How To Forgive When It Hurts

Why you can't forgive them. Forgiving someone can be really hard. It's hard to forgive when it hurts. Especially if we think that after we forgive them we have to forget what happened and get close to the person again. We think we have to forgive and forget because the saying says so, but we can absolutely forgive and not forget. You can let go of the past without forgetting that it happened and today I'm going to teach you how.

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[tararichter]

"Keep yourself out of swiping distance" - this is a key one for me. Doesn't mean running back and being "ok" with everything they do - but taking personal accountability to say I forgive you, and I need to look out for myself too.

[NenaLavonne]

Forgiveness is more about taking the bricks off our own shoulders. I does not mean we are ok with what happened, it just means we are willing to let go of its weight so we can move on. As incredibly difficult as it can be, it greatly reduces suffering. Excellent video, Julia <3 Sending out so much support to anyone going through something upsetting right now.

[delmeshiabrown]

I have the hardest time forgiving myself.

[LM-htsd]

Thank you for saying that "hurt people hurt people" just that alone allows me to look at my husband differently and understand why we've both put each other through some things that we have. We are becoming stronger together because of it...

[luisterrust]

Radical forgiveness from Colin Tipping changed my life SO MUCH! Forgiveness is not for the other but for yourself! ❤️💕

[tallspicy]

How about a video about forgiving yourself???

[veronicabruce]

Forgiveness to me releases my spirit from carrying pain slimed by another. I love the way you care about our emotional safety. Distance, space & expectation adjustment is healthy. Self-respect & honest to ourselves allows us to be comfortable & confident in our own skin. Thank You Julia for turning on the lights so we can see.

[LBYE]

im having a VERY hard time forgiving my dad and my ex boyfriend who was narcissist. i broke down while watching this video. i realized im afraid that if i forgive, what i went through wasn’t valid. like drinking poison and hoping the other person would feel the consequences. im learning and im healing. thank you for this video Ms. Julia!!

[victoriya]

True foregiveness erases the matter, both for yourself and for the other person. So when you do forgive, you forget. You treat the person like like you would treat yourself when you forgive yourself. True forgiveness lets the matter go. I think when you don't forget, you're still holding on to something.

[admirbarucija]

I have so much trouble with forgiveness and letting go, thank you for this video! 💜

[roccorubino]

I am very appreciative of the work you do on YouTube. Personally, it has helped me a great deal get in touch with what is going on in my life; things I was not aware of. Thank you, Julia Kristina.

[standufrene]

Thank you for this teaching. Glad you posted it.

[scdou]

Hello!! I new to your channel and honestly I love every minute of it. Thank you for your encouragement and your uplifting words. Forgiving is something I take seriously even when I am very hurt with someone. Also, ask forgiveness when I hurt someone deeply. I can not move on or think straight until I forgive someone or ask for forgiveness from someone I deeply hurt. God can’t forgive you if you can’t someone so I have learned to that and be at peace even I don’t any relationship with that person anymore. At the end of the day, I know I am the bigger person and ask the person I deeply hurt forgiveness and I feel good about it.

[beckypfaff]

OMG. This was amazing! Thank you so much. You simplify complication. ☺️✨ Bless you. ☯️

[sonjiavowell]

Thanks for speaking on the subject of forgiveness. I've had a hard time with this in the past, but I've since forgave those people that have hurt me. It wasn't easy, but I've basically been focusing on personal growth within myself.

[jennyhagen]

My issue is knowing the steps to take with forgiveness. It’s not fear of forgiving but being able to truly let go, forgive, and be able to move forward.

[juliesisson]

Your advice is so helpful to me with several dysfunctional areas of my life. I listen and relisten almost daily

[michaelfletcher]

Thank you, Julia. I've always been able to forgive without too much difficulty. Depending on whether something was done by accident or carelessness, intentionally, and/or with some degree of malice. After something wrong or hurtful has been done to me, the act forgiveness is kind of an organic process for me where the time between the hurt and beginning the process of forgiveness, and the duration that process are tied to the seriousness of the of the hurt. And all of that rests under "who am I not to forgive someone" when, in fact, I have in the past, or may, in the future, need to be forgiven. Lots of Love back to you.

[thenebraskan]

Thank You 🙏 so much for the wonderful video. You are the best Julia.

[reaper_of_the_crimson_knig]

I’m 25 years old and the last day I truly cried was when I moved from my childhood home before my last year in high school. I’ve had some close calls but that was before today when I found this channel. As I type this, I’ve only watched one of your videos about being passive aggressive and what it’s about, and I’m only a few seconds into this one and I’m not strong enough to hold back the tears. In this moment I feel like I’ve finally found the reason why my life had felt so empty and dark and why I’m always so insecure with what I say. There are no words to accurately comprehend the astronomical joy I feel for what you have done to change my life. I’m going to watch all of your videos and I hope to come out a better person then I was when I woke up this morning. Just saying thank you isn’t f enough for me to say and is beyond an understatement, I’d consider it an under-appreciated thing to tell you.