Is my husband verbally abusive? 13 examples to know for sure

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[chinaiztoo]

OMG, the countering! I never knew there was a name for that. It's annoying and maddening!

[karlataylor]

Dealing with psychopaths is beyond exhausting.

[baileybug]

I was verbally abused for 40 years of marriage and he left me for the young bosses daughter. Thank goodness. I now see that he did me a favor.

[Chippy]

The pain hurts so bad that sometimes I actually feel my heart move.

[timmyturbo]

as im sitting in the bedroom, with the door locked in fear after an extremely hostile and verbal abusive argument, this entire video is hitting SO close to home. i know i need to leave. i just want to say thank you for making me not feel crazy, that im not a physco. He has been gaslighting me for years. i fell into depression and anxiety, irregular periods, quitting my job etc. This entire video is an EXACT description of my relationship. After multiple abusive relationships, i am exhausted and absolutely lost. i just want happiness. sorry for venting. i hope all the women being abused get help and leave and have support.❤

[tez]

1:13 Withholding
1:24 countering
1:42 discounting
1:51 abuse disguised as a joke
2:22 blocking and diverting
2:30 accusing and blaming
2:46 judging and criticizing
3:05 trivialization
3:26 undermining
3:44 Threatening
3:59 name calling
4:22 forgetting and denial
4:51 ordering

[normalotus]

You described my relationship. I can’t believe I was blind to this abuse for so long.
You’re right about getting physically sick because I’m currently having a ton of health issues. I was a healthy person before him. Toxic people can tear you down. I’m happy to start my journey to love myself and to distance myself from him.

[aamj]

I started bawling at the 11:00 mark. This literally is my life right now. Whenever he decides to be nice again, and I’m not responding in a positive way (because I’m still pissed/hurt) he goes to threatening all the stuff he won’t do anymore (not pay rent, be nice, etc). It’s just hard to know sometimes if just a temporary storm or just who he is.


Year later update!! He left me for one of the women he was cheating on me with and im SO FREAKING HAPPY!! I got my own place now, a better paying job, and I just feel free. I got therapy for the past year and my confidence has gone up so much. Now I can see the red flags immediately, I wish so much for all the women going through this you find your way out. He is **never** going to change.

[dsstudio]

My husband does 9 of these things. It’s been 14 years and it’s been hard to me to accept the fact he is abusive. I have two children and I don’t have a good job to leave him. As an immigrant is very hard not having my financial independence and not having family close to me as well. I was having anxiety and some level of depression. I finally woke up and I decided I don’t want to live like this anymore. Thank you very much for your video. God bless!

[jackilynpyzocha]

Dad would blame me for his mistreating me. Especially when I complained. He said I had "no right' to fight against the abuse (his). Mostly verbal abuse. He is insecure/immature, and demands me to be submissive. It doesn't work with me. I don't have to put up with his garbage.

[melissaray]

The reactive part instantly made me cry. I have been beating myself up and blaming myself for reacting to his verbal abuse and therfore telling myself I deserved the abuse and that I'm a horrible person. I've been telling myself that I deserve it because I react and if I didn't react then I wouldn't have deserved it. I've felt very confused and self blaming and self hating and after watching this video I finally realize that it's not my fault and me reacting is normal and it doesn't make me a bad person or that I deserved this abuse. You don't know how bad I needed this video. I truly don't know how to thank you.

[kimwilson]

Number 14: Talking over you, especially loudly. He won't let you get a word in edgewise.

[jeannettem]

This is exactly what I have been going through for 14 years. I thought I was the crazy one. The one who instigated everything. It makes sense now.

[backho]

I'm so resentful I'm crying watching this

[issamelissaaa]

The whole household dynamic changes when he walks through the door. Eggshells.

[lachandathomas]

I actually started thinking I was the problem. My husband does all these things and more. When I bring up how he hurts me, he says I’m too sensitive. What’s worse is my daughter does the same thing. She grew up with her dad disrespecting me so she thinks it’s ok. I’ve suffered through this for thirty years and I’m losing my mind. I’ve been seeing a therapist and taking medication for the last 15 yrs. This has totally destroyed my self esteem and I feel stuck.
I will definitely order The verbally abusive man. Thank you for the helpful insight.

[Rosie-vtul]

I am literally sick to my stomach and have tears running down my face, I feel as if you have just described my entire marriage 😢

[helenhoward]

You describe the abusive pattern pretty darn aptly. It's actually really crazy how similar narcissts can be, particularly the rageful authoritarian ones who can also seem comforting, reassuring and protective. Before you realize that this is the pattern of narcissistic abuse, it's easy to fool yourself bc the love bombing and trauma bonding is strong.

[summerkeywest]

After 12years of confusion I finally get it !it is crazy to think that he blaming me for something he does

[ddedwards]

When you were talking about the body responses and explaining how you tensed up when he came 🏡 - definitely relatable. It's a sickening feeling, 😷. This is amazing content, thank you.