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[NarcSurvivor]

Narcissistic fathers are very controlling and invalidating. The child will grow up with low self-esteem and thinking that they're not good enough for anyone or anything. This might develop into anxiety, body dysmorphia and even suicidal thoughts. Children of a narcissistic father all share one thing in common... they all feel like they are not good enough. The reason for this is because the narcissistic father disowns their feelings by projecting them on to their children. Narcissistic fathers will leave you without support. They are self absorbed and they lack empathy. They only care about themselves and they have no consideration for you.

[dhanyaslifeventure]

A dad should be a hero, not a villain.

[leovirgo]

feeling unseen - check
seeking out safety - check
trying to win people over - check
selling myself short - check
not feeling worthy - check
never seeing a healthy relationship - check
I fought for most of my life, but I finally gave up. He has been dead for 21 years, and I almost feel like I can breathe now. Almost.

[LoriGeminiTarot]

For those who see this: may you find inner peace, heal from past traumas, and embrace change. You are worthy of love ❤️🙏

[warriorbride]

I went NC with my narc dad and his flying monkey filled family over 11 years ago. I received a call 7 months ago that my dad had passed away. I have shed so many tears filled with grief and pain over my dad who I loved but he just brought so much horror into my life. After he passed, his family tried reaching out to me ( just to get gossip about me I am sure). I did not respond to them n they now have left me alone. This Fathers day is the 1st one I finally have peace that he is no longer on the earth and can't harm or frighten me anymore....A 50 year nightmare is finally over.

[einsteindarwin]

Thanks for doing this on a day when some of us are unable to celebrate.

[rachelcarmina]

Starting around Grade 8 or so, I realized that my Dad was toxic to my mental health.I spent the rest of my life telling my mother that I never wanted to spend any time alone with my father. For her part, she kept using guilt to get me to spend time with him. While my Dad had his good moments, they were rare and overwhelmed by his bad ones.When my father died, relief was perhaps the biggest thought that went through my mind.

[whatsername]

My dad is a narcissist. His birthday was last week and now today is father's day. I feel depressed. I feel like I've spent my whole life trying to please him, to get him to notice me, so I could get the dad I so desperately want and need. I've slowly come to the realization that he isnt going to be the dad I have a picture of. But I have a wonderful step dad, and although he's fairly new into my life, he's already done so many things that I've wished my dad would do for me, without even knowing ive wanted those things. And my husband is the absolute best. The exact opposite of my dad. He always puts his family first. He constantly shows love and affection. He nurtures our kids and their interests and talents. He spends time with them. He's the dad I wish I had and I absolutely love that.

[nyangichic]

I go through cognitive dissonance every father's day as I want to celebrate the father that my community adores and highly respects yet he is the one who hurt me the most to the depths of my core.

[justflow]

My dad is a malignant narcissist. He likes breaking my confidence, invalidating me, downplaying my achievements and lacks empathy and I don't exist, my emotional needs don't matter. I am now abandoned by him

[curiousone]

Dr. Ramani, you broke my heart in your video yesterday where you were crying and validating people who have PTSD symptoms. Thanks so much for validating these very painful experiences. A lot of therapists (from my own discovery -- been in therapy on and off since 12 YO, I'm 41 now) do not seem to believe me when I tell them how much my Dad has impacted me in a negative manner. I've even had therapists shame me for going no contact with my father or for setting a boundary. I'm about to quit therapy altogether, I think, since it isn't very supportive and try to quit drinking on my own, too. It's strange when your therapy just becomes a new analogue of the very dynamic you are trying to escape -- one rife with disbelief, criticism and judgment, and a bunch of rules to follow for "compliance." To all those broken-hearted today on Father's Day, you are not alone. Be a parent to yourself today in the manner you were not treated. Celebrate YOUR accomplishments today and don't forget to congratulate yourself, even just for doing something small like emptying the dishwasher!

