Afraid No Contact Isn't Working? (Watch This)

Are you afraid that your no contact period isn’t working?

Well, what if I were to tell you that a lot of what you assume about the no contact rule is based on false data.

Today, I’d actually like to have an honest discussion on what the no contact rule looks like when it’s not working versus what it looks like when it is.

[alissabush]

The BEST no contact video I’ve seen!!! Bravo!!!

[azurebapiaries]

No contact always works weather you realize it or not! Self respect & dignity maintained far outweighs any feelings of loss...

[scotttyson]

The only way for "no contact" to work is for you to reach a point where you literally do not give a damn whether or not you ever hear from your ex again.

[kubel]

Worked for me. I was able to move on. Work on myself and improve. And when my ex contacted me I didn’t care no more because something much better happened to me.
So yeah it works one way or the other. No contact is not always to get an ex back. It is many times so that you yourself can move on.
I have moved on. And I didn’t care or wanted to know why my ex suddenly contacted me, because I’m a much better place now.
Did she want me back or just know what I was doing I don’t know. Like I said I don’t care. I wish her the best though ☺️
Ps. Just wanna say I was totally in love with her. So if I can evolve to this state and heal, then so can you. I believe in all of you.

[LifeonFrontStteet]

My last 3 relationships I have enacted the no contact rule and gained power in the walk away. They all came back! Each partner asked honestly why I didn't fight for them. The first 2 girls were 4 months on NC, and most recent was 6 weeks. Attachment and love are raw and strong emotions that cannot be ignored by your ex unless they are narcissistic. Self-respect and also more importantly self-worth has to outweigh your anxiety. Focus on yourself and without you knowing you will become they're best option! Stay strong 💪

[RoundSquareX]

Senario 1. No matter what, they were never going to come back.
Scenario 2. They would have come back only if you did No Contact correctly, but you didn't.
Scenario 3. It was a fake break up, the ex was coming back regardless.
Scenario 4. Beware, they may contact you, but ultimately they do not want to get back together.
Conclusion : No Contact is still always the best method. The moment they say they want to break up, go silent, say nothing, don't block them, don't change your behavior on social media, don't talk about them to a mutual party, Go Witness Protection. (Unless you have kids together.) Let them feel the loss, let them wonder if you cared at all. Don't jump for any bait, stay in no contact if they aren't serious about getting back together. It plays on their ego, and for you, it will only hurt you further if you contact them...allow yourself to grieve the loss but they don't need to know about it, because they don't deserve an ego boost.

[thousandmile]

No contact always works but only in the sense that you will move on eventually. The fixations and grieving memories fade and your ex slowly becomes an emotionaless subject of your past that you tell in the same manner you'd speak about any other part of your history. I know this personally as I've gone through and came out the other side more than once. I am going through a breakup with a woman I proposed to and lived together with and spent half a decade with and I know that there will be an end to the emotions eventually but only because I've been fortunate enough to experience it all before first hand.

If you're experiencing the pains and sorrows of a break up right now it's almost impossible to imagine what 'moving on' feels like. In fact, hearing those words often just cause more pain as it's indicative of a finale to a story you don't want to end. However in reality, the story is already over and you're just hopelessly waiting for an encore. The encore is not coming and even if it did, it will not be the result of your no-contact strategy masterfully being executed to plan. It may only happen if your ex has a change of heart at the same time that your heart is still in it, which believe me, at a certain point, it won't be. This is completely out of your control. You have no power over the thoughts of another individual through simply not contacting them. You do have complete control over your decision to accept a new reality and have confidence that time does heal all wounds.

[c.j.erickson]

I absolutely love that you repeatedly bring up working on yourself and outgrowing your ex. It really is the most important part in this process.

[manutdmadlad]

Needed this. 3 and a half months in. Trying to work on myself and build a better me for whatever happens.

[DeeLee-ryqh]

Wow I needed to hear this. It's been 4 days for me for no contact. First few days were hell.... But I realize I'm abandoning myself and putting way too much focus on someone else for external validation. Thanks for this video 🙌

[AikiraBeats]

I’ve learned that it takes time. Day by day your mind will adjust to just thinking about yourself and how are you feeling right now in that moment. I no longer check social media as often when the break first happened and slowly you’ll just forget that the person exist. And you’ll become the main character again.

[madlen]

It does not matter if they reach out to you or not, if they call or not, if they ask about u or not no contact ALWAAAAYS works because we all are humans with emotions and attachment so there is no way you can go through a break up without feeling some Kind. No matter who broke up or what, keep ur distance and just know that you will be missed in some kind of way

[bp]

You nailed it at the very end: people don't want to focus on themselves because turning the attention inward is hard. People don't like doing hard things. I have a different view than some and have been loading up on these videos 8 weeks into NC for kind of an opposite reason: I do not want to want them back. I'm endeavoring to "level myself up" where what I'm looking for and quite frankly the league I'm playing in are different. If they were to come back and say and do all the right things at some point, soft "maybe" that I would consider it, but that gets weaker by the day.

[carstenwemeldinge]

I started "no contact" (idk why it always sounds cringe to me haha) as a means to ultimately get my ex back. I started working out more intense and decided it was a good time to get my motorcycle license as this was something I wanted to do for a long time. Getting it made me very happy! After getting my motorcycle I met a great girl through the local motorcycle community here. We've been on a few dates and honestly I havent felt this happy since my breakup. More great stuff is on the horizon too

[fitforfreelance]

I think it's because they understand that they broke up with you, so they shouldn't really be reaching out to you. Either they were seriously de-attracted to you at breakup, or they silently miss you.

Meanwhile, you're in a high-motivation time of self-improvement, having more fun, building yourself up, and making yourself more attractive to everyone. You can't go wrong with that.

However, the ending of this video is the most important part! People want quick solutions and have outsourced their self-acceptance to people and things outside of them. That story about the person thinking there's nothing left to do but focus on themselves is eye opening and heart breaking at the same time.

You ALWAYS have to focus on yourself. Your health and fulfillment. BECAUSE that's fun. It also keeps you from being clingy, stagnant, boring, etc. Being someone you admire is the cool part of being someone your partner admires!

[scott]

It’s not about getting them back…. Some of us have attachment issues, it helps ME with healing. If I get dumped, that person doesn’t matter anymore, my mental health does.

[suukinsin]

The no contact rule only works if she has not found a better guy than you

[CH-ypby]

Its not that easy to focus on yourself only during no contact rule when you are going through a period of grief, not everything has a switch that they can turn on and off easily to allow them to not think about heir ex when doing activities for themselves to better themselves. You make it sound like its so easy to be able to focus. Your expectations on how easy this process is, is completely unrealistic and just does not correlate with reality.

[AugustusTiberius-tqgw]

I have moved on and rebound. Going to the gym 🏋️‍♂️ 💪, investing 💰, traveling and meeting good people. Life is good and God is great.

[veritevraie]

No contact works 100% of the time : you re-attract your person or you know that’s over. It’s win win.