Respect Your Husband | Yasmin Mogahid

Men need to be respected and to feel proud, and to know that their woman supports them, pushes them forward, and loves what they do. That’s what men need. But women, on the other hand, women need to be loved unconditionally. As Muslims, it is incumbent on us to respect our husbands because it's deserved and not because it's earned, and that is one aspect of respect. The other aspect is that when you show your spouse more respect, in return you will get more love because respect to a man is maybe more important than love.
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[qnytzxw]

My wife respected me, even when I was a real jerk. She didn’t accept my behaviour and she was upfront with her criticism, but she always respected me (even though I would sometimes disrespect her).
She never lowered herself to the point of disrespect.
Her behaviour, (eventually) compelled me to understand what respect actually was and of course, to respect her.
She is the most giving, righteous and respected woman I have ever seen.

[fcomfyk]

Respect your spouse for the sake of Allah as you respect all of creation. You can respectfully disagree, respectfully part ways or even respectfully divorce when reconciliation isn’t possible. True success is not to cross the boundaries set by Allah. May Allah make it easy on us. Ameen.

[Memoiana]

Disclaimer to this video:

Applies to normal relationships, where there is love but you might not understand each other, argue, call each other names, have recurrent conflicts around household and marital issues.

Does not apply to relationships where there is one-sided love or none at all and one spouse severely abuses the other one psychologically, physically or otherwise. If that’s the case: run. Respectfully.

[RockyLovey]

Mutual respect would be a perfect thing!

[ga]

I went above and beyond to respect my husband for over ten years… that only made him more abusive and he degraded me… Imam AlShafi’i said in his book on relationships: If you give a person more than they are worth, they will treat you less than your worth in the same proportion.
قال الامام الشافعي رحمه الله: "ما اكرمت أحدًا فوق مقداره إلا اتّضع من قدري عنده بمقدار ما أكرمته به."

[chilling...]

Where there is respect, there is love !
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Alhamdulillah for Islam ❤

[auntiesemite]

I am a Caucasian male from a western country that reverted to Islam and made Hijra to an Islamic country this year and within two months found what I couldn't is six years of searching in the west, a pious Muslim Sister to marry who wasn't only concerned with my finances.

[christineplaton]

Likewise, the husbands need to earn respect and respect his wife. Harsh treatment should not be an option at all.

[tahuratasneea]

First time I disagree with her
And got surprised thT she delivered this speech
Respect needs to be earned

[myspectumjourney]

Abusers escalate the abuse when no one stands up to them. Respect people who “treat you bad?” Where in the quran does it say that?

[donttalktomedays]

if we are to get more harsh treatment then that person is getting more disrespect.. u cannot earn respect by mistreating someone

[poetlaureate]

I'm Muslim and do not agree with this. Woman does not have to give unconditional respect to man if he treats her badly. That's culture not the religion. But Islam came for ALL people, not to accommodate one type of culture.

[chrisspears]

Asking and commanding respect is a showing of self worth and their's nothing wrong with that. Unconditional respect makes you a doormat.

[naimac]

I think it's about having your own personal integrity despite what your spouse is doing. Love can help bring and keep people together but it can also blind people and keep them in a toxic relationship.

I think if you get to a point where you are no longer able to give unconditional respect to your spouse you either need to find a way to mend the relationship or sacrifice it rather than compromise your ability to maintain that respect. Respect for your husband or wife is the foundation of a relationship, without it, it is hollow and very fragile. And potentially very destructive.

[isthiify]

If your husband is treating you badly you DO NOT respect him, this is not what the Dheen teaches. You seek help and council, amongst each other and externally if needed.

[patienceprayer]

Respect where it’s due! Works both ways! We can’t respect men who abuse women, one off is a maybe but some men don’t stop and then you have to give them what they deserve. Noone should suffer

[muamermustafic]

Respect for this woman, and love also❤

[specificfemale]

I understand the reason why this is important.
My problem is just that I need to learn the difference between respect and fear because right now, all I do is fear the consequences he sets me in case I do something wrong and I'm pretty sure that's not the same.
I give unconditional love to my man and I want the same back, not only consequences and punishments. That's why I didn't let go of the attitude mentioned in the video yet. I want my man to know he has to behave too but i'm too scared to put consequences for him because then he says that's disrespectful.
I guess it's a long journey and we both have a lot to learn

[pinar]

You delivered this topic poorly.. a woman doesn’t have to respect an abuser. Both spouses should respect each other from the start for a healthy and loving relationship.

[babybellalovesbeagle]

It has to go both ways respect your wife and respect your husband.