[badjujusworld]

My father was a narcissist and quite literally called himself the “all knowing” He would uplift my brothers while tearing my mom and I apart verbally and physically behind closed doors. Even sexually with me on occasion. It sucked and I always felt like I had to put on a show in front of the family. My mom never stood up for me cause of Stockholm syndrome. He never gave me or my brothers a proper foundation and everything always revolves around him and his emotions and ego. My grandfather was also an abusive man so pretty sure my father learnt it from him and never healed. It’s taken me years to understand that I operate from major father wounds within my relationships with other men. I always go for men that don’t want me it’s sad and I’m just now realizing this. I wanna go to group therapy so I feel less alone it’s a heavy weight 😣 Thank you for these videos. I pray everyone out there struggling today feels light and love. You are not alone.

[kryssysmith]

Father's Day doesn't mean anything to me anymore, he didn't care about me why should I care about him? Honestly, the only reason why I get reminded of Father's Day is that I have friends who have good close relationships with their dads.

[FeliciaLansborg]

The list of ways one can be shaped by a narcissistic parent... I tick ALL the boxes. What the hell?! Why do I feel like such an idiot? I always felt strong for coping, but every choice I've made in my life was just a reaction to my parents abuse?! My life isn't my own at all...

[Adriel]

Never getting the love and validation a child craves or being crushed under the weight of a narcissistic father's disapproval and out-of-context rage!

[rishabhmittal]

As a 17 year old...I am completely dependent on my narc father(mainly for it really confuses me how differently this person presents himself to the outside world( almost like an angel) while in the house when no one is there(except mom and younger sibling) he becomes a devil....Every other day I cry thinking the tortures he is doing on me( and other family members)
He has broken me from be I will never be able to recover
I no longer believe in love and don't care for others, don't want to have my own family cuz I am scared that will same as him....OH LORD

[jess-brqy]

My father is a maglinate narcissist his temper was so bad his own job Sent him to anger management and he came home telling us he didn't need it because it was our fault for his angry outburst. Also because the therapist was a woman he said ( she's a woman what does she know). I use to rebel to piss him off on purpose now I'm in my 30's and healing. Because he spoiled my youngest sister she still caters to him in a way so now if I have to its 20 minutes top with my dad or surround in a group of people because some of them have seen how he can personally attack me so they can defuse the situation. Especially when he's trying to tune out everyone to focus on me in a negative way. I don't really have too many good memories of him just a bunch of bad ones of him being angry, verbally attacking me, bad mouthing me to neighbors and nearly being physically abusive. It gets hard when my sister defends him but I'm doing my best to move on from it now

[carlitah]

Thank you for this! Yes I have a Self-Righteous Narcissistic Father, who I moved back in with back in January when I decided to leave my Narcissistic husband. It has not been easy at all because my Mother is his Co-Dependent. I'm trying to do everything I can to move out as quickly as possible. Father's Day for me is not a joyous occasion. I bought a card to be nice, but while everyone on social media is celebrating their Dad's I just don't feel that way.

[Understandingnarcissism]

My father is my inspiration. His behaviour goes beyond narcissism. He’d rather impress a stranger than visit his son, my brother furloughed in covid, his wife working saving covid patients, and his grandchildren, which he uses as a competition on his sister that he holds many a grudge against. This is the first Father’s Day we’ve not sent or done anything for him, as he should be Preoccupied impressing strangers, telling them how his children have no time for him, when a free meal came before seeing his own family, that he’d not seen in months. When people show you their true colours, believe them. Maya Angelou.

[katrinahill]

I actually feel bad today, a person who has been bullying me for 12 years tried it today and im ashamed I totally lost it at her, I'm sick of being bullied by these narcs, I just try too get away but they use my children against me as Porns of abuse even turn my children against me, they tried too control my decisions today and I completely lost it because they are not my family now, I feel so bad because ive been silent the whole time and today I finally stuck up for myself and now I'm crying because I have a empathic heart and don't like being like them, I can't beleive I stuck up for myself, I've never done that ever, God it felt good to stick up for myself but bad because I felt like im acting like them xxx