Self-compassion: a necessary part of healing from narcissistic relationships

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[McNerp]

Hearing you say “talking to ourselves” hit different… I spent a lot of time ignoring that little voice inside. I really needed this today. Thank you.

[suzannemckenzie]

It's not until you find people who are healthier than you've ever known and who appreciate you and are easy to please that you REALLY get it! I've found a few now who are and WOW! I'm recognizing ALL the work I did that was for the impossible. It's impossible to please some people and to have healthy relationships and it's SO Easy with others. I never knew this until just recently. What a difference!

[shaeholden]

Yes, self-compassion is a HUGE hurdle that I'm consciously working on right now. Throughout my life I've not allowed myself the compassion that I very readily offer to others. It's one of the reasons, I realize now, that I stayed for 24 years putting up with his classic narc abuse until I finally left. I'm learning to be kind to myself.

[latebluebird]

My turning point was a Ted talk: "the power of vulnerability" by Brene Brown. I learned to be kind to myself. and for the first time started defending myself against myself.

The broken vulnerable pieces of me needed me to protect them from myself. all the negative self talk, the disappointment. expecting too much from myself. frequently stretching myself too thin, being hard on myself when I missed my ex at times.. all that had to go.

I was literally hanging by a thread after breaking up with my ex.

After dealing with myself it became easier to deal with everybody else.
I was my own biggest bully.

The worst part I ever did was taking all the abuse and forcing myself to deal with non stop drama and toxicity just because I felt I was strong enough to take it, only to almost die by a thousand cuts.

[alexiaromina]

Thank you Dr Ramani for all the answers I needed and were not given by my ex-boyfriend ! So much love and peace send to you❤️

[jakep]

I have these moments every few months where I say outloud to myself “I think I need to consult dr ramani” then proceed to watch her videos

[rhifunke]

P.S. I don’t know if you read these or not, and this may be a very specific request, but if you could maybe do a video on why/ how a mother could possibly do this to their child, it would be helpful.
I’m a mother of three children and I can’t imagine doing this to them.
Does she not love me? Is she simply not capable of loving ? I don’t understand. Even if I did understand, I don’t think my heart ever will.

[michellefaith]

Today was a good day for me . I let go of my 3 year narcissistic relationship and gained a new blessing !!! A car 🥰

[rhifunke]

My mother left me with her two dogs, bailed on our rent together and is now engaged to my ex boyfriend. A guy I was still “best friends” with, since 16. I literally have nightmares about them together regularly now. They’re engaged after a year of living together. I am honestly struggling with everything right now.

[cymbolichuman]

You do have to care about yourself. (*love others as yourself) because you are important.
You may not realize how much you're needed by others. You might not see the contribution
you make in your day to day life. Just because someone (idiot who has no compassion)
dictates your life, ruins your friendships, tells you you're inadequate is not giving the world
as much as you're giving to it, by making friends and listening to their stories that may
be much like yours. Being a friend is way more important than being an enemy.

[bashibug]

I just ended things with my narc boyfriend. It was so hard to express any inkling of feeling when I drew my boundaries because whenever I did that in the relationship, he'd say I had a victim complex + throw so much vitriol at me, weaponizing my vulnerabilities. It's a process letting go of his voice in my head, but the start of a promising healing process.

[MrNikhilgherwar]

3 yrs and I am grey rock...just hangin in...can't div.

[KoolT]

I just listened to a talk by VAKNIN and he said therapist should be very kind to women who have been abused. To get therapy.

[Lizethg]

How do you get past the anger and resentment towards your narcissist after the breakup. I can’t get past feeling hate and anger and I don’t like that feeling. 😔

[Sylkis]

how do you do self compassion without self pity that is detrimental to everything and anything

[DennisNowland]

The main part of healing is to forget that the bastard ever existed in your life

[rasivi-baltimore]

Would love for you to hear my story of two narcissistic relationships around me..one my mother with a 54yr secret..and my recent ex who has too many issues to mention..please contact if you can..

[cosmicdust]

Asking from India, I don't know how to make payment from here

[trushadethe]

Can anyone please help me find a video where Dr Ramani talks about a Narcissist swearing on their children's lives? Please help

[nlvmruu]

do you ever have people join your program and realize THEY are the narcissist?