Why Narcissists Abandon You When You Need Them Most

Abandonment is the devastating outcome to practically all relationships with a narcissist.

And it is a cruel weapon they use against you especially when you need them most. In a healthy relationship people support and care for you when you need them most – not with a narcissist.

Let me share with you some very clear and common examples of how you can be abandoned, abused, and ultimately betrayed by a parasitical individual who is only ever looking for a self-serving payoff. I’m sure that more than one of these scenarios will sound familiar to you.

Plus, in this week’s Thriver TV video I explain why the narcissist is NEVER going to supply your needs in a genuine, durable way. I also help you get clear on how you can completely get past watching them walk out the door despite feeling highly traumatised and reeling from their cruelty exactly when you need them most.

I promise you, once you open your heart to this new understanding you will never accept this horrific treatment again!

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[paulzedxninja]

They've abandoned and gave up on their self's, so it's just so easy to abandon you. 😳

[EButta]

I'm so hurt that I have to laugh. He got mad at me a weeks ago (I'm now no contact) because I asked him to do something nice for me as I am six months pregnant, just recovered from Covid, and my mom passed in May. Can you believe that he got OFFENDED that I asked him to do something nice for me, to just be a friend to me. He went on this rant about nothing and honestly that's what I needed to move COMPLETELY on from this selfish and non empathetic person. I will never let him back in my life.

[Claire]

Too true. My partner left abruptly when my daughter and I were in bed with the flu, I became ill with Long Covid and he wasn't there for me. He drifted away, made new female friends, found new hobbies and interests. It was devastating after I'd given him everything I had to give.

[peterknyk]

That is so true! I was going through some incredibly difficult and intense therapy with a VA Military trauma specialist for sexual trauma and was experiencing fear and incredible emotional difficulty… The narcissist chose that time to abandon me! It’s very interesting that they have this diabolical capacity to choose a time when one is vulnerable or weak to prey on another without any consideration of what the other person might be going through. 👿😱👿

[traceydunlop]

I would have to disagree. I believe they don't support you when you need it or when someone else is bullying you or you had a car accident or are sick because they want you to struggle, they want you to suffer, they want you to be desperate, they want to study you and see who you go to for support if not them and then they will know who to extract from your life over time, they want you to be feel like this is a normal response from a lived one and that you are expecting too much for them to be involved in your pain. Then you will deal with it on your own and they are not required to do a thing. Over time you will just deal with everything and not ask them for help so the never have any responsibilities or accountability. You are there for them, not the other way around. BUT what they fail to consider is that they are partially making you so resourceful, independent and resilient that when you realise what is going on, the facts and deliberate manipulation, you are so ready to move forward alone and you can survive! It isn't easy but it is a hell of a lot easier than living in a shitty marriage. The exhaustion goes, your strength returns and your mind has clarity. Over time you regain normality. Life is good.

[InTheNow]

I love the Ozzy accent Melanie. This content really hits home. My mom was a narcissist and she passed in 2018 and I keep learning more and more about her through these types of videos. It has to be one of the most misunderstood behaviours in society and challenging to understand. But it's a work in progress and that of course is a good thing.

[Piscesmermaid]

I love this and it explains why the narcissistic ex I still love decided to go off for the day and have drinks in a pub in a nice area, rather than spend time talking to me about the difficult time I was having at work. And also why he shared a stressful situation with me at his work, expecting sympathy.
Thank you xx

[carriedillmann]

This is a new explanation of his sickness !
Everything you said, my EX HUSBAND DID TO ME in my worst moments.
My Mother’s death and losing my job .
You and I were exactly alike !
I am no longer co dependent !
Thank you so much for explaining who I was !💋💞

[andycampbell]

So clever and aware Mel...thank you...❤💯👍🌈

[deb]

This is an excellent talk Melanie. Thank you, Peace To All.

[RedHybiscus]

My ex would get so pissed off if I really needed help from him. He also hated it when I needed emotional support. He would find a way to blame me and tell me I am wrong.

[cy]

This video solved all my puzzles, thank you.

[raginaldmars]

... as a German Biologist - when I meet a person - there is no way to know - what synergy versus antagonisms is present and how the pattern will evolve. It is a challenge that shows character - under pressure and action. Like mountaineering in high altitude. Can the comrade be trusted 100 %... we tend to fall for any sort of ” ad vertisement” and get deluded for promised characteristics, . The Vampyre, Predator is a Pretender, camouflaging true character. Until the challenge of a confrontation, conflict, pressure ...- then we we realize the mountains of antagonisms - even EVIL... Irresponsibility, always being right, blameshifting are the signs - to run fast away... takes intense Inner Strength Training and RADAR to develop those Skills of observation and attitude

[dosso]

My sister completely abandoned our mom when she was suddenly diagnosed as critically ill. Now that she has passed away, she is playing the victim, mercilessly smearing me. I made her look bad by being there for our mom.

[emmad.]

You look absolutely gorgeous here and thank you for the video :)

[jaelsicairos]

He just stopped talked to me after I went a hip replacement, I’m in shock of how he started to act distant as soon as I got my surgery. I feel really sad I don’t understand How can someone be so evil, I feel like he enjoys making me suffer.

[abbiekanaby]

Your just awesome. I'm gonna look into your program. You say such powerful things. Again I can completely relate and understand what you are saying right now and I truly want more. Payday Friday I'm buying your program.

[johnjohnstone]

Yes I Have Heard or Read About That. That We Can Only Socialize Well (Profitably) When We Become Whole Ourselves, Capable Of Living Happily Alone. Because We Are Whole And Complete. Have Always Wanted That But I Don't Know If I Am Going To Make It In This Lifetime.

[exposinginsanity]

Its like you are giving them your all...you would sit by their bedside if they were in hospital...you are being the equivalent of a wife...but when you get sick? They treat you as if you are only an acquaintance to them...."you had a heart attack? Bummer. Well let me know when you want to go to that movie theater you said you have a gift card to use." "Sorry i cant feed your cat while you are in hospital becuz im having to work extra hours this week" Then they wont answer for days?

[Boogie]

Looking forward to NARP already signed up,