When Does The Breakup Hit The Dumper or Affect Your Ex?

When does the breakup hit the dumper to the point that they actually feel loss and reconsider the situation to the point of giving the relationship another chance? Coach Lee answers this question and explains why the breakup impacts the dumper and the dumpee differently and at different times.

Video mentioned in this one:

[Sjshb]

I hate when people get on here with their negative comments. We’re here because we love our ex and want them back! Don’t come on here with your negativity.

[stevedavetas]

Reality is that no one that puts us through this misery deserves our time ever again!

[rickylevi]

Remember it’s not your fault they have been thinking about the break up before you even know....
they found new excitement it will only be short lived and they will come running back. Focus on yourself hit the gym get them gains reconnect with friends family to keep you afloat and remember you have a beautiful soul inside and out!!

[nadinegregorio]

Do not stay where you are not wanted, valued and loved unconditionally.

[kralpetarkrescimeriv.terpi]

2months and 17 days, full no contact, working on my self, workout, reading book, enjoying myself, praying.. I am reborn! Relationship failed (she didnt respect me and i gave 101% of myself for her while she gived me only breadcrumbs).. I will not be someone option while she was my priority. THANKS Coach Lee your videos reborn me ❤️

[joyjitsu]

Absolutely devastated at the moment.

To anyone watching this, just heed the warnings and lessons in these videos. If you truly love the person you must respect their decision, and respect yourself enough not to beg.

If you beg now, they may say yes, but it will be short lived and poorly repaired.

If you cease contact, reflect and work on whatever you think you did that was wrong, IF they come back, you will have a solid foundation to work from.

Do not make the same mistake as I did. If you're fortunate enough to watch this early, just pay attention to it.

There is nothing so special or different about your relationship that this principal will not apply.

[dacampernoob]

Me and my ex got back together 6 months ago but I still watch the videos. But the man is right for most part. When I ignored my ex and never broke contact she came back wanting to work. Just give them time to think and begin to worry. At the same time just live your life and have fun and go do stuff u enjoy.

[sanjeevkumarbagarty]

Believe me guys....never ever break no contact....if you do... you will they care about you love you then they will come back fight for you...it is so hard but we don't hae any option....be strong....and improved as much as you will feeel more confident....

[vivahate]

You were my lifeboat when my relationship sank 6 months ago. I learned a lot from your videos and more so, how my ex displays vulnerable narcassim traits. I went no contact and re-built myself. You videos, along with Jess Reynolds, Dr. Ramani and Narc Unscripted lay the foundations for my recovery. 6 Months later, she's reached out just as you said, pleading for another chance. Turns out the Grass wasn't greener! I was ready. I ignored her. I will always ignore her. I'm in a better place in my life now. Thanks Lee!

[nita_alva]

Let's just be real
If someone leaves you, it's cause they think they can get someone better. They're not coming back, they're gunna be chasing what they think they can get. Usually they can't get better though 😂 but they will leave a good person trying to get someone they think is better for all the wrong reasons (usually just youth, sexiness or resources).

[official_nick_knight]

Day 1-3
You want to die. You think you can't go on.
Week 1:
You feel betrayed, abandoned, alone, scared.
Week 2:
Grieving. You start working on yourself. You join a gym. Reconnect with old friends.
Week 3:
You start to accept things a little more. You start to sleep and eat a little better.
You start to wonder if this was mutual.
Week 4:
Not there yet. Will update...

Update Week 4: She calls. Why, you don't know. It hurts to hear her voice but it's nice at the same time. You don't make the mistake of getting angry or being bitter. You make sure YOU end the conversation and don't let it go on too long. You cry after. Then you do anything healthy to make yourself feel better. Hit the gym, get a haircut, see a movie, buy a new outfit, pick up a new hobby (for me it is flying drones and I'm seriously considering trying to learn electric guitar). This is also a sad week because it's officially time to have a separate bank account, separate life insurance, and separate cell phone plan. Be ready for her to blame you for what she's doing! "The one that's accusing is always abusing." You start to look at other girls but it's not right because you're heart is still with your ex.

Will keep updating if anyone cares! I know she's with someone else. I hate myself for still wanting her!

Edit: Reached out to Coach Lee Team...
I had a call with one of Coach Lee's guys "Johnny" and the dude was kinda rude! Like he just wanted my $! $3k to be exact!!! No way would I spend $3k on "coaching"🤣 I would feel so pathetic if I spent that money on coaching instead of myself! I could get a couple dental crowns I have wanted for awhile, LASIK eye surgery, cool sculpting on my belly, even a rhinoplasty would all be more reasonable then coaching, at least for me! IDK if I even want her back! She needs to chase and convince me at this point. I will be ok! I think I wanted the coaching for the wrong reasons anyways. I want to make her jealous and feel stupid more than I want her back and that's just stupid but it's how I feel right now!

[freesoul]

I pleaded, begged and suffered depression. I did it for a year and it’s time call it a quit. Best thing happened to me is I’m in a better shape and I’m now processing my paperwork’s to join in Canadian Arm Forces.

I never cheated on her we have arguments just like any other relationships. I guess when your partner is not matured enough to be in relationship it’s hard to fight for it.

I hope you guys will find ways to keep moving forward. Work on yourself and the right person will join in your journey in life.

Stay hard! -DG

[MrTadow]

Listen to Coach Lee. After 70 days post breakup I no longer want her back and have worked on myself so much I know I deserve better.

Take time to heal and move on. Choose someone who chooses you.

[Rigoletta]

No actual announcement but plenty of actions louder than words! Nobody breaks up without a backup.

[ShmoofWB]

Hitting the one month mark of staying true to no contact. Go me!

[TheJohnnyrack]

16 weeks no contact
Killed at first. Has got easier
Take the time to work on yourself. I’ve got my gym body back, stopped binge drinking and partying and left the job I didn’t like by landing a far better job with lots of big prospects

Concentrate on yourself and put the emotion, upset and energy you have for your ex into yourself

Now when I post a story I see all my ex’s friends and her “work” page viewing it

Change yourself and you’ll feel better

[johnscott]

Good day, everyone! Just wanted to encourage you all to continue to grow, don't worry about them. Stop watching their social, asking people, calling, etc. Analyze the situation and learn about what mistakes you made and how you can be better as a person, but don't put the ex on a pedastle. After about 4 months (been over 2 years now) I realized that I put her on a pedastle she didn't deserve, but also understand my short comings. Re-connect with real family and friends, and humble yourself. I should actually thank her for the breakup, best thing that happened to me. Pray, see a psychologist/counselor, etc. Build up your tool box and build a new life for yourself. You got this!!

[dirtysouthtiger]

It’s even more confusing when your spouse leaves without any communication and just leaves you in the dark.

[TylerSmith-dxpb]

Whatever you’ve got going on guys, it will get better. For the first two months I was devastated, but I’ve gotten to the point where I’m kinda over it. Just keep doing the work on yourself, go to the gym and lose that extra weight, just become a better you and chances are you’ll just feel it one day

[berrybestlifestyle]

Coach, I had a weak moment and broke no contact with my ex who dumped me. I’m disappointed in myself but I’ve committed to never making that mistake again, no matter how bad the anxiety gets.