Are Dumpers Afraid To Contact Their Exes?

In short, I’m of the belief that most dumpers ARE NOT afraid to contact their exes. Instead, they’re simply falling victim to their natural avoidant tendencies which makes most people think they’re afraid of contacting them.

[MrJaxDemon]

If I spot an ex on social media and she's happy, I'm happy. Way I see it is I got to create memories with them, fond memories and no one can steal that from me.

[petitcoeur-qr]

Maybe the first time round they will contact you, but the second time they dump you they don’t come back. Currently going through nc second time round. They really don’t love you and they don’t care. Leave them alone. Take it as lesson from me - it’s not worth the pain and hurt. I’m currently learning how to heal my pain. No contact is hard for an anxiously attached person like me and as this video says no contact is easy for DA. They will monkey branch on to the next person while you’re still processing the breakup.

They do it for ego until they find someone better than you.

[baggergurl]

I truly believe deep down they really are because now they are afraid of being on the receiving end of a rejection and this time coming from the person they dumped.

Edit: I also think this is why they take a long time to reach out or you don’t hear from them at all. Ex’s would rather not risk heartache or embarrassment.

[wendydaniel]

Anyone who is an avoidant that "dumps" me better keep it going because I have kept it going. Not their shrink or counsellor...If the person is "secure" their chances of me giving them anothet chance is good. Avoidants its a wrap..❤

[cherylthompson]

Iam a FA and would never block or ghost anyone I loved.
My DA boyfriend had no problem with doing this. He's gone now but, yeah! He's going to miss me and remember me fondly. I don't need another man to move on. I can't ever trust anyone again. I'm not angry, just sad because I believe he was "The one"!

[taviastroup]

It's been a year and a half, and so far I haven't heard from my dismissive-avoidant ex. I haven't reached out either. He knows I love him because I cried, and begged for him not to leave. It was all about him feeling controlled.

[johnkaiser]

Don't feel bad Chris my 49 year old fearful avoidant ended us with a text.

[adoptioncorner]

Thank you for your honesty coach. Praying my avoidant comes back and working on myself 🙏

[hayday]

My ex texted me after a year 😂 what ashame, why they always come back these creatures

[JC-sguo]

This reminds me so much of what happened to me years ago. I was involved with a guy in a long distance relationship who was crazy about me until he suddenly wasn't. I was young and chased him some until finally moving on. 5 years later I was working at an office in Atlanta. Out of the blue he shows up at my office building. We were standing at an elevator and I was with my boss who was talking up a storm. I feel someone out of the corner of my eye staring and I turned and saw him. I was stunned. We all got on the elevator, my boss still chatting away, oblivious to what was happening. We never said a word. He walked out toward the parking lot. I never heard from him or saw him again. And there's no way it was a chance encounter because I could think of absolutely no reason he'd be in that particular nondescript office building. He was from another state.

[mrisa]

It’s been 2 months since my ex dumped me, absolutely no contact from her whatsoever, I do miss her from time to time but most importantly I don’t really care anymore on how she’s doing at the moment

[AugustusTiberius-tqgw]

My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. She dumped me and blocked 🚫 my cellphone. It's ok. It's has been walking on eggshells with my X. I have upgraded and leveled up. Living the best day's ahead.

[peterpiper]

I wish i had handled the break-up call better. I didn't handle it badly, but i showed that i was anxious and didn't want it. I THINK now the best thing to do is be cool and be grateful for the "dance" (country song). Meaning nothing lasts forever but be grateful for the memories and wish them well. Say if this is how you feel i guess it is for the best. Take care. That will throw them off and wonder if they are tossing a high value person away. Why is he so secure in this?? Best method. Ill do that if there is a next time. Hopefully find one and keep it going no break up.

[neressakotas]

well I do not want to hear for them. they wanted to leave. I cannot see the point of contact them.

[lmart]

Not all dampers are avoidants. Some just happened to have enough from the avoidants avoiding their half of the relationship.

[NikkiEdmunds]

I dumped my ex. It was inevitable that I did so. Our relationship just became worse and worse. We both contributed very heavily to the breakdown of our relationship. I called the breakup into action but he gave me lots of reasons to do so. One thing I can say openly is that I make certain that I am the one who breaks up with guys. I’m caught up in a vicious cycle here. I’ve been through too many destructive relationships, hopefully I will get it right and just get with someone who will love me just as I am.

[neressakotas]

don't have to worry about them thay walk away from you that it. just get on with your life move on forget them.

[Lady_Ra]

When I was a true avoidant I never looked back after breaking up with someone. I felt nothing. No nostalgia. It's sad but true.

[privatesenseisvlogs]

Yesterday morning, my ex who dumped me ( since he chose another woman over me) contacted me and he told me " I still want you in my life ". No reply from me until now.

Note : almost 2 months NC

[carmillemajors]

I was the dumper. I dumped my ex because he was taking me for granted and I felt like he was cheating so I went no contact for 45 days...during that time he jumped into a rebound relationship. (He is an anxious avoidant type) Okay now. The 25th of April was 45 days so I reached out in a text and...."Crickets". Nothing..Nada...Still not a word from him. I feel a bit embarresed. I hate I ever reached out to him. I guess after 4 yrs he has decided the rebound relationship he started 2 weeks after I went no contact is what he wants instead of our 4 year relationship. I thought it would make him come back to me if I went no contact but it did not so really think long and hard about it before you go no contact y'all.