Dumpers Experience During The No Contact Rule

Today we’re going to be taking an in-depth look at what the dumpers experience looks like during a no contact rule. Now, I’ve written similar articles to this in the past but none that wholly focus on what’s going on in your exes head during no contact.

In my opinion, the best way to tackle this issue is to look at the following things

Understanding that the question is more about what an avoidants experience looks like
Figuring out how the relationship death wheel fits in
Cross referencing the theory I’m putting forth with a real success story.
Enough talk, let’s jump right in.

[traelmate]

Chris, what I enjoy about your videos and program is that you state - straight up, that you could do everything right and still not get your ex back. This is honest, hard to hear, and a point of difference. Well done. The last thing we (going through this) need is someone (other programs) blowing smoke up our butts saying just do this....because when it does not work (and sadly there's a high chance), we feel we've not only failed at getting our ex back but somehow failed at not following the program properly as well.

[MIMIDSH]

He had already started with someone new about 2 months before he dumped me. Called it a "professional" relationship but I saw them together-- it was more than professional. Said I deserved better. I haven't spoken to him in 40 days. He's doing everything with her that he said he didn't want (commitment, scheduled/planned events) with what he said he'd never tolerate again- a controlling woman.

[madlen]

Can u do a video about avoidants coming back and why?

[dpwood]

My Ex and I were together 15yrs, have a 13yr old daughter, we've been broken up a year now, she got into a relationship right away that lasted a year. They broke up 3 weeks ago, now she's coming back around, at first she was telling me all kinda things, she still loves me, she flirts, kissed me a couple times, passionately made out with me, then she's gone kinda cold, she's still talking to her ex, she's slept there a few times. But she always seems to come back to me, then goes cold again. It's confusing as hell. I've just been kinda going with the flow and matching her energy, I haven't reached out first since our break up. I don't really know what to do 😆. Any advice or imput would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

[Enigma]

I wonder if this is relevant approx 1.5 years after the break up with only a couple of interactions approx 3-4 months after the breakup with nothing since then.. it seems like it’s all finished at this point

[irajessicalagua]

You know you both love and care for each other but she gave that all up because her parents aren't accepting she is gay. torments her over and over again. i'm on 3rd week post break up and not initiating contact. (i don't know if this is the right thing to do) she reached out almost 2 weeks ago that she wanted to return my valuables and so we can talk in person (break up only happened via messaging). until now, almost 2 weeks since she asked, no word on when the meet up is going to happen. 😢😩 i am tired exhausted and in pain. i know they are scaring her and I don't know what is happening to her rn. Help! I don't know what to do.

[Champ]

You look like you're going through a breakup of your own my guy.

[devineone]

He ended it with me and we see each other by chance and he is definitely avoiding me.. what could that mean almost like deliberately hiding from me. My last message to him was wish ya well in your next chapter. Scratching my head. Any advice

[daredevil]

How to deal with pride ex.. Feeling so egoic to move things forward...

[emilyclaes]

So we were on a break but I had a feeling he wanted to break up but soffen the blow, so I texted him after the 30 day no contact rule and we broke up officially over text, what now?? No contact rule again?? Will it still work?

[yellowtheresunshine]

How about when a DA monkey branches to the next relationship? Ive since discovered he monkey branched to me and after 18 months he left me for the woman he lined up. Do they completely skip over stages? Its been massively confusing.

[kyliemcginn]

What about the ex who repeatedly said he wasnt good enough for me and couldn't do relationships anymore in general? I moved out 9 months ago (he broke up with me 6 months prior and i stuck around foolishly believing we could work through it)
We have a son together so have been friendly since. I'm now doing no contact for my own sanity so i keep interactions short and sweet only discussing things relating to our son if necessary. Otherwise its a polite greeting and no more. My question is, whats going on with him during the "grass is greener stage"? If he believes he isn't good enough... I truely dont see him looking for another girlfriend.
I dont ever expect him to reach out, even if he wanted to. He's the most stubborn human I've ever encountered. I just wish i saw him actually feel something when it ended. We were engaged, had bought a house and had an 11 month old son. It breaks my heart regularly to think he could just throw it all away without fully realising what he threw away.

[ferencmondik]

Did you sniff cockain right before recording this video?