his legal wife .

[kimmy_kitchen_]

Whatever you are saying is right but i have done it all .... Nothing works .. if husband have the right to spend time with his parents then why there is a strict restriction on wife meeting her own parents ... Instead of understanding they try to control on how i have to breath too ?? What should we do in such cases

[apoorvagupta]

1 year after marriage, my husband cannot afford to go on honeymoon but can afford his extended family to come to spend time with us, takes care of them financially so much so they don't spend a penny. Takes care of their short detour around the city. And still these so called family talks bullshit behind his back, but they talk so highly of him in front of him, give him that much needed ego boost, so he ignores his non fussy wife who don't know how to sugarcoat her words. People will advice speak to your husband in calm manner, I did I got nothing except I am jealous of his family bond.
PS both my in laws are dead. And my 2 sister in laws are married but keeps their nose in other people businesses including ours.